Every Man’s Battle Podcast

These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes kick off Season 3 with a powerful conversation on what really works in sexual integ...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟔 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In Episode 26, JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome betrayal‑trauma specialist Laura Mangin‑MacDonald to continue unpacking what to do—and what not to do—when your wife is triggered by past sexual betrayal. Laura shares 12 things men commonly do that accidentally re‑trigger their wives, including explaining too fast, logic‑fixing, harsh tone, defensi...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟓 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In Episode 25, JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome betrayal‑trauma specialist Laura Mangin‑MacDonald to tackle one of the toughest questions husbands ask: “When she’s triggered, how do I respond—and not make it worse?” Laura explains what a trigger really is (a God‑designed nervous‑system alarm after betrayal), why wives can’t just “get over it,” an...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟒 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In this QA episode, JJ West and Doug Barnes tackle two big recovery questions: Can years of porn and voyeurism cause erectile dysfunction, and can your brain really be rewired? And is there any evidence that a 90‑day abstention from sex with your wife actually helps recovery? You’ll learn:How porn and compulsive sexual behavior train your brain...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟑 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In this QA episode, JJ West and Doug Barnes respond to two deeply honest letters. “Terry” has been sober for five and a half years after porn and betrayal but feels emotionally numb, unable to cry over major losses or show his wife the empathy she deserves. Another listener shares that after an affair and a recent “almost slip,” his partner is d...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟐 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In this episode, JJ West, Doug Barnes, and facilitator Bob Sklar explain why Sustained Victory—New Life’s aftercare program for Every Man’s Battle alumni—is essential for moving from short‑term sobriety to long‑term recovery. They describe how weekly, counselor‑led groups become a laboratory for connection, where men learn real accountability, p...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟏 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In this powerful facilitator spotlight, JJ West and Doug Barnes sit down with Bob Sklar, one of the original Every Man’s Battle facilitators. Bob shares a 36‑year recovery journey that includes childhood sexual abuse, early pornography exposure, a porn‑shaped view of sex, coming to Christ at 18, harmful church advice, multiple relapses, and fina...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟎 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒 (Short)In Part 3 of their “Using Tech Safely in Recovery” series, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes move beyond filters and guardrails to the heart beneath your screen habits. They explain why the real battle is about desire, story, and community, not just discipline, and how authentic brotherhood helps heal the wounds that drive you...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟗 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tesIn Part 2 of their series on safely using technology in recovery, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes move from big‑picture concepts to practical guardrails for your phones, computers, and apps. They show how to combine device transparency, filters, access‑point removal, screen‑time limits, and handheld Sabbaths with deeper heart work so...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟖 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tesIn Part 1 of a new series on safely using technology in recovery, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes tackle a hard truth: technology isn’t the real problem, and software alone won’t fix your heart. They show how phones, computers, and apps become fast, frictionless ways to soothe unhealed pain, shame, and loneliness, and why you can’t s...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟕 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tesIn this facilitator spotlight, JJ West interviews longtime Every Man’s Battle and Sustained Victory leader Jim Phillis, recorded live at an EMB intensive in Washington, DC. Jim shares his journey from early masturbation and pornography in Peoria, to a dramatic Good Friday conversion, to years of pastoral ministry shadowed by secret acting out, a...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟔 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tesIn this final installment of the Key Elements of Transformation series, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes explain why you cannot do sexual integrity recovery alone and why behavior change without heart change eventually fails. Building on earlier episodes about grace, surrender, story work, and compassion, they now unpack how community...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟓 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In Part 2 of the Key Elements of Transformation series, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes draw on Gabor Maté’s insight that the real question is not “Why the addiction?” but “Why the pain?” They show how sexual acting out is a flawed attempt to soothe unaddressed childhood wounds, and they model a compassionate, curious way of revisiti...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟒 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In Part 1 of a two‑episode series on the key elements of transformation, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes unpack why sexual integrity is about far more than “not looking at porn” or “trying harder.” They distinguish behavior modification from grace‑centered heart change, emphasizing that without surrender, story work, and community, m...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟑 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tesIn this Season 3 “meet the facilitators” episode, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes interview Joe Elliott, an Every Man’s Battle breakout‑group and Sustained Victory facilitator whose story spans childhood exposure to sexualized media, decades of acting out across nearly all sexual boundaries, and a powerful turn toward freedom and ser...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟐 Show NotesFrom Dallas during an Every Man’s Battle Intensive, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their “Finding What Matters” series—shifting from what to look for in a woman to the deeper question, “What kind of man am I becoming?” They unpack why character, emotional health, and humility matter more than perfection or chemistry, and sh...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟏 Show NotesRecording on the road in Dallas before an Every Man’s Battle Intensive, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes explore something that shapes both sexual integrity and relationships: mentoring. This episode looks at why so many younger men lack mentors, how that leaves them confused about relationships and values, and why older men often und...

Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes equip men for one of the most critical moments in recovery: answering a crisis call from a struggling brother. They show how to respond with a no‑shame posture, deep listening, and practical support instead of panic, lectures, or quick‑fix advice.​You’ll learn:Why your first words should be, “Thank you for calling—you are loved and still part of the herd...

Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes get super practical in this episode, teaching men how to do 5‑minute check‑in calls that actually support sexual integrity instead of turning into 30‑minute gripe sessions or sports talk. They walk through a simple template—feelings, boundaries, triggers, helpful tools, upcoming risks, and a final honesty question—and demonstrate the difference between a...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣'𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟖 Show NotesLicensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes kick off a Season 3 mini‑series introducing Every Man's Battle facilitators by sitting down with Eric Thomas, LMFT. Eric shares his powerful story: early exposure to his father's porn stash, NFL dreams shattered by a shooting at 20, years of shame over his scarred body, transactional relationships, and...

📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Recording from the Intimacy in Marriage Workshop, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their conversation on acting in, the quieter counterpart to acting out. In Part 2, they move from definition to application—exploring why acting in matters even if a man has stopped acting out, how it often grows out of childhood trauma re...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟔 Show NotesLicensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes unpack acting in—the often‑ignored twin of acting out. Instead of running to porn or affairs, many men manage shame and fear by withdrawing, shutting down, stonewalling, or overworking to avoid real connection. This episode helps you recognize those patterns and see how acting in and acting out are two...

📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome back Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Marc Cameron, New Life LIVE panelist and author of Understanding Your Attachment Style, for part two of their deep dive on attachment styles and sexual propensities. In this episode, they unpack the Vacillator and Chaotic/Disorganized (Controller...

📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome back Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Marc Cameron, New Life LIVE co‑host and author of Understanding Your Attachment Style, for a powerful episode on how attachment styles shape sexual behavior and acting out.​In this first of a two‑part conversation, they focus on the Avoider and P...

START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their deep dive into the role of empathy in sexual integrity recovery. Building on last week’s episode, they explore how empathy creates safe spaces, how to practice self‑empathy, and how to sit with a betrayed spouse in her pain without becoming defensive or shutting down.​In this honest co...