Divorced and Disillusioned

Ever feel like you’re constantly apologizing, explaining yourself, chasing people, and trying to fix things you didn’t break? In this episode, I explore the exhausting habit of taking responsibility for everyone else’s feelings, where that need comes from, and how growing up in a culture of guilt and fear shaped the way I saw myself. It’s time to stop living on trial and put down the tools.

A letter to the people who have ever wondered how much more they can take. I’ve been there, too. In this deeply personal episode, I speak to those who have struggled to find a reason to stay, reminding them that they don’t have to see a future to give themselves the chance to reach it. Sometimes, we just need someone to sit beside us in the darkness and remind us we’re not alone. If you’re struggl...

What if you spent your entire life believing you had to earn the right to be happy? Raised Pentecostal, I’m unpacking how religious teachings about sacrifice, self-denial, and being a “good” woman shaped the way I saw myself, my relationships, and my worth. At 48, I’m finally learning that I don’t have to make myself smaller to be loved, sacrifice myself to be worthy, or suffer to deserve a good l...

You don’t owe everyone an explanation for your life. And not everyone who asks questions genuinely cares about the answers. In this episode, I talk about the difference between people who want the gossip and people who genuinely give a shit, why not everyone who feels safe is, and learning to be more selective about who gets access to the vulnerable parts of us. Because not everyone you ask to hol...

Sometimes there is no choice that doesn’t hurt. In this episode, I talk about what happens when you’re stuck between two painful options, desperately looking for a way where nobody gets hurt and everything works out. But what if the goal isn’t finding the choice that hurts the least—it’s finding the one that doesn’t require you to abandon yourself

What happens when you’re struggling and the people closest to you focus on how your pain has affected them ? In this episode, I talk about compassion, capacity, reciprocity, and the difference between being there for someone and keeping score. Sometimes we don’t need someone to fix us—we just need someone to notice.

What happens when you’re the one who finally admits a relationship isn’t working anymore? In this episode, I talk about the chaos that can follow—the hurt children, angry families, divided friendships, and the person who ends up carrying the blame for a relationship that may have been unhappy long before it ended. Leaving isn’t always selfish, and staying isn’t always selfless. Sometimes choosing...

What if the person I owe the biggest apology to is me? In this episode, I read a letter to myself about the times I ignored my own voice, abandoned my needs, stayed too long, and forgot to give myself the same compassion I give everyone else. Maybe it’s time we stopped waiting for someone else to say sorry and started saying it to ourselves

What happens when the people who hurt you are the people you’re supposed to love unconditionally? In this episode, I talk about setting boundaries, letting go of family members who repeatedly show you who they are, and why sharing DNA doesn’t give anyone a free pass to hurt you. Sometimes protecting your peace means loving someone from a distance—or walking away altogether.

Grief is the price we sometimes pay for loving deeply. Whether it’s a partner, a best friend, a parent, or a beloved pet, losing someone can leave a hole that feels impossible to fill. But does the possibility of heartbreak mean we should stop opening ourselves up to love? In this episode, I talk about why we keep choosing love, even knowing someday we may have to say goodbye, and why the pain of...

In this deeply personal episode, I share a letter from April, a listener grieving the sudden loss of her husband, John. She writes about losing not only the love of her life, but the future they had planned together—and the terrifying process of figuring out who she is now. A raw, heartbreaking reminder that grief isn’t just mourning the past; sometimes we’re grieving the future we thought we’d ha...

Who decided what a successful life is supposed to look like? Marriage, career, money, a house, kids, retirement—the whole damn blueprint. In this episode, I question the timelines and expectations we’re handed and talk about what happens when you finally stop measuring your life by someone else’s definition of success and start figuring out what actually makes you happy.

In this episode, I talk about getting older, changing your mind, questioning the things you were taught, refusing to go backward, and finally realizing that you don’t have to give a fuck about everything—or everyone. Maybe getting older isn’t about losing your youth. Maybe it’s about finally giving fewer fucks about the bullshit.

What if loneliness isn’t asking you to find someone else, but to finally find yourself? In this episode, we explore the hidden cost of carrying everyone else’s emotional weight, the difference between love and self-abandonment, and why letting go isn’t always about giving up—it’s sometimes the first step toward coming home to yourself.

In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when fear has evidence, when protecting yourself starts looking suspiciously like avoiding your own life, and why I’m learning to stop asking, “What if this hurts me?” and start asking, “If it does, do I trust myself to survive it?” Because maybe courage isn’t knowing everything will work out. Maybe it’s being fucking terrified… and choosing your lif...

At 48, my life looks nothing like I imagined it would. In this episode, I talk about starting over, grieving old timelines, letting go of expectations, and finding the courage to build a life that doesn’t follow the script. If you’ve ever looked around and thought, “This wasn’t the plan,” this one’s for you.

In this episode, I explore the different versions of ourselves we’ve had to become throughout our lives , versions that helped us survive, fit in, love, grieve, and heal. The people we meet often hold onto one snapshot of who we were, even as we continue to grow beyond it.

In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when tone changes don’t just feel uncomfortable—they feel dangerous. Not because we’re “too sensitive,” but because many of us have spent years learning that changes in love, attention, or affection meant something bad was coming.

In this episode, I explore the psychology of character assassination—why some people need to make you the villain, how that narrative protects them, and why defending yourself rarely changes the story. Sometimes the hardest lesson is accepting that you can’t control someone else’s version of you… only the person you continue becoming.

In this episode, I explore the feeling of wanting to “go home” when there is nowhere specific to return to. We talk about belonging, peace, longing, identity, and the possibility that what many of us are searching for isn’t a destination at all.

In this episode, I talk about religious conditioning, self-trust, and how being told you’re born broken can shape the way you move through the world. This isn’t really a story about losing faith. It’s a story about learning to believe in myself.

I think people would be surprised by how often I cry considering how functional I seem publicly. This episode is about private grief, public performance, loneliness, divorce, missing lives you chose to leave, and the strange reality that you can know something was necessary while still mourning it deeply.

I think there comes a point where survival stops being something you’re doing… and quietly becomes who you are. This episode is about chaos, emotional survival, nervous systems, and the strange discomfort of finally trying to live in peace after spending years just trying to endure.

Sometimes going no contact doesn’t just mean losing one person. It means losing families, friendships, routines, shared history, and entire versions of yourself in the process. This episode is about the grief, guilt, loneliness, and clarity that can come with finally choosing distance.

How many times do you start over? This episode is about dating after divorce, carrying grief and history into new connections, and the strange space between wanting love and fearing it at the same time.