Control or Be Controlled

What if lasting love isn’t about avoiding conflict, but learning how to stay connected through it? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Pete and Kalindi, who have been together for nearly 19 years, to explore what it really takes to maintain intimacy, attraction, and emotional connection over time. Together, they share the story behind Living in Love and the prac...

A doctor told him he would not survive. Decades later, Dorsey Ross has endured 68 surgeries, battled rejection and suicidal thoughts, and built a life rooted in faith, purpose, and perseverance. In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , host Darlington sits down with Dorsey to explore what it means to take control of your life when circumstances seem determined to control you. Born with Apert...

What if the patterns controlling your life are operating beneath your conscious awareness? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Ali Christos for a deep conversation about the subconscious mind, the higher self, personal transformation, and the hidden patterns that influence how we think, behave, and experience life. Ali explores the idea that many of the limitati...

What if the life you’re working so hard to build is actually taking you away from the life you want? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Danielle Vandehei, a mother, worldschooling advocate, sailor, and founder of WaterWorld Micro-Expeditions, to explore what happens when a family decides to stop following the conventional script and intentionally design a diffe...

What if anxiety isn’t simply something you have to learn to live with? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Dr. Troy Rohn, a neuroscience researcher, anxiety expert, and author of Brain Medicine , to explore the biology behind anxiety and where the future of mental health treatment may be heading. With more than 30 years in neuroscience and over 100 peer reviewed...

What does it really take to become a leader people trust? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Yosi Kossowsky, an executive coach with over 18 years of coaching experience and more than 30 years in executive leadership, including roles as Chief Technology Officer and Senior Director of Talent Management. Yosi brings a unique perspective on leadership, combining e...

What happens when addiction slowly takes control of a life that once looked perfect? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Nick Mechanic, a former Hollywood agent who went from making major movie and television deals to battling drug and alcohol addiction, drug sales, arrests, homelessness, and time behind bars. Nick opens up about how addiction affected his caree...

What happens when the life you knew completely disappears—and you’re forced to rebuild from nothing? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Hollyanna Vellichor , wellness practitioner, speaker, and creator of Bio Coding™ , for a deeply personal conversation about trauma, resilience, chronic pain, nervous system recovery, and the journey of discovering who you are a...

In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , we sit down with Mike Van Pelt , entrepreneur, five-time bestselling author, speaker, men’s mentor, and founder of True Man Life Coaching and American Family Renaissance, for a candid conversation about masculinity, faith, purpose, and what it means to become the man you were created to be. With more than two decades of leadership experience across cor...

What if one of the most consequential events in American history cannot be fully understood by looking at the official narrative alone? In this episode, Darlington sits down with Robert “Bobby” Doti , historian, scientist, and author of Layers of Complicity , for a deep investigation into the assassination of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and the hidden structures surrounding one of America's most st...

What if the confidence you’re searching for isn’t something you need to find—but something you can rebuild from within? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Kate Heartsong, author, speaker, entrepreneur, coach, Reiki Master/Teacher, and confidence and career coach, for a powerful conversation about healing, self-worth, consciousness, and creating positive change....

What if the biggest thing stopping you from being creative isn’t a lack of talent, but fear? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Rick Sorenson, a fine artist, teacher, author, and creativity advocate who has spent decades exploring what creativity really means and why so many people lose touch with it. Rick discovered something unexpected while teaching adults t...

What if businesses don’t fail because of one bad decision, but because leaders unknowingly create the conditions for failure? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Larry Mandelberg, consultant, speaker, author, and fifth generation member of a family business with more than 170 years of experience. Larry has launched startups, led a merger, completed a successful...

What can a 91-year journey through military service, corporate leadership, business, and marine conservation teach us about living with purpose? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Jim Paulk , a 91-year-old author, U.S. Naval Academy graduate, former Navy submarine officer, business leader, consultant, and passionate marine conservation advocate. Jim’s life has...

Most people see anger and assume it is the problem. But what if anger is often a signal pointing to something much deeper? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Ransom Kong, a former perpetrator and facilitator who has spent 27 years working with court-mandated men in anger management and domestic violence programs. After sitting across from men who were violent,...

What if the air you breathe every day is affecting your health and you don’t even know it? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Eric Klos, Founder and CEO of DailyBreath, to explore the connection between environmental exposure, personal health, and the technology that could change how we understand our own wellbeing. Eric believes one of the most overlooked fact...

In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , we sit down with Mitesh Jani , practicing dentist, writer, thinker, and founder of Selfworth.ca, to explore what happens when achievement stops being about what you accomplish—and starts becoming about who you become. For more than a decade, Mitesh quietly wrote down his thoughts, observations, and philosophies without sharing them with almost anyone....

What if improving your health isn’t just about treating symptoms but understanding the systems, signals, and habits that influence how your body responds? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled, Darlington sits down with Michael Upstone, author of the Frequency Healing book series and President of Keep Health Research, for a conversation about frequency-based wellness, emerging health technol...

What makes some teams thrive while others struggle—even when they have talented people, good intentions, and plenty of resources? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with David Lengyel , founder of Venture Up, to uncover the hidden dynamics behind effective leadership, communication, trust, and high-performing teams. For more than 40 years, David has worked with orga...

What if the part of your mind controlling your habits, fears, and reactions isn't the part you're consciously aware of? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled, Darlington sits down with Dr. Donald Pelles, hypnotherapist, author, and creator of the Empowered Self Framework, to explore the hidden patterns that can keep people stuck—and how working with the unconscious mind can create lasting ch...

What if the transformation you’re seeking requires going deeper than mindset, psychology, or conscious thought? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Jessicka Anne , founder of Artemisia Energetics Academy, creator of the Energetic Alchemy Integration Method™ , and host of the Dark Mirror podcast, for a thought-provoking conversation about shadow work, somatic int...

What if your company doesn’t have a data problem, but a decision making problem? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Kirill Schmidt, Head of Data and a data professional with more than 12 years of experience across FinTech, MedTech, SaaS, EdTech, AdTech, and IoT. Kirill explains why companies can have more data, dashboards, and AI tools than ever and still make...

What if the path to taking control of your life isn’t about controlling everything—but learning when to surrender? In this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED , I sit down with Dr. Victoria “Vica” Rader , pioneer of Quantum Personal Development and founder of YU2SHINE , to explore healing, personal transformation, universal laws, and the journey toward true inner freedom. Victoria’s work combines...

What if the hardest parts of your story were not meant to define you, but to become the foundation for something greater? In this episode, Darlington sits down with Lin Green , an award-winning community advocate, columnist, author, speaker, and business and nonprofit consultant, for a powerful conversation about breaking generational cycles, healing from difficult experiences, and turning adversi...

What if the experiences you’ve spent years trying to hide are actually the foundation of your greatest advantage? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Jordan Mendoza, Founder and CEO of Blaze Your Own Trail Consulting, author, keynote speaker, and host of the top 1.5% ranked Blaze Your Own Trail podcast. Jordan’s journey is anything but ordinary. He grew up watch...