Control or Be Controlled

What if your real estate investment could generate significant tax savings without buying another property? Many investors overlook the tax opportunities hiding inside buildings they already own. In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Erik Oliver , Director of Client Solutions at Maven Cost Segregation and a nationally recognized cost segregation expert with more t...

What if lasting transformation isn’t about pushing harder, eating less, or following another restrictive diet—but changing your relationship with food, movement, and yourself? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled, Darlington sits down with Sherry Shaban, creator of the Make Peace with Food™ Method and a nervous system expert with over 25 years of experience in health, fitness, and life coac...

What happens when the technology we depend on every day becomes a source of fear, uncertainty, and profound personal change? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Claire Sookman , transformational speaker and founder of Safe Kids Strong Moms, to explore her personal experience with electromagnetic hypersensitivity (EHS), the challenges of rebuilding a life after a...

What if the key to preventing addiction and mental health struggles isn't waiting for a crisis—but taking small, practical steps toward a healthier, more integrated life right now? Steve Ward—founder and Executive Director of STEPS Ministries, author, speaker, and coach—joins us for a conversation about personal effectiveness, emotional well-being, spiritual growth, and the prevention of addiction...

What if the secret to building a brand people genuinely love isn't better design or cleverer marketing—but understanding people, culture, and community? Joella Hopkins—President of Branding Aloha and The Branding Teams, and a proud homegrown Oʻahu entrepreneur—joins us for a conversation about branding, multicultural marketing, and why the spirit of aloha is more than a Hawaiʻi tradition—it's a bu...

What happens to human performance when pressure lasts longer than expected—and what if the first thing to fail isn't your performance, but your clarity? Savio P. Clemente—keynote and TEDx speaker, journalist, board-certified health and wellness coach, and bestselling author—joins us for a conversation about leadership, decision-making, resilience, and what happens when pressure doesn't simply go a...

What does it take to finally feel at peace with yourself after surviving institutionalized child abuse, addiction, prostitution, and the loss of your partner of 22 years? Margie Allman author of The Sufferfest: How Sex, Drugs, and Triathlon Saved My Life and Pilates instructor joins us for a raw and hopeful conversation about trauma, healing, and the tools that helped her finally create a life she...

What if the biggest threat to your practice isn't market forces, insurance reimbursement, or staffing shortages—but leadership blind spots you can't see? Daniel Neissany, DPT—healthcare leadership strategist, co-founder of Best Practice Strategies, and author of I'm The Problem: Take Your Leadership Skills From Toxic to Transformative—joins us for a candid conversation about how poor leadership an...

What if the most valuable asset you own isn't money, time, or talent but your life energy? And what if you're leaking it every single day without even realizing it? Karen Bentley bestselling author of the WarriorSTRONG Manifesto, winner of the Literary Titan Book Award, and creator of WarriorSTRONG training programs joins us for a bold, unconventional conversation about life energy, the ego robot,...

What if your recovery stalls not because you're doing something wrong but because your nervous system never gets the signal to stand down? Dr. Steve McGough cofounder of Women and Couples Wellness, inventor of the hi® massage system, and holder of six US and international patents joins us for a conversation about nervous system regulation, pelvic floor health, intimacy, and why the recovery indust...

What if the reason you feel confused at the ballot box isn't because you're uninformed but because the language is designed to be confusing? Keith Harris entrepreneur and founder of Ballot Beacon joins us for a conversation about voter confusion, the psychology behind ballot language, and his mission to make voting understandable again. Keith Harris is not a politician, political strategist, or po...

What if the secret to a business that runs smoothly even when you're not there isn't about working harder, but about building systems that make consistency inevitable? Marianne Page author, speaker, and former senior manager at McDonald's with nearly three decades of experience joins us for a conversation about predictable performance, Sticky Systems, and what it really takes to win the trust and...

What if the reason you keep regaining weight isn't a lack of discipline but your own biology working against you? Dr. Delali Hevi Medical Director of Zenith Health Institute, founder of Zenith Coaching Academy, and double board-certified physician in Internal Medicine and Obesity Medicine joins us for a conversation that will change how you think about weight, willpower, and lasting change. Dr. De...

What does it take to survive institutionalized child abuse, drug addiction, and prostitution and then become an Ironman triathlon contender? Margie Allman author of The Sufferfest: How Sex, Drugs, and Triathlon Saved My Life and Pilates instructor joins us for a raw, unflinching, and ultimately hopeful conversation about trauma, resilience, and learning to be comfortable in your own skin. Margie A...

What if you could understand both sides of the most divisive issues of our time without being told what to think? Steven C. Markoff acclaimed researcher, author, and educator joins us for a conversation about critical thinking, historical context, and his latest book, An Improbable Solution to the Israeli-Palestinian Conflict. Steven C. Markoff is an acclaimed researcher, author, and educator inte...

What if the reason you can't stop the spirals, feel safe in your body, or access your intuition isn't a mindset problem—but a nervous system stuck in survival mode asking for safety? Leslie Draffin—trauma-informed somatic practitioner, psychedelic microdosing guide, and host of The Light Within podcast—joins us for a conversation about nervous system regulation, feminine embodiment, and healing fo...

What if the answers you've been asking for have been showing up all along—and you just haven't recognized them? Kim Griffith international bestselling author, angel communicator, and the voice of Deborah joins us for a conversation that offers a strikingly different perspective on guidance, connection, and the questions we all wrestle with. Kim Griffith is an angel communicator and interpreter for...

What does it take to compete at a world-class level into your fifties, hold the most No-Gi World medals in USA Wrestling history, and coach athletes who go on to the UFC, WWE, and military special forces? Michael Kelly current wrestler, No-Gi grappling legend, and one of the most decorated athletes in the sport joins us for a conversation about training, longevity, and the stories behind a legenda...

What happens when a motorcycle crash changes your life in an instant and you discover that the very things that helped you survive can also help others? Nicholas Ruchlewicz trauma and brain injury survivor, mental health advocate, and avid tabletop roleplayer—joins us for a powerful conversation about recovery, resilience, and the unexpected tools that make healing possible. Nicholas Ruchlewicz is...

What happens when you look successful and steady from the outside—but you can't remember the last time you truly relaxed? Liz Coleman certified transformational life coach, Mind Shifting and NLP practitioner, and creator of the MindLife Reset™—joins us for a conversation about the hidden struggles of high-achieving women and a whole-person approach to change. Liz Coleman works with women who look...

What if the path out of Corporate America or into it runs through franchise ownership? Adam Goldman franchise coach, consultant, author of The Franchisee Lifestyle, and founder of FranchiseVisa joins us for a conversation about how franchising can transform lives, build wealth, and even secure U.S. residency. For the past nine years, Adam Goldman has helped hundreds of people transform their lives...

What if creativity isn't just for artists—but a life skill that can help you manage stress, build confidence, and transform challenges into growth? Mari Reisberg—therapist, performer, podcast host of the Sustaining Creativity Podcast, and creativity cultivator—joins us for a conversation about the healing power of creativity and how we can all use it to live more wholeheartedly. Mari Reisberg, LPC...

What if the secret to a business that runs smoothly even when you're not there isn't about working harder, but about building systems that make consistency inevitable? Marianne Page author, speaker, and former senior manager at McDonald's with nearly three decades of experience joins us for a conversation about predictable performance, Sticky Systems, and what it really takes to win the trust and...

What if the biggest conflicts you face aren't with other people—but within yourself? Jerry Fu—conflict resolution coach for Asian-American leaders—joins us for a conversation about culture, leadership, difficult conversations, and the challenges that come with navigating work, family, and identity. Jerry Fu started coaching in 2017 to help other Asian-American professionals deal with the challenge...

What happens when a weekend fling on a Mexican beach becomes a lifetime of shared missions—and then, decades later, an advanced cancer diagnosis linked to toxic exposure in Afghanistan changes everything? Douglas Beaven and Heather Beaven—veterans, advocates, parents, and co-authors of the forthcoming book Hard to Swallow: Don't Let Dying Kill You—join us for a conversation about love, resilience,...