Anxiety to Confidence - The Personal Development Unplugged Podcast

What If Life Doesn't Need to Go According to Plan? How the hell did I get here? It's a question I've been asking myself lately — and the more I think about it, the more I realise something rather interesting. Some of the things that matter most in my life were never part of the plan . Hypnosis certainly wasn't. Neither were some of the people I've met, opportunities I've stumbled across, friendshi...

How the Hell Did I Get Here? When Life Takes You Somewhere You Never Planned Have you ever looked at your life and thought… "How the hell did I get here?" I have. Twenty-six years ago I thought I knew exactly where I was going. I wanted NLP to help me become a kick-ass business person. Instead, I discovered hypnosis. And that completely changed the direction of my life. Then, years later, a phone...

What Your Unconscious Mind Is Trying To Tell You Ever had that strange "ooh… I don't like that" feeling when nothing obvious seems to be wrong? I've been getting it more often while exploring questions about my life, my direction and my North Star. At first, it's tempting to push an uncomfortable feeling away, but what if that feeling is actually unconscious communication ? In this deeper dive, we...

Why That Uncomfortable Feeling Might Be Trying To Tell You Something Ever had that strange "oof… something doesn't feel right" feeling? Not necessarily panic or major anxiety, just an uncomfortable feeling that seems to arrive from nowhere. I've been noticing more of these feelings while sitting with my puzzle book, asking questions and exploring my own search for a new direction. And I've started...

You know what you want. You probably know what you need to do. You may even have the knowledge, experience and tools to make it happen. So why aren't you doing it? That was the question that stopped me in my tracks. In this deeper dive, I explore a surprisingly useful way of getting unstuck: What would someone who has already achieved what I'm trying to achieve do? It's not about comparing yoursel...

A Question That Stopped Me In My Tracks Have you ever heard a question that made you stop dead? Not because you didn't understand it. Quite the opposite. Because you understood it too well . That's what happened to me. I was listening to Chris Williamson on the Modern Wisdom podcast when he asked a question that stopped me in my tracks. And almost immediately I started searching for an answer. Not...

You're Not Who You Think You Are Who the f*ck am I? That was the question that dropped into my head while I was sitting with my puzzle book. And what started as a bit of quiet thinking took me somewhere I didn't expect. We often confuse who we are with what we do . I'm a therapist. I'm a parent. I'm a partner. I'm successful. I'm anxious. I'm confident. But those are roles, behaviours and experien...

My Puzzle Book Asked Me One Question Who the f*ck am I? That was the question that suddenly popped into my head while I was sitting with my puzzle book. Not what do I do? , not what's my job? , not what role am I playing? — but who am I underneath all of that? It got me thinking about identity, behaviour, the different versions of ourselves we move through in life, and whether we sometimes mistake...

Why Goals Stopped Working For Me — And What I Discovered Instead I've spent years setting goals, teaching goal setting and helping people turn dreams and desires into something they could actually achieve. And goals are bloody useful. They give us motivation, direction and something to move towards. But I eventually noticed something: sometimes you reach the goal and still think, "Is that it?" Tha...

Why Goals Stopped Working For Me We all need goals. They give us direction, motivation and something to aim for. I've spent years teaching goal setting, visualisation, Timeline Therapy and even a little Law of Attraction. Goals work... but I discovered they weren't the whole story. A while ago something felt off. I was achieving what I'd set out to do, yet there was still a quiet feeling that some...

I'm Still Finding My Way – Why You Don't Need Your Old Self Back Have you ever caught yourself saying, "I just want the old me back" ? I know I have. I've heard it from hundreds of clients too. It sounds comforting because we believe our old self represents certainty, confidence and stability. But what if that's not really what we're looking for? In this deeper dive I explore an idea that complete...

I Want My Old Me Back Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I just want the old me back" ? It's something I've heard from clients for years. It's something I said to myself too. But what if that's not what you really want? What if the old you was part of the struggle... and what you're really looking for is the real you ? In this Five Minute Quickie, I share a personal insight that changed how...

Finding Your Way: When You Feel Lost in Life Have you ever quietly said to yourself, "I've lost my way"? Not necessarily out loud. Just inside your own mind. That feeling that somehow you've become disconnected from where you're going, who you're becoming, or even who you really are. In this deeper dive episode, Paul explores a personal experience of feeling lost after making significant changes i...

FMQ 536 – Freedom or Structure… Which One? Do you really want complete freedom? I thought I did. No rules. No schedule. Just the freedom to do whatever I wanted. But the more I explored it, the more I realised something didn't feel right. Total freedom can leave us drifting, while too much structure can feel like a prison. So maybe we're asking the wrong question. Perhaps it isn't freedom versus s...

Resistance- The Fear That Is Stopping Your Success Why do we resist doing the very things we know would move our lives forward? In this episode, I share a live training session exploring the hidden force behind procrastination, self-sabotage, overthinking, limiting beliefs, and the fear of change. Although these challenges appear different on the surface, I believe they often stem from the same pl...

What's Stopping You Reaching Success? You know there's something you need to do. A conversation. A decision. A project. A change. And yet... you don't do it. We often call it procrastination or self-sabotage, but what if that's not what's really happening? In this Five Minute Quickie, I explore what might actually be stopping us from moving forward, why change can feel uncomfortable even when we k...

Are You Thinking Too Much to Hear Yourself? Have you ever noticed that the harder you think about something, the less clear it becomes? In this episode, I explore the difference between overthinking and intuition. Not the mystical stuff, but that quiet inner knowing that often gets drowned out by endless analysing, making lists, asking everyone else's opinion and searching for certainty that never...

Intuition vs Overthinking When thinking harder isn't the answer — listening better is Have you ever thought about something so much… that you ended up more confused than when you started? You make lists. You weigh up the pros and cons. You ask other people what they think. You go round and round in circles. And still… You don't know what to do. In this Five Minute Quickie, we explore a powerful po...

If You're Stuck - Lets Move On - Here's How Episode Overview Ever had that quiet thought… "I've lost my way…" Not shouted out loud. Not dramatic. Just a whisper somewhere in the background. In this episode, I share something personal — a moment where I genuinely felt that. Like the direction had gone. Like something inside me had faded. But here's what I discovered… You're not lost. You haven't lo...

Why Are you Stuck? The Seed: You've done the work. You've read the books. Watched the videos. Made the plans. You know what to do. And yet… You're not doing it. You're not moving. Not really progressing. Maybe even plateauing. So the question is… Why are you stuck? Here's the Truth You're not stuck because you can't grow. You can. Absolutely you can. So it must be something else. Something a littl...

Finding Your Way: When You Feel Lost in Life Why you're not lost — just disconnected from your inner direction Feeling Lost? Or Just Disconnected? "I've lost my way…" Ever said that quietly to yourself? Not out loud… just in your own mind. That moment where things feel unclear. Where direction fades. Where who you were no longer fits… and who you're becoming hasn't quite arrived yet. It can feel l...

I've Lost My Way… … Or Have I? Have you ever felt that? Like something's changed… And the things that used to light you up… just don't anymore? And now there's this space… A bit of a void… And if you're honest… You're not quite sure what fills it. Here's the thing… I've been there too. And it feels a bit like losing something… Maybe even losing a part of yourself. So you start looking for a new di...

The Missing Part Of Success Why Thinking Isn't Enough (And What Actually Works) The Bit Everyone Misses You've done the work. You've read the books. You've said the affirmations. You've visualised success over and over again. "I've got this." "I'm a winner." And yet… nothing really changes. Sound familiar? That's because mindset alone isn't enough. In this episode, we uncover the missing part of s...

The Missing Part Of Success The Seed of Success Most People Miss We hear it all the time… "Think positive." "Have the right mindset." "Say your affirmations." And yes… that's part of it. But what if that's only half the equation? In this Five Minute Quickie, we uncover the missing piece of success — the part hardly anyone talks about, yet it changes everything. > It's Not Just Psychology… It's Phy...

What Are You Afraid Of Losing? Here's a question for you… What are you afraid of losing? Not gaining… not achieving… But losing. Because here's the thing… I've been doing a bit of deeper work on myself lately — you know, when life shifts a little and things you've always done… just don't have that same spark anymore. And in that space… that little void… I found myself looking for something new. A...