Handing the Shame Back

The Choices we make are available to us every day in many different ways, and we don't often consider the power they contain. Every choice we make creates an action. As survivors we didn't have a choice as to what happened to us - as adults we do. Sometimes we get used to feeling down, negative and victimised, and it can take courage to lift ourselves out of that.  In even one decision i...

Survivors needing inspiration? Look no further! Live on the channel this week: I interview Paulie Stevens who wrote the book You Cant Hurt Me, He was abused by a pedophile who was sentenced to 200 years in prison. I also share the Male Survivors Panel Discussion including Dr Keli Palfy, and my blog on The Choice is released. For more information visit us at https://www.htsbf.org (A link to our web...

This week we focus on the holiday season. This can be a really difficult and triggering time for survivors as that was when abuse could occur more frequently. Sadness and loss may appear on their faces, and show in the demeanour. Just love them through it. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information go to...

This powerful discussion with Louise Nicholas, Advocate, Libby and Kate from REOSA (ripple effects of sexual abuse), Alison Mau advocate/journalist and Jess Tyson (founder of BRAVE, charity promoting awareness and resource in our Rangatahi (young people) is both enlightening and informative. We cover many areas: Child abuse stats, our court system, group therapy among other things. DO NOT MISS thi...

Kelly and I discuss impacts of child sexual abuse from childhood through to adulthood. We cover off my childhood and the ongoing impact childhood trauma has. A conversation worth listening to and watching. HELP NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.           Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA  RAINN https://www...

Grief is usually associated with death, and therefore not often discussed in survivor communities, but what if I was to tell you that for all survivors, we go through the 7 stages of grief just like others who have experienced deep loss do? What we lost and the cost to us can have us reeling between denial to anger in a heartbeat. have a listen as this may offer some insights into how you have bee...

On the channel this week:  Panel Discussion with Louise Nicholas, Advocate, Libby and Kate from REOSA (ripple effects of sexual abuse), Alison Mau advocate/journalist and Jess Tyson (founder of BRAVE,  a charity promoting awareness and resource in our Rangatahi (young people. This discussion is both enlightening and informative. My blog on Grief, which all survivors experience, but seldom discuss....

This week we focus on Grief. The 7 stages there are and where your survivor may be, and where they could move to. There is no right or wrong, it just is. The stages are: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Upward turn, Reconstruction and Acceptance. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback  For further information go to htt...

The theme for this month with Chantelle is Dissociation....We look at how it helped survivors of sexual abuse as children, but may not be quite so needed now. So how do we use it, lose it or recognise the impact it has? For this and more, tune in! HELP NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.           Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Free...

Jim Heaney lives in Chicago, Illinois and is a survivor of child sexual abuse. He is an advocate and author of 'A Book for Someone', just released recently on amazon. His abuser targeted him while he was doing a paper route at age 11. Jim got betrayed not by 1, but by 3 different people during this young episode of his life. Watch his story unfold and understand the power of his mind and...

Beginnings can be challenging for survivors of child sexual abuse. If we chose them, they are less problematic, if not: our PTSD or CPTSD kicks in big time. They can trigger us and have us feel overwhelmed and hypervigilant all at the same time.   This blog offers some ideas on navigating our way through Beginnings. To get some more resources from Gloria, go to:   https://www.handingtheshameback.o...

Broken Pieces depicts what we as child sexual abuse survivors experience to a greater or lesser extent at random or frequent times, depending on what is occurring in our lives. We can feel broken for no apparent reason, but underneath, we know why. Our abuse, our trauma, the fabric of our being was destroyed and broken, and we can spend a lifetime trying to mend this and reapair the damage. The be...

Updates on the channel this week: Panel Discussion with Louise Nicholas, Advocate, Libby and Kate from REOSA (ripple effects of sexual abuse), Alison Mau advocate/journalist and Jess Tyson (founder of BRAVE, charity promoting awareness and resource in our Rangatahi (young people) is both enlightening and informative. Blog on Broken Pieces and Interview with Jim Heaney a survivor from Chicago, Illi...

Gareth Icke of Right Now (Ickonic) interviews me. We discuss my book Flightpath to Healing - A Guide for Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors, which I have written to help support survivors.  We also look at parents responsibility and awareness in keeping their children face, and the challenges contained within. A short but punchy interview. HELP NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334...

Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week, I discuss the 3 key areas of Reactions to Sexual abuse: emotional, physical and psychological. I list a few in each category, but please know there are many more and as survivors we often feel we experience all of them. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback  For further information...

Welcome to Andrew Pledger, a Cult survivor, and survivor of child sexual abuse. Andrew discloses for the first time publicly the sexual abuse he suffered, and looks at the link between being raised in a cult and dysfunctional family, to the sexual abuse he suffered.  He feels that what helped him in his recovery and healing from both the cult and CSA was; Validation, Self-compassion and Therapy. ...

Included in this weeks line up to the Channel: Welcome to Andrew Pledger, a Cult and survivor of child sexual abuse. My blog on Beginnings, and The interview Gareth Icke of Right now (Ickonic) which includes discussing parents responsibility and awareness in keeping their children face, and the challenges contained within. A short but punchy interview.  For more information visit us at  https://ww...

I put this panel together to highlight the severity of the statistics of child sexual abuse globally. On the panel are Maggie Oliver, from the UK, whistleblower. Anneke Lucas, fellow survivor and advocate from Belgium. Have a look and see what 3 countries and 3 advocates are doing. HELP NZ     Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Mal...

Tips for Supporting Survivors. We look at the damaged parts of ourselves, because they are a 'thing' and they do exist. As a result, it is hard for us to feel part of something and connected as easily as non survivors do.   #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information go to https://www.handingthes...

Dallas Pickering is a survivor of over ten years of sexual abuse in state care. Although she disclosed to a social worker and signs of abuse and neglect were noticed, she was repeatedly returned to her foster home. Watch her very personal and humbling story, as she shares her childhood with us. You can reach her at: dallaspickering36@gmail.com OTHER To get some more resources from Gloria, go to:  ...

Triggers are commonly experienced by us as survivors of child sexual abuse. They can seemingly come from nowhere, and usually depict a memory from childhood when the abuse was occurring. These can come in the form of one of the five senses and can transport us straight back to the experience itself. This blog offers some support and resource on triggers. To get some more resources from Gloria, go...

On Handing the shame back this week: Dallas Pickering shares what happened to her including being abused in state care. My blog on triggers, and  a panel discussion including Maggie Oliver, Anneke Lucas and myself. For more information visit us at  https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #handingtheshameback #survivors #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #ibelievesurvivors We are on all soci...

Welcome to Sarah Gallardo, Author, Survivor and Director and Founder of Sarah Speaks up, A non profit promoting awareness of domestic violence. She shares her story with us and is both transparent and humbling.  You can reach her at: Sarahspeaksup@gmail.com or go to: sarahspeaksup.org  To get some more resources from Gloria, go to:   https://www.handingtheshameback.org/  #childhoodsexualabuse #sur...

Dani Henderson, spiritual therapist  interviews me - about my second book Flightpath to Healing - A Guide for Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors, which I have written to help support survivors.  We discuss Hypervigilance and its impact on adult survivors not just as children, but how it impacts us to this day.  We also look at ways supporters of survivors can receive help to support their loved on...

Tips for Supporting Survivors this week is on doubt. Survivors may feel it is still is a part of who we are. Why? Because even tho we knew it was wrong, and felt it deeply, the child sexual abuse continued and our doubt was ignored. Result: We were made to feel bad and at fault. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For fur...