Zo Williams: Voice of Reason

Questions: Is there such a thing as cognitive or performative validation? Where does the desire to be validated by others come from? Is validation the new opioid intimate relationships? 1. What are some components needed for authentic reciprocity and validation within a relationship? 2. In the context of intimate relationships, what are some communication cues that indicate inauthentic validation...

Questions: Would you chose enlightenment over healthy romantic love life? What is the difference between chosen and called? Who are the Chosen, chosen by? Are the chosen more healed than most people? Can the ideation of believing that one is chosen be an indicator that one may also be narcissistic? Will any of us ever be completely healed, or is healing a lifelong process? Can God heal emotional w...

VOR Hot Topic: “Love Line Call In Show”: “Relationship Hot Seat with the Voice of Reason!” Questions: 1. How would you describe your most recent relationship? 2. What do you believe is your biggest issue in relationships? 3. Would you date you? Why or why not? 4. Are you a relationship pessimist, optimist or realist? 5. What is one trait that your current or former partner has that you feel enhanc...

Questions: 1. In what ways do worthiness wounds dictate devaluation from others, thereby prompting discard? Furthermore, how does the feeling and/or experience of being discarded lead to “get back” entitlement? 2. How can one differentiate between petty “get back” and valid justice/retribution? 3. Can consistent emotional neglect and worthiness wounds be the driving force behind pettiness and “get...

Questions: How to fight healthy in a relationship? What are the signs of unhealthy fighting in a relationship? How often do healthy couples fight? How does one have a healthy argument with a dismissive avoidant significant other? How does one have a healthy argument/disagreement with an anxious, preoccupied significant other? How does one have a healthy argument/fight with a fearful, avoidant sign...

Questions: 1. What connections can be made between repression and “whole self” neglect? 2. What are some unintended consequences and outcomes of FEAGO repression? 3. Can ruminating over oppression from others be used to redirect attention away from self repression? 4. Is repression a result of addiction to self imposed shame and guilt? Furthermore, how do these addictions contribute to the breakdo...

Questions: 1. What are some ways that self actualization can create disharmony within your closest relationships? Can self actualization in one partner trigger the desire to heal/breakup in another partner? 2. Which comes first: self actualization or environmental reevaluation? (Or do they work in tandem?) 3, How does an affable persona work to the advantage of an envious person? 4. Are niceties m...

What is anticipatory grief?

What is the non-duel cop out? 1. What is the “soft life” trend and how is it contributing to the present schisms between genders in the dating market? 2. Is the “soft life” merely an aversion to self work and the harsh realities of what is needed in order to grow in all areas of your life? 3. How does the inability to resolve relational conflict and spiritual wounds create an attraction to this tr...

Delve into the concept of selflessness and its limitations due to unresolved internal pain. can maladaptive attachment styles lead to transactional pouring into others? Questions: is it possible or beneficial to pour into your partner without recompense? Is discernment fear based? What does it mean to pour into others from an ego/fear base cup? True or false? When you start the healing process for...

Questions: are we all neurodivergent to some degree? What is Quiet BPD? True or false? Neurotypical partners tend to feel like their partner isn't willing to try harder or doesn't care enough. Neurodivergent partners tend to feel like their partner doesn't have enough patience and/or is difficult to please. Can two different brain configurations, i.e. Neurotypical and neurodivergent find common gr...

Questions: What is the inner critic, and where does it originate from? What does your inner critic have to consistently say about you? How has negative self talk become a self fulfilling prophecy in your relationships? What are the spiritual implications of engaging in negative self talk and how does it frame our view of the outside world? Can any connections be drawn between the acceptance of the...

Questions: What Does It Mean to be “Triggered”? Is the state of being triggered a spiritual precursor to being awakened? What are Twin Flame Triggers, and The deep pain and healing of Divine Counterpart mirroring? Agree, disagree? Triggers can make someone lash out or treat you poorly. If meeting someone triggers spiritual awakening in you, is the person necessarily your twin flame? Why do twin fl...

Questions: Can the over use of the Rose

“Weathered wounds” are composed of retroactive pains from childhood that combine with past and present relationship hurts. This results in a profound victim complex that can lead one to lean into the flight response as a way to avoid accountability and constructive criticisms perceived as slights. Questions: Does your pain, or unhealed wounds take priority over those of your significant other? “Is...

Questions: 1. What is a “Pickmeisha” and what are some common misconceptions about the term? Are PICKME’CHICKS Anxiously attached? Who are the ‘pick-me’ girls? The term is used to describe a girl who does everything for external, mostly male validation. “(She) puts her friends down in the process in a way that doesn’t seem like putting down her friends,” said clinical psychologist Regine Galanti,...

“I’m upset with myself because I gave parts of myself with nothing to show for it.” “If only I had…” “But what if I hadn’t…?” “Why didn’t I just…?” “If only I knew…” “Why didn’t I know…?” “I should have realized…” “Our action is based on belief, dependence, sex, ambition, achievement, success. Is there an action so complete it does not leave a single shadow of pain or regret? I want to find out if...

Retroactive jealousy means you feel threatened by your partner's past relationships. Feeling jealous about your partner's past may manifest as information-seeking behaviors like social media searching, but may also come up as constant comparisons, sarcasm, or snooping.

Questions: How do the various attachments styles affect how we grieve? Do fearful avoidant grievances come from fearing identity loss while simultaneously fearing abandonment? Can a fearful avoidant be afraid of losing an identity that they have yet to discover and how does that contribute to their relational dissatisfaction? Does playing along with the dynamics of the dismissive avoidant or anxio...

Questions: What are some examples of inattentional blindness within intimate relationship? What are the factors affecting inattentional blindness within relationship with our spouse? How does the inability to see the good things are partners do for us “inattentional blindness” affect our behavior? What are some of the potential consequences of inattentional blindness within intimate relationships?...

Questions: 1. Can integrity and honesty be quantified on a spectrum, similar to other human qualities? 2. How do cultural and societal norms influence the perception of integrity on the spectrum? 3. Can individuals accurately self-assess their position on the integrity spectrum, or is external evaluation necessary? 4. Is there a correlation between one's position on the integrity spectrum and thei...

Questions: How do you know if you are in a relationship with a crazy maker? What is the crazy making theory? What is the difference between crazy making and Gaslighting? What are the various types of crazy making in an intimate relationship? What does crazy making look like? What are the characteristics of a crazy maker? What is the crazy making theory? What is narcissistic crazy making?

“Mother, May I?” A look at the fractured relationship between men and their mothers. “Unveiling the Mother Wound: Exploring the Impact on Men's Relationships and Emotional Well-being@ Questions: What are mommy issues within men? Boyz II Men! VOR

Questions: What Is a Spiritual Narcissist? Will Spiritual Warfare Prayers ( exorcism ) Change A Spiritual Narcissist? What’s the difference between Spiritual Ego & Spiritual Narcissism? Are most PK’s ( preachers kids ) raised by spiritual narcissist? What role does the bridled tongue play in spiritual narcissism? Is the church a safe haven for unevolved perpetrators of spiritual narcissism? If...

Questions: 1. What correlations can be drawn between strategic self imposed silence and image control? 2. How does finding one’s voice contribute to the potential exposure of a partner’s mask? 3. What role does transactionalism and mask sustainability play in bridling the tongue? 4. Does image control indirectly influence attachment styles? 5. How does bridling the tongue over time contribute to t...