Zo Williams: Voice of Reason

Witchcraft is often associated with folklore, green women with pointy hats, spiritualism, tarot, etc., but an often overlooked aspect of witchcraft is intent and will. Whether in reference to spell work, gaslighting, deflection, stonewalling, or whatever other tactic you can think of, it’s important to note that the intent to manipulate and the power of will is always present. Similar to a street...

“A deeper inquiry at the potential negative effects of simply going through the motions in intimate relationships!” Questions: 1 Can “going through the motions” be considered a dissociated state of mind? What connections can be drawn between being on autopilot and CPTSD? Why is this phenomenon considered socially acceptable? 2 In what way does disconnection from our inner self mirror our disengage...

Novelty is defined as the quality of being new and/or original. Similar to the rush of excitement one feels when purchasing a new item, getting into a new relationship can have that same effect. The mind will perceive the new item/person as better than the previous thing, simply due to its novelty; but what happens when the newness wears off? Are we in a rush to end relationships out of the urge t...

Why do people conform? What is the strongest level of conformity? Does Love Require Complete Conformity? Regarding intimate relationships, what is the difference between conformity, & submission? What are three 3 types of conformity? What is the deepest form of conformity? What is inappropriate conformity? What connections can be drawn between conformity and the avoidance of inner work? How mi...

Why do people conform? What is the strongest level of conformity? Does Love Require Complete Conformity? Regarding intimate relationships, what is the difference between conformity, & submission? What are three 3 types of conformity? What is the deepest form of conformity? What is inappropriate conformity? What connections can be drawn between conformity and the avoidance of inner work? How mi...

Is Your Person Envious of Your “Anointing”? A Deeper Examination The concept of "anointing" often implies a divine or exceptional quality bestowed upon an individual, leading to unique capabilities or recognition. Envy, as distinct from jealousy, arises from a perceived lack rather than a fear of loss. In relationships, envy can be a hidden, corrosive force, particularly when coupled with psycholo...

Can attachment wounds happen in the womb? What is reactive attachment disorder? Does attachment start in the womb? Can reactive attachment disorder start in the womb? What attachment style do most narcissists have?

The Jezebel archetype is often depicted as the over sexualized femme fatale, however her allegiance to her weaker counterpart Ahab often goes under examined. Jezebel is as much the mastermind as she is the coddler for the moral failings of her husband. The Jezebel/Ahab dynamic creates a feedback loop where the desire to enable someone into loving you (using various manipulation strategies) becomes...

Can Men Be Vulnerable in Their Relationships? | Girls Chase Questions: True or False? If A Man Cont be vulnerable in relationship he can’t be authentic? 1. How does societal conditioning and traditional gender roles contribute to the fear many men have of being vulnerable in relationships? 2. In what ways can the teachings of spiritual leaders like Paramahansa Yogananda or Sri Yukteswar influence...

The Jezebel archetype is often depicted as the over sexualized femme fatale, however her allegiance to her weaker counterpart Ahab often goes under examined. Jezebel is as much the mastermind as she is the coddler for the moral failings of her husband. The Jezebel/Ahab dynamic creates a feedback loop where the desire to enable someone into loving you (using various manipulation strategies) becomes...

True or False? If A Man Cont be vulnerable in relationship he can’t be authentic? 1. How does societal conditioning and traditional gender roles contribute to the fear many men have of being vulnerable in relationships? 2. In what ways can the teachings of spiritual leaders like Paramahansa Yogananda or Sri Yukteswar influence a man's ability to open up and be vulnerable in his relationships? 3. H...

Definition: Performative caring, also known as pseudo-care, is when someone shows care for a secondary personal gain. It can be a form of pathological altruism, and can involve: Questions: 1. What does genuine nurture look/feel/sound like? How can you recognize the difference between genuine nurturing versus nurturing with a motive? 2. How can the preconceived notion that “women are nurtures” crea...

Questions: Myth: A good relationship means that you don’t have to work at it. What are some misconceptions about masculinity and femininity based on faulty love logic? Is your significant other responsible for your complete satisfaction and happiness? Myth: If partners really love each other, they know each other’s needs and feelings. In order for your relationship to thrive and remain healthy, yo...

Questions: 1. How does post-traumatic growth differ from traditional views on trauma and healing? 2. Can post-traumatic growth be achieved without first experiencing trauma or adversity? 3. How can the concept of post-traumatic growth be reconciled with the idea of embracing suffering as a path to enlightenment in spiritual traditions? 4. Is post-traumatic growth a form of spiritual awakening or e...

Is the expectation that your partner keep you emotionally “safe” motivated by your need to protect your ego? How can one better discern their own motives in regard ro expectations in a relationship? In what way can shielding your partner from their inner work be detrimental to the longevity of your relationship? What are some ways that we actively or unconsciously try to do our partner’s work for...

### Topic: "Killer Food": In Sickness & In Health! Can Toxic Nutrition & Mindset Equal a Relationship’s Demise? ### Holistic, Herbal, and Alternative Methods for Staying Healthy in an Intimate Relationship 1. How do herbal cleanses and detoxes contribute to a couple's quest for maintaining optimal health, vigor, and vitality within their relationship? 2. What are the psychological and emot...

What is the concept of othering? The process of othering can be divided into two steps: Categorizing a group of people according to perceived differences, such as ethnicity, skin colour, religion, gender or sexual orientation. Identifying that group as inferior and using an “us vs. them” mentality to alienate the group. Othering is a way of thinking about relationships and human connections that i...

Questions: 1. Is Micro-Invalidation a precursor to narcissistic devaluation? Can micro-invalidation be stopped before the devaluation phase begins? 2. What connections can be drawn between devaluation, micro invalidation and discard? Are we all guilty of using these tactics at some point? 3. Is it possible for genuine love and concern to exist within a relationship plagued by micro-invalidation? C...

Questions: is the gratification through frequent sex with multiple partners evidence of a codependent need being met? 1. Are perceptions on sexual discipline relative to our reality tunnel? How can incompatible perceptions on sexual discipline lead to instability in relationships? 2. What connections can be drawn between addiction and sexual discipline? Is it fair to say that those who have overco...

“Everybody abstracts a different reality. When you come through a room, you abstract the reality you’re prepared to abstract. You pick up the signals that interest you. Your brain records them and organizes them.” “We all have our own reality tunnel, and in our reality tunnel we pick out some things and ignore other things. And we got 10 billion cells in our brain receiving hundreds and hundreds o...

1. What are some indicators that a person is experiencing domestic violence? 2. How does the culmination of low self esteem, childhood trauma and insecure attachment styles develop into an abusive relationship dynamic? 3. What are some key components in breaking the cycle of abuse in a relationship? Are these components primarily dependent upon the nature of the abuse and/or the receptivity of the...

Questions: Do narcissists come back after final discard? How did you get over being discarded by your partner? How do you respond to being discarded? What is the discard phase in a relationship? 1. What connections can be drawn between mismanaged anxiety, devaluation and discard? Is the relationship between neuroticism (irrational anxiety) and the devaluation stage proportionate? 2. Do securely at...

1. What connections can be made between Robert Anton Wilson’s study of quantum physics and the ways in which we find fault within our partners? 2. Is your perception of your partner tainted by a neurotic yearning to uncover undesirable qualities that exist within you? How does this relate to “get back” and maintaining control in a relationship dynamic? 3. Are there any upsides to being petty in a...

Questions: Is there a connection between trauma bonding and victim blaming dynamics? Is there a cultural component to victim blaming? How does societal power dynamics play a role in victim blaming? Is victim blaming a form of psychological self-protection for the offender? Can victim blaming perpetuate cycles of abuse? How does the media contribute to victim blaming? Is there a connection between...

Questions: how does PTSLAVEDISORDER AFFECT BLACK RELATIONSHIPS? Because African-Americans live in a hostile/ toxic environment, a.k.a. America, do we still use the slave tactic of “appropriate adaptation”through the denigration of each other? Has this hating on each other? 1. In what ways do our current relationship dynamics mirror the plantation hierarchy? 2. Has your partner become the overseer...