You're Not Listening

A few years ago, I split one project 50/50 with a colleague. Same team, same budget, same authority — I made sure of that myself. Her half fell apart on stage. Mine didn't. For months, I kept asking her one question: what would an official title actually change? I never got a straight answer. In this episode, I break down what really separates the people who lead from the people who wait to be giv...

You're capable. You work hard. You deliver results. So why does someone else keep getting the leadership role? The answer isn't politics. It's the Trust Gap — and this episode shows you exactly where yours is. If you've ever been passed over for a leadership role and told yourself it was politics, timing, or the wrong decision — this episode is for you. Early in my career I watched someone hit a c...

Everyone says they can take feedback. Until they actually get it. In this episode, we get into why feedback is one of the most avoided conversations in professional life — and why that hasn't changed since the beginning of most people's careers. From boardrooms to interview rooms, the reaction is always the same: defend, explain, justify. But what if that reaction isn't a character flaw? What if i...

Have you ever watched someone who just seems wired differently? Someone who keeps showing up, keeps doing the work, keeps going when everyone else has quit — and wondered what they have that you don't? I used to think drive was a personality trait. Something you either had or you didn't. Then I looked back at a year of my life — I was sixteen, I'd just been dismissed in a way that cut deep, and I...

In this episode of You’re Not Listening , we look at one uncomfortable truth: you are going to suffer either way. You can suffer by avoiding the difficult conversation, dismissing the feedback, staying the same, and protecting the version of yourself that no longer works. Or you can choose the harder pain — the pain of honesty, change, humility, and growth. Through a personal story about facing ye...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like the other person just wasn't really there? Or worse — been on the other side of that, and not even realised it? I spent years thinking I was a good listener. I wasn't. I was just good at waiting for my turn to talk. In this episode I break down the three levels of listening that changed the way I show up — in my relationships, in my coachi...