Your Mental Breakdown

An incident with her daughter sparks Sarah's feelings of anger and powerlessness. Doug helps her draw the link to her emotional experience in the cult. Sarah is able to stay with her emotions rather than intellectualize them or try to fix the situation. They begin processing the feelings in session that she's been holding onto most of her life. Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB Webpage Join Us on So...

Doug helps Drew use a metaphoric pie chart to understand where his energy goes and where his stress comes from in his life right now.  Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB Webpage Join Us on Social Media:  YMB The Facebook Group YMB on Instagram YMB on TikTok

Sarah tells the story of her life as a teenager after escaping the cult she grew up in as a child. Doug helps her see where some patterns started with her only focusing right in front of her, staying hyper vigilant, and never dropping the ball or giving up control. Doug and Mer highlight Sarah feeling free and independent as a teenager for this first time in her life – and how maybe she can tap in...

From the vantage point of his new job and a regular paycheck, Drew looks back objectively with appreciation at some of the things he was doing for work the past 18 months. He gets support from his girlfriend/not-girlfriend as he finds his new speed. Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB Webpage Join Us on Social Media:  YMB The Facebook Group YMB on Instagram YMB on TikTok

Drew got a new job and feels like he's taking a couple steps back mentally but he's taking ten steps forward emotionally.  Although he's overqualified for this job, he has the perspective of feeling a sense of mastery in what he's doing. We look at concepts of success, balance, and confidence building. Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB Webpage Join Us on Social Media:  YMB The Facebook Group YMB on...

Drew is allowing himself to slow down and experience all of the emotions coming up right now rather than just "getting through it" or numbing away from it. He acknowledges that his roots at the bottom feel solid while at the top, he can be a reed blowing with the wind and not fighting it. He feels like an Evergreen, baby! Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB Webpage Join Us on Social Media:  YMB The Fa...

Drew gets emotional as he copes with a hard week in the midst of a depressive episode. Drew expresses that he needed the safety net of parents this week and didn't get it. He's now feeling alone in the world, questioning his purpose, and not feeling much hope. Doug helps Drew acknowledge that much of this is a function of being more independent and not relying on others to feel better. It's also a...

Drew is feeling depressed. Things are going good, but he's not feeling good. During this period of time, Drew feels like something internal is missing – he's not enjoying anything on his own and pushes back whenever Doug looks at his connection to others. Drew gets emotional and they are able to sit with the feelings of just being "in the grey."   Pineapple Juice is my safe word: https://www.yout-...

As a sign of vulnerability, trust, and the safe space of therapy, Sarah allows herself to cry in session and feel the loss of her cousin. She connects this with the loss of her dad nearly a decade ago. Doug helps her stay with the feelings and express what is coming up for her in these initial stages of grief.  Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB Webpage Join Us on Social Media:  YMB The Facebook Grou...

Drew is feeling lukewarm, anhedonia, and meh rather than being in the high highs or the low lows. He's understanding what it's like being somewhere in the middle and not being at 0 or at 100. Drew recognizes that he used to need a partner or his parents to validate his experience. Now he's experiencing being alone and not lonely. He's embracing having an experience on his own then sharing that wit...

Doug and his mom open with a discussion about multiple personality disorder and her previous work in therapy with clients coming out of cults. In the session, Sarah acknowledges never allowing herself to fully feel the anger she's held onto from her own upbringing in a cult. She is able to drop her protective armor in this session and show trust in herself, her therapist, and the process. Sarah is...

Doug helps Drew go deeper to explore the concept of a safety net by processing his all-in, all-out mentality. Drew goes to an emotional place when they talk about feeling abandoned, betrayed, and neglected by the inconsistency of his parents not being there for him. Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB Webpage Join Us on Social Media:  YMB The Facebook Group YMB on Instagram YMB on TikTok

For this episode, we check in with Drew, the client from Season 1. Drew wants to be doing more to do less, as he copes with the stress of his recent heart attack. Drew processes his parents not showing up to support him the way he needs and wants them. Speaking of which, Doug is supported on the breakdown by a special guest therapist – his mom! Doug Friedman YMB Webpage Join Us on Social Media:  Y...

Drew explores the idea of his parents as a safety net without dependence or co-dependence in their relationship. Doug and Drew look at the concept of allowing someone to do something supportive for you, rather than depending entirely on somebody that could let you down. Mer digs into whether Drew's girlfriend is really his girlfriend or not. Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB Webpage Join Us on Socia...

Drew comes in with a high level of anxiety after going to the emergency room for a heart event. Doug helps Drew process the anxiety in the session. Drew is able to bring his level of anxiety down over the course of the session. Doug and Drew explore getting support from his "family of choice" while processing the disappointment he feels from his family of origin. Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB We...

Sarah describes taking herself through worst-case scenarios to prepare herself for a situation, so she can avoid the shock and broken heart that might otherwise overwhelm her. That protective mechanism once served her, but now creates a disconnect from her actual emotional experience of life. Doug helps Sarah reconnect to her emotional self after seeing her cousin in the hospital and being trigger...

Drew describes what it's like to go through highs and lows by himself with the support of people around him. Doug and Drew explore what it means to have the validation that comes when we can say "thank you" and "you're welcome" without qualifying it, dismissing it, or deflecting it. Practice saying, "Thank you." Period. Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB Webpage Join Us on Social Media:  YMB The Face...

Doug helps Drew acknowledge and process feeling down in the dumps, for seemingly no reason. They talk about the difference between feeling depressed or being in a depressive episode. Drew explains what an "episode" means to him after Doug reads him a portion of a transcript from their session a year ago when he felt something similar. Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB Webpage Join Us on Social Media...

Doug helps Sarah process grief in real time after she just learned of a family member's failing health while in the hospital. Sarah is able to acknowledge having different feelings spiraling at the same time right now. Doug walks with her through some of the stages of grief that are actively coming up in the session - shock, denial, guilt, bargaining, and anger. Doug Friedman Meredith Levy YMB Web...

Drew looks at his new 26-year-old life as an adult feeling his independence and confidence growing. He acknowledges that his parents can still be a safety net. While separated from his current girlfriend, he tests himself by having lunch with his ex-girlfriend. Drew is actively building ego strength – he's applying what he's been learning in therapy by seeing things externally and making changes i...

Doug helps Sarah acknowledge that she is actively creating new neural pathways by doing things differently from her patterned way of being and doing. Sarah gives herself permission to see the changes in her behavior this past week as growth and progress in her therapeutic journey – it's not just a fluke! She is seeing in real time how defense mechanisms that were necessary for her survival are no...

Drew is allowing himself to be who he really wants to be in his relationships with family, friends, and work – as well as with his girlfriend while they're separated. He is actively letting go of old ideas and discovering what it's like to not go "over and above" or "put on the cape" to rescue everyone, everywhere, all the time. It's the middle way! Doug is joined by his colleague and practice mat...

We explore Sarah's conditioning from her upbringing in the Children of God cult. "Trauma is a radioactive spider that bites." It can lead you to develop powers of protection and systems of safety for your survival. Then we've got to learn what to do with that power because we might not need those defenses and protections in our life anymore at every moment. We also explore the idea of value – espe...

We explore the "systems of safety" that Sarah developed as a child growing up in a cult to protect herself because no one else did. We can thank those defense mechanisms for doing such a good job of protecting us when a threat was real. We needed them to survive and now we need to say goodbye to them in order to thrive. Doug helps Sarah look deeper into those systems to see two sides of her - one...

Doug and Drew explore the idea that being solo is not just not about being alone or lonely. Drew is finding his confidence and strength in life outside of a relationship instead of making that one person in his life into the everything of his life. Drew is calibrating "the middle" rather than going all-in or all-out in situations, both in his personal life and his work life. Doug Friedman Meredith...