Your Favorite You

Today's special guest is the one and only Maggie Reyes, who helps Type A women have better marriages, and to find more love and delight in their relationships. Maggie is dropping oodles of wisdom, a few truth bombs, and LOTS of insight that'll bring you closer to finding your favorite you. Click HERE to get the full show notes.

One of the emotions I don't like to feel is uncertainty. I'm willing to bet it's the same for you. We like to be certain, to be sure that things are going to work out as we want them to before we ever begin anything. We look before jumping and if it looks sketchy, we step back. I'm telling you, that's not the way to get what you want. Click HERE to get the full show notes.

You were probably the best student in your class. You pride yourself on being on time, top of your game, best in marks, most accomplished, get-it-all-done-come-hell-or-high-water grit. I call it Valedictorian Energy and I've got to tell you it's probably the energy holding you back from the life you want . Click HERE to get the full show notes.

As women we have been programmed to be ones who makes life better for others, and the perpetual people-pleaser that we think we have to take ownership of.  It's not about me over you, or vice versa. It's about reciprocity. Relationship. And it starts with recognizing what you want and trusting yourself to give it a try. It's not easy or comfortable to believe that we can let go of t...

This Valentine's Day episode I am joined by a very special guest, my second most-favorite person in the world: my husband Jon. In this no-holds barred conversation, we're talking about some of the challenges and personal struggles we've faced in our marriage, as well some of the things we've learned to help turn things around so that we can really be Our Favorite Us. It's...

We believe the story pretty universally that quitters are losers. However, it is also true that it's sometimes in our best interest to quit.  There are also times in our life when we definitely will not benefit by quitting, so how do we know when it's the right decision to quit and when it's the right decision to keep going? Click HERE to get the full show notes.

In this episode, I address the idea that letting something be easy is somehow inherently bad, and that working yourself to the bone for something, having it be hard is somehow more commendable. Some of my clients actually look for ways to make things harder on themselves so that they can feel better about having the life that they have.  It is not lazy to rest and take care of yourself. It is not...

A lot of us live our lives from accomplishment to accomplishment, going from one achievement to the next with little thought. And I'm here to say it sucks . It sucks because we presume so much of our value and worth from the doing, and miss the whole point of being, living, celebrating, and discovering. In this episode of the Your Favorite You Podcast , I share six things wrong with the idea...

It turns out that the "acceptance cycle" leads to serenity peace and wisdom, and that it is not just a one and done experience. This cycle is a continuum, and the universe keeps providing us with opportunities to grow and to heal and to get it right. The more we accept ourself for who we are, the easier it becomes to accept others for who they are.  Click HERE to get the full show notes.

This episode is about what I would tell you to do differently if I was still your pediatrician today. Some of these things will be vastly different from what I told you in my medical practice, and have likely not done any irreparable harm, but I do want you to know that my stance has changed as I have learned from other coaches, parenting experts and from psychologists. Click HERE to get the full...

We have a very special guest again this week, one of my OG clients. Her name is Kim Orr. I have had the pleasure of knowing Kim for many, many years, and by the end of this podcast, you're going to love her as much as I do. Kim is a wife, mom, nurse, business owner and Yogi on a journey to love herself exactly the way she is, and in this episode she shares the impact coaching with me has had...

Most of us who've mastered a craft, career or a hobby, know that there's a phase of being a beginner that feels so uncomfortable and stressful, and it takes efforting just to get good at it. Most of us think of learning a new skill as a linear process, and in this episode we explore the concept of the "Learning U," developed by Dr. Kemia Sarraf, who teaches trauma-responsive co...

So many of my clients come to me with very little pleasure in their day-to-day lives, and I want to change that. Research suggests that prioritizing pleasure correlates with greater emotional wellbeing, at least in the short run. Simple pleasures are part of a good life. They help make life worth living. Who here does not want to have a life worth living? Imagine spending your time with people who...

I used to have a story that it was hard to make friends as an adult woman, and believed I was different from the other moms in my vicinity because I had a full-time job and many of the other moms were stay at home moms.  I thought I might be "too much" for some people if I was truly myself with the people I was meeting. The step to overcoming the story, and becoming my favorite version o...

Today we have a very special episode. It is the original interview with one of my OG clients who is a complete badass. If you've been following me on social media, or if you've listened to previous podcasts, I have already shouted this amazing woman, Nicole Plantner out multiple times. I am so inspired by her, and the person that she was before she came to coaching, and certainly her new...

Being a human really does take a village, and so many of us are out here trying to be all things to all people. In order to heal or fix something, you have to see it first. Then you figure out what is in your control, the role that you want to play, and then you do that. We have been socialized for years to think that we have to beat ourselves up to get stuff done. To achieve self-compassion was n...

I firmly believe that the universe gives you little whispers, and then if you don't listen to the whispers, the universe gets louder and louder until it's practically shouting at you. In my experience, if many of us ever knew "the how" of acquiring or achieving anything that's worth having, we would never sign up for it. The how reveals itself only in the doing. Thinking y...

We only have this one life that we're living right now, and the relationship you have with yourself is the only one that lasts for your entire life here on earth. No one is coming to save you or force you to make your relationship with yourself better. One of the most fun things that happens when you start living your life for you, is that other people start to learn from your example. They s...

Loving yourself just as you are seems impossible when you've lived a life where you are taught to tie your achievements to yourself. Recognize that you have always been lovable and that nothing can change this. What you do and what you have done for others does not have the power to make you more lovable and it does not have the power to make you less lovable either. Click HERE to get the ful...

One of the keys to having a full life that you're not constantly trying to avoid or not constantly trying to do things to make life more tolerable, is to actually feel ALL your f*cking feelings. Many of us were told at some point in our childhood over and over again that big feelings were to be avoided at all costs. We were hushed when we were too excited, or we were ashamed for feeling sadne...

As I've gained compassion for myself and wisdom about why I was so fixated on controlling everything in my life, I came up with the term “control enthusiasm.”  I used to think that in order to be happy, I had to control everyone else I cared about and make it so that they were happy too, or at least pretending to be happy for my sake.  Once we start approving ourself, no matter the outcome, n...

We all people-please, because we want other people to like us, or it wasn't safe for us, not to people-please when we were younger. This behavior causes us do things to make other people happy so that they will ultimately like us, or not abandon us, which of course is one of our greatest fears.  Most of us were raised to think that being selfless and doing for others was more important than d...

Perfectionism is the belief that something is actually broken. The problem is not that we do these things, it's that we keep doing them. No one likes a perfectionist, and probably, especially the perfectionist doesn't like herself.  We have been sold a bill of goods that success is linear, and that success breeds success, and the goal is to have success after success. What if instead, th...

My first episode of your favorite is here at last. I'm thinking of this podcast as a love letter to me prior to coaching, I'm thinking of it as a love letter to future me, and to my boys. I'm also intending it to be a love letter to my past clients, my current clients, and to all of you, hopefully my future clients. I'm going to give you an overview of the things that have chan...

Welcome to Your Favorite You Podcast with Melissa Parsons, pediatrician turned life coach. The purpose of this podcast is to help brilliant women like you with beautiful brains to create the life you've been dreaming of with intention so you can find your favorite version of you. Melissa holds the titles of wife, mom, daughter, sister, and friend of many. She became a certified life coach aft...