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On December 3rd, 2012, Anna’s mum passed away. It fucking sucked. A lot has happened in the 13 years since, and as Anna says, living in the world without her does get easier—even if only in such tiny increments you barely notice. Still, grief is personal and unruly, and the only real way through it is to keep showing up for whatever you’re feeling in the moment. In this episode, we read the letter...

This week, we talk about Anna’s mum, Vera, and wonder what she might think of our podcast. An excellent storyteller herself, she and Anna share a deep interest in people. But how would she feel about us sharing her story? We’ll never know for sure, though we get the sense she’s cheering us on. We also talk about the difficulty of living in the in-between—witnessing someone you love move through an...

This week, we get into how, in our early adulthood, we were desperately trying to be “real grownups.” But now, in our mid-adulthood, the real trick seems to be learning how to be kids again. We talk about the trap of trying to be right or perfect, and how much better life gets when you can laugh at the detours, let go of the plan, and treat your mistakes as lessons instead of weapons. Get full acc...

This week, we’re joined by reporter and journalist Alison Hall. We had such a fun and real conversation with Alison about vulnerability as a super power, what her experience with cancer taught her about giving and receiving support, and how to invest in friendships that make you part of a community. Alison is a correspondent for Inside Edition, where she became the first producer in the show’s his...

This week, some surprising parallels between our lives in 2012 and 2025 lead us into a conversation about childhood games, seeking answers in unexpected places, and dancing our way into healing. As usual, we try to help each other untangle the questions that never seem to go away — like why we have breakthroughs and then immediately forget everything we learned, and which practices actually help k...

This week, we’re talking about waiting, those in-between liminal spaces, and the biggest transition of all: death. Anna writes about waiting for her mom to make that crossing, and what it means to sit with the unknown. It’s tender and a little heavy, but we also talk about how facing death and our fear of it can make us more awake to life and the people we love right now. Get full access to YOUR C...

In a shocking twist for this friendship podcast, this week we’re talking about friends. Our friendships shape so much of who we are, so why don’t we talk more about how to care for them? Romantic love gets all the advice columns and grand gestures, but what about the people who’ve seen us through everything? We talk about the grief that comes along with fading friendships, dig into why keeping cur...

This week, we have a ready-for-television interlude in our letters. Anna has a very surprising encounter in a hospital elevator, and Sarah remembers some darkly satisfying dreams. This exchange from 2012 is a welcome distraction from the heaviness Anna was dealing with at the time - her mother’s terminal cancer. Plus, we ask each other for some advice! Tune in for some unhinged solutions for deali...

This week, we enter the chapter where Anna’s mother begins her end-of-life journey. After a few months back in New York, Anna learns her mother’s health has taken a sudden turn, and she returns to London to be with her in her final weeks. We talk about how the instinct to protect someone from the truth can come from love—but how honesty is often the deepest form of care. We also explore how we kee...

This week, we talk about belonging, sex as self-discovery, and learning from struggle. From feeling like an outsider to smashing the porcelain shell, we explore what it means to grow into who we really are. Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we talk about how good sex can ground us in our bodies, quiet the overthinking, and teach us what we actually want. We unpack the tug-of-war between following the path we’re “supposed to” take and carving our own way, and wonder how much of life is planning and goal-setting versus letting go and seeing where desire leads. Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybest...

In this episode, we dig into the pain of being seen only through an old lens — how family can lock us into outdated versions of ourselves and weaponize our deepest insecurities. We talk about what it means to lose yourself in those dynamics, the tug-of-war between self-respect and obligation, and why the people who know us best can sometimes cut the deepest. Plus, we revisit the strange era of Fac...

This week, we’re digging into the kind of anxiety that comes from twisting yourself into knots to avoid conflict, ignoring your gut, and convincing yourself you’re “fine” when you’re actually one tequila shot away from a full-on spiral. Sarah shares what it’s like to lose her mind quietly while playing it cool on the outside, and Anna talks about trying to keep the peace with her family while walk...

This week, we’re unpacking the fantasy version of life versus reality. What happens when life doesn’t match the movie playing in our heads? And what about those moments when we have to crash back down to earth after a trip to cloud nine? Whether we’re trying to escape our current reality or cling to fleeting joy, we’re learning what it means to surrender the illusion of control. Get full access to...

With so much of this podcast dedicated to big feelings and tough life moments, we thought it was time to call in some expert guidance. This week, we’re thrilled to be joined by clinical psychologist and therapist Dr. Matt Poon. Together, we dig into guilt and shame, why no emotion is inherently bad, how friendship can carry us through the hardest times, and what it really means to give ourselves g...

We’ve all got those late-night cringe memories - the ones that make you want to bury your head under the pillow forever. But maybe we don’t need to hang on to that shame. Sometimes the cure is blurting it all out to your best friend… and having them turn it into a celebration instead of a scar. Plus, a rigorous debate on coffee, and we reveal our first crushes. Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST F...

How soon is too soon to say “I love you”? And what happens if the other person doesn’t say it back? In this week’s episode, we dive back into our 2012 letters to unpack big leaps of faith, the messy magic of letting your heart lead, and the eternal struggle between craving freedom and needing control (spoiler: you can’t have both). All this nostalgia for our 20s has us revisiting the ultimate NYC...

This week’s letters were a little lighter, so we took the opportunity to reflect on what this project has meant to us, both when we were writing the letters in our early 20s and now, doing the podcast in our 30s. We also had some fun with rapid-fire style questions (which, unsurprisingly, were answered in a very non-rapid way). Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.sub...

When life gets overwhelmed with practicalities instead of passion, how do we invite our joy to take back the wheel? This week we talk about navigating the uncomfortable gap between what we’d like our lives to look like, and the reality of the here and now. If you’ve ever felt the frustration of being a creative who has to spend most of their time not doing what you love to make ends meet, this epi...

When someone tries to define your story for you, how do you flip the narrative? This week, we’re talking self-confidence and the tricky art of pushing back when someone serves you a “harsh truth” that’s really just confirmation of your worst fears. Plus: we revisit some dodgy early auditions, being a woman in the entertainment industry, and why we’re very grateful for the rise of intimacy coordina...

Can our pets tell time? More importantly, will Sarah ever make it through an episode without talking about her dog? (Spoiler alert - probably not.) In addition to these very important questions, this week we talk about what makes a good person, the complexities of caretaking, and try to figure out how to be more present in a world that is constantly yanking at our attention. Maybe everything would...

Newsflash - the universe is expanding, and we’re not handling that information well. In this episode, we dive into the concept of home: how you can’t ever really go back, but sometimes being with your parents feels like a weird little time warp that lets you play kid again (mentally, at least). We also get into body autonomy and what it means to claim agency over your own pleasure. Does anyone kno...

This week we were both in our feelings, and you know what? That’s okay. We talk through letting go of cynicism (even if it means risking heartbreak) and get honest about difficult mother-daughter dynamics and the cult of diet culture. Fair warning - we discuss eating disorders and our personal experiences with them. We know it’s a tricky subject so skip this one if that’s what’s best for your own...

This week we discuss what it feels like to throw all caution to the wind and say yes to life’s adventures, what’s lost when we don’t tell the whole truth (even if it’s a hard one) and what it’s like to live in the grey areas. Plus, Anna shares some excellent advice about how to connect with people you’ve just met. Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subs...

We didn’t grow up religious — but that didn’t stop us from having an existential crisis about it. This episode is a spiral: into belief, identity, self-sabotage, and the terrifying possibility that we might just be... boring. It’s awkward, chaotic, kind of sad, kind of funny — basically, church. Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe