Your Adult Child: How to Raise Your Kids so You Don't Have to Raise Your Grandkids

Do you know what kind of music your kid listens to, or the effects it has on them? What do you do when you find out what they’re listening to... and it's not good? Parents, you can use your relationship to help your kid be aware of the effects it has on themselves and relationships. Be curious, establish clear, strong boundaries, and help them be accountable -- then let them make their choice.&nbs...

The answer to one of the most common questions that parents have when they're stressed...  How do you get your kid to do hard things?  Listen to hear key truths and principles you can practice as a parent that will help your kid be able to do hard things.  Reach out or contact... -Visit the website Structured Therapeutic Housing in Cedar City | Outpatient Therapy Service (irongateth...

It doesn't take more than what you're already doing, just an awareness for it and willingness to choose it when the opportunity arises.  Remember to play!  Play is an important part of living a balanced life (see "Balance with Others episode published on 3/28/22). Although turning to a consumption of comfort seems to be the easiest thing to do when the opportunity presents itself, you'll...

When it comes to helping your kid follow through, show up in a more clear and compassionate space -- where it’s not about you. Three tips that will help you interact with you kid when following through is a problem. Learn what Kade and Shauna say you can do to create natural consequences vs. punishment as a parent.  Ease the strain of anxiety, depression, or addiction for you or a loved one....

Have meaningful conversations and interactions about God, faith, and the meaningful role it can play in your kids' life.   If faith and God play an important role in your life, you'll most likely want that for your child, but sometimes we get in our own way because of fear and worry. Learn about some of the effective way you can handle this, sometimes tedious, situation and principles you can...

When your kid gets ready to leave your house, what's more important: accomplishments or capacity?  Which one do you focus on?  Always doing your best is not about doing things perfectly, but it does have to do with effort. It's not about the results or accomplishments you or your children achieve, but it is about the capacity you develop to create meaningful experiences.  Ease the s...

Something to consider asking you kid(s) -Where am I misunderstanding you? -What am I getting wrong about you and things going on in your life?  Everyone knows how it feels to be "missed" (not heard or misunderstood) and sometimes it happens to kids when assumptions are made.  Ease the strain of anxiety, depression, or addiction for you or a loved one. Reach out or contact if you or someo...

How do you know when you're taking things personally?  What effect does it have on your relationships, especially relationships with your kids?  Not taking things personally might be one of the most difficult tasks we're delt as parents, but with the right tools and a good understanding of some guiding principles, you can let this agreement change your relationships and life.  Ease...

Bring power into your relationships with your kid(s). From Don Muguel Ruiz's book, The Four Agreements, this principle keeps you from losing all the power you have in a relationship and builds a solid foundation to maintain other meaningful principles.  Ease the strain of anxiety, depression, or addiction for you or a loved one. Reach out or contact if you or someone you know is in need. -Vis...

The other side of the coin. Relationships between Father and Daughter...  Ease the strain of anxiety, depression, or addiction for you or a loved one. Reach out or contact if you or someone you know is in need. -Visit the website Structured Therapeutic Housing in Cedar City | Outpatient Therapy Service (irongatetherapy.com) -Email at admissions@allgrownup.com or youradultchildpodcast@gmail.co...

Are you consuming your kid, or are you creating a space where they're capacity is growing, and they're experiencing genuine, authentic connection? The relationship between a mother and a son is one of the most unique and special relationships that exist. Listen to the tips and advice Kade and Shauna give about managing and navigating that relationship.  Ease the strain of anxiety, depression,...

Connect with your kid on a whole new level.  Have you ever wanted a glimpse into the mind of your child -- young adult or teenager? Shua, who's a client here at Iron Gate provides some of those insights you don't want to miss about where a kid is coming from when there struggling with mental health or addiction, and what you can do as a parent to help them.  Ease the strain of anxiety, d...

Healthy masculinity plays a valuable role in adult relationships and experiences -- and helping your kids develop into a capable individual adult. Don't listen if you don't feel up to hearing about a topic that comes with a whole set of its own controversy's, opinions, and angles.  Ease the strain of anxiety, depression, or addiction for you or a loved one. Reach out or contact if you or some...

Finding worth from above, not around; things that keep you from powerful parenting; and more! All good things that are talked about in this week's episode.  Ease the strain of anxiety, depression, or addiction for you or a loved one. Reach out or contact if you or someone you know is in need.   -Visit the website Structured Therapeutic Housing in Cedar City | Outpatient Therapy Service (...

Don't let looks deceive you. It's not the case with all young adults, but many times, kids who are the outstanding student, high performing athlete, or exceptional performer struggle with high amounts of stress.  The tools and methods are out there to help!  Listen to this week's episode as Kade talks with John about young adults who have similar experiences. 

Perfectionism is something everyone has probably dealt with in one way or another, but do you understand all the negative, plague-like effects it can have on your life, and in your relationships?  Where does it come from?  How can you handle it for yourself and relationships with loved ones? What are some constructive questions you can ask around perfectionism that can help work through...

How many of you have stress in your life?  How many of you have anxiety? How does depression relate? Everyone experiences stress, anxiety, and depression a little differently, but the insights, research, and experiences shared in today's episode care helpful for anyone for whatever degree the have (or don't have) any of these.  Listen for the end... it's the best part!

Some of you parents might find your kids in a similar situation Joseph was in a year ago.  Joseph, a client at the Iron Gate (All Grown Up) facility, is in the midst of a life changing journey. Listen as he shares where he's come from and the person he's grown into over the last year. 

Working more than 30 years in the mental health field, Oscar is an expert on attachment issues--what it is, how it manifests in relationships, and how to recognize it.  Some of these situations might be more familiar that you think.  Listen to Kade and Oscar's experiences with the same issues and what they tell parents who find themselves in that situation. 

Join as the talk about helping your adult child with pornography continues.  Shauna talks about indicators that a loved one may be struggling with pornography, as well as ways to use a third party as an effective means and resource to help, plus a whole lot more.  If you're interested in additional resources that they talk about, here are the links for you to check them out...  The...

More than ever, pornography and its negative effects are infiltrating our lives and the lives of our kids.  Helping a child that is struggling with pornography can be a scary situation. Maybe you've experienced it in your relationships before, maybe you haven't, but with our media saturated world, it's almost inevitable that it will come up.  This week's episode discusses how you as a pa...

What's it like to raise boys today?  Ruth Whippman (episode guest) is an established author and journalist who's currently working on a book about raising boys to be good men. With several articles published in the New York Times and her award-winning books, we were grateful to have Ruth visit and share some of her insights on the podcast.  Listen as she and Kade discuss what it's like r...

Mind, Body & Spirit What does it look/feel like when you're "in your head?" Many of us spend a lot of time in our head, which throws us out of balance and keeps us from living and being our best!  What does the experience of dropping into your body look and feel like? Shauna is an expert on helping people learn how to find this practical balance for themselves. Listen as she shares and te...

Pray, Listen, Act.  What does it look like to have good balance with God? How do you create the balance (through connection) in your life?  What can you do to help your child have a healthy level of balance and connection for themselves? All things that are talked about in this episode, and the answer to some of these questions might come as a surprise

Work, Play, and Serve: the three keys to staying in balance as you connect to others. Kade & Shauna talk about the value of connection--creating balance in your life through relationships with others--when working towards mental and emotional wellness, navigating your role as a parent, and helping cultivate a lifestyle of service for you and your kids.  Link for the parent's face to face...