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This week Kat is diving into the space we enter when relationships don't work out. Have you ever wondered what you could have done differently to make your partner stay? Or have you spent hours analyzing your ex partners imperfections to deflect from the pain you feel after the relationship is over? Chances are- you've been there. The term "red flag" has become a term you hear everywhere and all t...

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com .   This week, a listener asks Kat for tips on how to talk to the man she has been seeing for two years about commitment.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat. Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reac...

This week, Kat is joined by another Three Cords Therapy therapist, Josie Oldham, LMSW. Josie specializes in body image, disordered eating, and eating disorders so Kat thought she would be the perfect guest to come on and talk about something that has been on her mind for a while now: The pressure to fit into certain "recovery minded" boxes perfectly. Recovery isn't linear, there isn't one way to d...

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week, fellow Three Cords Therapy therapist joins Kat to talk about why sometimes what we see in the mirror when we look at ourselves isn’t actually reality.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat. Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a questi...

Have you ever wondered where to draw the line between striving to be your best self and accepting who you are? This debate can seem quite confusing because they seem to be contradictory yet struggle to remain as healthy guides when standing alone. Limitless thinking can be super helpful at times, AND we have to be careful because it can lead us into muddy waters with no boundaries. And this unboun...

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.   This week Kat reads an email from a listener about her struggle in deciding if she should reconnect with her estranged father after discovering he has been diagnosed with cancer for the second time. She shares an excerpt...

This week, Kat has New York Times best-selling author, Shauna Niequist on the show. Ever call yourself dumb or stupid when you learn something new for the first time? Well, despite what a lot of us have been taught, kindness and grace is a wayyy more effective motivator than shame- and Shauna is here in this episode to share how a simple shift in language has helped her family during difficult tra...

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com  this week Kat answers a question about what kind of professional to turn to when struggling with disordered eating.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat. Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else...

Our nervous system needs to be activated in order to become resilient. We cannot become strong without first being tested. We have to have experience to gain experience. This truth is a wakeup call for all of us protective types, the people pleasers, and those who are afraid of the people they love experiencing pain.  If we remove challenge from our lives and the lives of those around us- we also...

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listener’s send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.  This week a listener writes in and asks how to start to acknowledge something that was traumatic when there is a part of them that doesn’t want to admit it was harmful.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat. Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyP...

This week we have one of Three Cords Therapy’s newest team members, Julia Langner, on to talk about something she is passionate about helping others heal through. Religious and spiritual trauma are two phrases that are being talked about now more than ever… and it’s not because it just now became a thing. It’s because we are finally opening up space for individuals to realize that it’s a thing. In...

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com . This week a listener is asking Kat how to get out of a relationship with a narcissist when you feel like you’re already in too deep.   Listen to Kat’s full episodes on Narcissism: Narcissism Narcissism at Work   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat. Defatta F...

We’ve learned that there is enough compassion for us all to validate and feel our own experiences. So, why then… are so many of us experiencing “compassion fatigue”?  If compassion is an infinite resource then how do you run out of it? Well, this week Kat is trying to find an answer to that mystery. And it turns out… maybe it’s not compassion that we are exhausted of… If you are someone who has ev...

Kat answers a listener’s question about compassion fatigue and talks about burn out in helping professions.   Our listener has been having a difficult time coping with work lately – she works with cancer patients trying to help them engage in meaningful leisure activities. The job is so rewarding but she is feeling drained. She’s finding a lack of motivation in motivating others and asks Kat for a...

This week is extra fun because we are literally talking about… fun. In this episode, Kat introduces us to “The Fun Scale” which helps to widen our view on fun so we can have more of it! Sometimes the fun of an experience isn’t in the experience at all- which may sound confusing to you but we promise once you listen to this epsiode it will all start making sense!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat. Def...

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com . Kat talks about going on a little Memorial Day vacation, but she decided to keep the trend alive by getting sick right before the fun started. She realized that she might be working herself up about something, that someone else might not even mind. She also di...

Ever feel like there is something wrong with you because you can't figure out that one great passion that lights your soul on fire? Or do you find yourself feeling directionless and purposeless as you walk in and out of work each day? Well, this week, Kat, (@kat.defatta) is taking us down a road that many drive around in circles inside our heads. She is talking about passion and purpose and how we...

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com .  This week however, instead of answering a question Kat is bringing you some interesting information. In this episode, Kat walks us through a recent Psychology Today article that addresses 10 common beliefs that often hold people back from reaching their goals...

On May 1st of this year the surgeon general issued an advisory on our nation’s loneliness epidemic. In it, he states that the mortality impact of being socially disconnected is similar to that caused by smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day. AKA… this is a big deal and we need to do something about it STAT. So, this week this is what we are talking about. Kat shares some of the shocking revelations fr...

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answeres questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com . This week Kat makes a special announcement about her practice and gives feedback to a wife and mother who is contemplating when and if it's ok to leave her husband who has been struggling with substance abuse.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat. Defatta Follow...

Y’all are in for a treat today! Mike Foster is joining Kat on the podcast, and if you’re an avid listener of You Need Therapy, you have heard him being referenced a time or two… or three or four. Mike is a counselor, a coach, a former podcast host, speaker, author and all-around amazing human. This week he is spoiling us with the knowledge and powerful insight he gained after the over 4 years of r...

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat. DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com . This week Kat shares 5 tips to help cultivate hope!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat. Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedth...

This week Kat welcomes back Luke Durham, CEO of Dream4, to talk all things leadership. In this episode, Luke talks to us about what all great leaders must possess, how to develop the skills that are crucial to leading a healthy team, and how ego gets in the way of the potential of great leadership.  Follow Dream4 on Instagram: @dream4.co Work with Luke and learn more about Dream4: Dream4.co   Foll...

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat. DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com . This week, a listener writes in to ask for help in managing conflict with their current partner who they are in a long distance relationship with. Kat talks about conflicting insecure attachments and the difference in feeling safe...

Research tell us that living together before marriage increases the probability of a couple getting divorced by 50%. Yea, you read that correctly... you are MORE likely to get divorced if you live with you partner before you get married. So, does that mean you shouldn't do it? Kat isn't quite convinced that that should be the main takeaway from this information...  This week, Kat dives into cohabi...