You, Me and the Family Tree - A Family Constellation Podcast

Episode 19: Please Just Hold Me — A Conversation on Family Constellations and Healing with Shavasti What do clients really want? Beneath the stories, symptoms, and questions people bring to a session, is there a deeper longing? In this conversation, Shavasti shares his view that beneath many of the concerns clients bring lives a deeper request: "Please just hold me." Together we explore...

Episode 18: Working with Large Groups in Family Constellation Work — with Bertold Ulsamer What changes when we move from working with individuals or small groups to facilitating a room full of people? In this conversation, Bertold Ulsamer shares reflections and practical wisdom from decades of facilitating Family Constellations in groups ranging from intimate circles to audiences of hundreds and e...

Episode 17: Adolescence — Standing Behind Our Children as They Grow with Suzi Tucker What does it mean to support our children without holding them back? In this conversation, Suzi Tucker and I explore adolescence as a bridge between childhood and adulthood—a time of experimentation, uncertainty, belonging, and becoming. We talk about growth as a messy and often "sloppy" process, the cha...

Episode 16: Menopause — A Movement Toward Freedom with Suzi Tucker Menopause is a subject very close to my heart. As a woman in my fifties, I find myself living the questions that menopause brings— through the body, emotions, relationships, identity, and the changing sense of self that can emerge during this stage of life. In this conversation, I’m joined again by the wonderful Suzi Tucker—an inte...

Episode 15: Sitting by the River — On Time and Timing with Suzi Tucker To be in accord with time—what does it mean? In this spacious conversation with Suzi Tucker—a teacher, writer, and long-time voice in the field of Family Constellations—we explore the concept of time and timing. We speak about: – The feeling of not enough time vs. the possibility of plenty – Letting time hold us, instead of try...

Episode 14: Supervision in Constellation Work — with Bill Mannle What happens when, as facilitators, we don’t know what to do? In this conversation, I’m sitting with Bill Mannle—a psychotherapist and international Family Constellations facilitator who integrates Gestalt, Family Constellations, and attachment theory in his work. We explore supervision—not as correction, but as a place where the fac...

Episode 13: Rituals in Family Constellations with Bill Mannle What is a ritual—and when does it actually help in Family Constellation work? In this conversation, I’m joined by Bill Mannle. Bill is a psychotherapist and international Family Constellations facilitator. He integrates Gestalt, attachment theory, and systemic work in a grounded and experiential way. We begin with a simple question—what...

Episode 12: The Art of Evocative Questions with Suzi Tucker What if a question is not meant to give an answer—but to open a door? In this conversation with Suzi Tucker, we explore the art of evocative questions and the power of a good question. Suzi is a teacher, writer, and long-time voice in the field of Family Constellations, and she shares how she approaches her work as a collaboration, where...

Episode 11: Primary and Secondary Emotions with Suzi Tucker Suzi Tucker reminds us that we are complex human beings, yet emotions are often simplified, judged, or silenced. In this episode, she explores primary emotions —those that naturally flow through us—and secondary emotions , the patterns that get stuck, circle back, or weigh us down. We also touch on the importance of letting children expre...

Episode 10: The Knowing Field with Bertold Ulsamer What is the Knowing Field — and how do we stay grounded in the presence of something we cannot fully understand? In this final episode of our five-part series with Bertold Ulsamer—author, teacher, and direct student of Bert Hellinger—we explore one of the most intriguing aspects of constellation work. Bertold reflects on why he still calls it a my...

Episode 9: When the Facilitator Feels Lonely with Bertold Ulsamer Part four of a special five-part series with Bertold Ulsamer—author, teacher, and elder in the field of Family Constellations, and a direct student of Bert Hellinger. This episode speaks to anyone who holds space for others —therapists, facilitators, teachers, guides, and helping professionals. Together, we explore the loneliness th...

Episode 8: Professional Success, Money & the Family Tree with Bertold Ulsamer Have you ever wondered how much of your professional success—and your relationship with money—comes from your family system? In this episode, I’m joined by Bertold Ulsamer , author, teacher, elder in the field of Family Constellations, and a direct student of Bert Hellinger, for part three of our five-part series. We...

Episode 7: When Love Carries More Than Two People with Bertold Ulsamer Part two of a special five-part series with Bertold Ulsamer, author, teacher, and elder in the field of Family Constellations, and a direct student of Bert Hellinger. In this episode, we talk about couples and relationships—what we carry from our original families, what matters when working with couples, the role of timing, dif...

Episode 6: This episode opens a special 5-part series with Bertold Ulsamer — author, teacher, and elder in the field of Family Constellations. A direct student of Bert Hellinger, Bertold is a world-renowned scholar and practitioner whose work has helped shape the field internationally. In this opening episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Bertold for an open conversation about stations...

Episode 5: HOME with Suzi Tucker. Welcome to the fifth episode of our special 5-part series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and one of the most influential voices in the world of Family Constellations. In our fifth and final conversation for this round, we explore the theme of home — not just as a place, but as a deep sense of belonging. What does it mean to come home to ourselves, to others, a...

Welcome to the fourth episode of our special 5-part series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and one of the most influential voices in the world of Family Constellations. Today we dive into the profound role of language — how we speak, how we listen, and how our words shape what unfolds in the constellation field. This episode is especially valuable for: • Family Constellation facilitators • Ther...

This is a special 5 episodes' series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and a true pioneer in Family Constellations. In this third episode, I sit down with Suzi to explore the five elements that appear in our lives. This is one of my favorite episodes — we explore the elements, core fears, and I share a personal story from growing up in a kibbutz. This episode is an invitation to reflect on your o...

This is a special 5-episode series with Suzi Tucker , author, teacher, and a true pioneer in Family Constellations . In this second episode, we explore what it truly means to acknowledge what is — not to fix, not to escape, but to meet reality exactly as it is. This is one of the more challenging conversations in our series, a profound dialogue that invites you to slow down, breathe, and listen fu...

This is a special 5 episodes' series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and a true pioneer in Family Constellations. In this opening episode, I sit down with Suzi to explore the intricate process of decision making through the lens of family systems. Together, we reflect on how our choices are often shaped by unseen loyalties, inherited patterns, and the deep connections that bind us to our family...