You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection

Letting go is never easy—especially when it comes to friendships and long-standing connections that no longer align with who we are becoming. In this episode, I dive into the emotional weight of releasing relationships, the guilt that comes with it, and why growth sometimes requires walking away. If you’ve ever struggled with outgrowing people or feeling misunderstood on your journey, this episode...

In this episode, we explore the question every woman in a relationship or dating has likely asked herself: Is he my person? Join me as we dive into the signs of a healthy, fulfilling partnership versus a relationship that may not be serving you. I’ll share the questions I’ve learned to ask myself to evaluate whether a relationship is worth investing in—questions that go beyond chemistry to focus o...

Podcast Episode Description: In this episode, we dive into the healing journey after a breakup. Host Darla Ridilla reflects on her personal experience of heartbreak following a recent breakup, sharing the raw emotions she felt just days after and the growth she’s experienced in the two months since. She discusses the tools and strategies that helped her navigate from despair to readiness for a fre...

Stop Being A Good Girl is a transformative episode designed to empower women to break free from societal expectations and reclaim their authentic selves. In this episode, I dive deep into the patterns of people-pleasing, self-sacrifice, and toxic relationships that often hold women back. Through candid conversations, actionable advice, and inspiring stories, Stop Being A Good Girl encourages liste...

This episode addresses the harmful practice of blaming survivors for their experiences or reactions to abuse, particularly in cases of narcissistic abuse. Key points include: Definition of Victim Blaming : This occurs when someone shares an abusive experience, and the other person blames them for their reaction or for tolerating the behavior. Narcissists' Tactics : Narcissists often target st...

In this heartfelt episode, I open up about navigating the end of a relationship that ended suddenly and unexpectedly just before the holidays. Without the usual progression of a relationship fading over time, the recovery has been uniquely challenging. I share my journey of giving myself permission to grieve —allowing space for my feelings while setting a date to start moving forward. Grief is mes...

This episode explores the essential role of building and maintaining a strong community. It highlights the importance of female friendships as enduring sources of support, especially during times of crisis. While romantic relationships may come and go, the bonds we share with our tribe of women provide stability, strength, and connection that can carry us through life's challenges. Tune in to...

Are you familiar with the traits of a dismissive avoidant attachment style? Join me for a chat to learn the red flags to look out for, particularly in the dating world. If you are interested in hearing more about healthy dating from Sabrina Zohar, follow her podcast here https://www.sabrinazohar.com/podcast. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner...

What if the anxiety you are experiencing in your relationship is your intuition telling you that the relationship dynamics need to change? Join me for a chat on determining whether the anxiety is caused by past or present experiences. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to share their voice   https://www.highvaluewoman.i...

When I go through a breakup, I think about what I can learn about myself and how I can do better next time. Join me for a chat about the painful process of navigating a breakup and its lessons. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to share their voice   https://www.highvaluewoman.info/shareyourvoice Free Course - You Have...

I unexpectedly had to end a relationship last week. It was very painful, particularly with the holiday season just around the corner but it was necessary to protect my peace. Join me for a chat about the difficult emotions that we encounter when we have to let go of someone we love. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to...

Trauma often is passed down to future generations. I discovered this week that not only was I abused by the narcissists, I was abused by their entire family. Join me for a chat about the effects of generational trauma and narcissistic families. Take advantage of the holiday special to get support from feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Click the link to book a session at a holiday discount . Connec...

Are you worried about spending the holidays with a narcissist or difficult family member? Join me for a chat on how to handle the stressful holiday season. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to share their voice   https://www.highvaluewoman.info/shareyourvoice Free Course - You Have Something to Say: The 3 Shifts That H...

Has someone said or done something but denies it? Are you starting to question your own reality? Join me for a chat on gaslighting. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to share their voice   https://www.highvaluewoman.info/shareyourvoice Free Course - You Have Something to Say: The 3 Shifts That Help You Stop Overthinkin...

Do you have healthy boundaries and high standards or are you a doormat? Join me for a chat about why boundaries and standards are an act of love to yourself. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to share their voice   https://www.highvaluewoman.info/shareyourvoice Free Course - You Have Something to Say: The 3 Shifts That...

Communication is key to a healthy relationship. Join me for a chat about how to talk to other people in your life in a healthy manner. Link to previous post referenced to in episode: Traffic Lights of Tolerance - https://www.buzzsprout.com/2390148/episodes/15635601 Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to share their voice...

The Me Too movement gave sexual abuse victims a voice. In order to take my power back and have a voice, I share my own experiences with sexual abuse. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to share their voice   https://www.highvaluewoman.info/shareyourvoice Free Course - You Have Something to Say: The 3 Shifts That Help Yo...

Has someone ever ignored you for hours or days? Did you feel isolated and hurt? Join me for a chat about silent treatment and how it can affect relationships and self esteem. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to share their voice   https://www.highvaluewoman.info/shareyourvoice Free Course - You Have Something to Say:...

Join me to hear about the recent training I just completed in brainspotting. This healing technique is a powerful way to connect to the brain through a specific focal point to effectively process trauma. For more information on brainspotting , I recommend the book by David Grand, Ph. D., Brainspotting For more information on somatics , I recommend the book by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., The Body Ke...

When you are with people do you focus on how you feel about them or do you focus on how they make you feel? Join me for a chat about how to gauge if a relationship is healthy, needs work or needs to be let go. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to share their voice   https://www.highvaluewoman.info/shareyourvoice Free C...

Have you ever noticed that your emotions are connected to sensations in your body? Did you know that those sensations are connected to previous experiences that give you the opportunity to heal yourself? Join me for a chat on somatics and how your body stores and releases trauma. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to sh...

Being alone can be uncomfortable but instead of seeing it as a negative, embrace the discomfort and work with it to bring about positive change in your life. Join me for a chat about my journey with loneliness and how I have changed it from pain to purpose. Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podcast Without Losing Your Mind  A beginner course for people ready to share their voice   https...

Do you have boundaries in your relationships? Do you feel free to express your needs? Join me for a chat about expressing your boundaries and needs in a healthy way to both honor your value and determine whether your relationships are serving you. Episodes will be released every Monday - be sure to tune in to the 9/9/24 episode for a special offer! Connect with Darla Ridilla:   🎙️ Launch Your Podc...

Do you know what your attachment style is and how it is affecting your relationships? Join me for a brief overview of the three attachment styles and how my own personal attachment style has affected my friendships and relationships. Darla is a certified somatic trauma informed coach with lived experience in narcissistic abuse. Her healing journey from trauma and narcissistic relationships has ins...

Welcome to my new podcast, You Have the Power: The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse. In today's episode, I gave a brief summary of my story as well as my thoughts on resilience and claiming your joy. We will have a variety of topics to include education on narcissistic abuse, tips for healing and recovery, dating advice, resilience, and taking your personal power back. I am...