You Are Not Crazy

What can you do when you're convinced that you're in love with a Narcissistic or Abusive person? This topic unpacks that complex topic. If you are looking to get Right with Reality and leave an abusive relationship. If you need support, check out my Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Program: https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/courses/relationship-recovery Support the show *Please Note: there...

Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast* Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhoo...

When married to a narcissist, separating is only the first step to finding peace and starting your healing journey. There’s still the divorce, and most court systems encourage you to work with your abuser to find a peaceful resolution. Working with a narcissist can be an emotionally straining journey and almost always ends in a High-Conflict Divorce. This podcast discusses some signs you're c...

Ben Taylor, a self aware Narcissist, joins me to dive deep into shame, blame and guilt. In this episode, we discuss Ben's healing journey, how Ben defines shame, and how Narcissists will do anything to avoid feeling shame. We also touch on how to know if a Narcissist changed (spoiler alert, they haven't). Ben is a wealth of knowledge and has an amazing way to break down some complexities...

Ashlee Levitch, the host of the popular podcast, The Narc and Me, joins me to discuss her story of surviving Narcissistic Abuse.  You can listen to Ashlee's podcast here: https://tr.ee/lTfSY1VJ-b Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shor...

Divorcing a narcissist requires you to be prepared - mentally, physically, financially AND emotionally.  Tessa of Kind Mama Coaching joins me to talk about the ins and outs of divorcing a Narcissist and what it's like to Co-Parent with one. We talk through strategies to keep yourself sane while navigating insanity. I highly recommend listening to this episode with a pen and paper in hand, esp...

Love bombing i s a controlling and manipulative tactic most often used by narcissists and abusive people.  In this episode, I unpack Love Bombing: what it is, how it feels, how to know if you're being love bombed, and how to begin to let go of the false-potential it creates. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast...

Nat joins me to discuss sexual and marital coercion within marriage. Sexual coercion is an insidious form of abuse in which one person routinely uses guilt, shame, feelings of depression and sadness, as well as anger and frustration to manipulate their partner into unwanted sex and physical touch. Nat breaks down what sexual coercion is and how it shows up in marriage. Nat emphasizes that sexual c...

What does it take for an Emotional Abusive person to change? What do they have to do to change? How did Paul know he had to change? What does healthy look like? Paul is a Relationship Coach and founder of The Overwhelmed Brain and the Love and Abuse podcasts. He created the MEAN workbook, a 200 point assessment to identify manipulative behavior. Where you can find Paul: Love and Abuse The Overwhel...

Do you appease an abusive person because it's the only way to stop the abuse and protect yourself? You may be operating in the Fawn response. You can develop a fawn response anytime in life if you’ve ever been with an emotionally abusive partner and dealt with narcissistic abuse from anyone in your inner circle. This episode unpacks the Trauma Response, Fawn. You can read more about it here:...

Emmy Marie is a trauma survivor and Certified Trauma Informed coach with the mission to help others reclaim their power, reject shame, and walk boldly towards a life of balance, freedom, and joy. I found Emmy through her Instagram, @bloomingwithemmy, where she posts frequently on healing from abuse. This episode is about learning to heal from abuse and what healthy can look like. You can find Emmy...

Do you appease an abusive person because it's the only way to stop the abuse and protect yourself? You may be operating in the Fawn response. You can develop a fawn response anytime in life if you’ve ever been with an emotionally abusive partner and dealt with narcissistic abuse from anyone in your inner circle. This episode unpacks the Trauma Response, Fawn. You can read more about it here:...

I found the Pamela Anderson Documentary tremendously impactful -- especially through the lens of Domestic Violence. This podcast covers my initial thoughts and realizations. I highly recommend you watch it on Netflix. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future reco...

Lee Hammock (MentalHealness) the Self Aware Narcissist, joins me to dissect the Mind of the Narcissist. Lee is a diagnosed Narcissist and we discuss so many aspects of NPD including common questions that come up in client sessions. We also get into a larger conversation about the danger of Narcissistic Abuse and what can happen/what we've seen happen. This is a really important part of the po...

I'm going to dive into an enormous topic today: No Contact. I carry a different perspective than others because it was so hard for me to get to. It felt like I was literally trying to saw off my hand with a butter knife. In this podcast, I explain why we go No Contact in abusive relationships and some strategies if the all or nothing feels possible right now. Support the show *Please Note: th...

On todays podcast, Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph. D., joins me to discuss the Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse. Dr. McAvoy is a psychologist and writer, an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. She's been featured on Mamami , YourTango , Scary Mommy , and The Good Men Project. Her memoir, Love You More: The Har...

If you are in an abusive relationship and are struggling to get out, you are likely trauma bonded. Trauma bonds are part of abusive and Narcissistic relationships. When you're in one it feels impossible to break - and it feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling. How d...

Narcissism is very present in South Asian (Indian) Culture and effects the lives of many. Misha Patel is a British-born South Asian therapist and coach, specializing in supporting South Asians all over the world who have experienced narcissistic abuse and trauma to heal. She explains why it's happening, what it looks like, and how you can begin to take space from the Narcissistic patterns. Yo...

Manjit Kaur Ruprai joins me to discuss Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We discuss what it looks like, what it feels like, and signs to look out for. This is a very important, in-depth episode with an expert in the field. Manjit supports many to figure out who they are dealing with and to move forward with their lives. She offers global service via zoom and work with many throughout the world. Y...

Are you Co-Parenting with a Narcissist? The yellow rock method is a spin on the gray rock method . This episode unpacks and explains Tina Swithin's Yellow Rock Method which is designed to diffuse conflict while setting boundaries with your ex. If you listened to my episode on Parallel Parenting, this one is really important to listen to 2nd. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intr...

I define parallel parenting as a method of parenting that allows each parent to use a separate approach to when they have the kids. Their parenting does not intersect, as each parent is independent (versus more of a team approach). It’s mostly used when co-parents want little to no contact with each other. Parents rarely attend the same functions, appointments, or child-related events. If they do,...

Most people don’t even realize they are getting into a relationship with a Narcissist. They are skillfully manipulative - which allows them to come off as charming and loving. But Narcissistic relationships are always emotionally abusive - which includes put-downs, accusations, criticism, gaslighting and threats. The end goal is always to keep their Narcissistic supply of constant attention and ad...

Is it toxicity? Is it abuse? Are you "too sensitive?" Do you "attract difficult people?" In this episode, I describe three tools I used to identify when I was in an abusive relationship.  I also discuss how hard the New Year can be for many of us trying to break out of an abusive relationship. This is the link to the MEAN workbook: https://theoverwhelmedbrain.gumroad.com/l/jkSo...

The Holiday Season with a Narcissist can be incredibly challenging and dizzying. On the one hand, they may promote the "most wonderful time of the year" while tearing you down and making the entire season miserable for you. In this episode, I share three stories of Narcissistic abuse before going through 5 reasons why Narcissists ruin the holidays. Support the show *Please Note: there is...

This is a question asks; did they love me? I offer two answers to this question that are short but gives some perspective to the topic. I plan to do a longer, in depth, episode on this. Send questions to me on Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will b...