You Are Not Crazy

Narcissism is very present in South Asian (Indian) Culture and effects the lives of many. Misha Patel is a British-born South Asian therapist and coach, specializing in supporting South Asians all over the world who have experienced narcissistic abuse and trauma to heal. She explains why it's happening, what it looks like, and how you can begin to take space from the Narcissistic patterns. Yo...

Manjit Kaur Ruprai joins me to discuss Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We discuss what it looks like, what it feels like, and signs to look out for. This is a very important, in-depth episode with an expert in the field. Manjit supports many to figure out who they are dealing with and to move forward with their lives. She offers global service via zoom and work with many throughout the world. Y...

Are you Co-Parenting with a Narcissist? The yellow rock method is a spin on the gray rock method . This episode unpacks and explains Tina Swithin's Yellow Rock Method which is designed to diffuse conflict while setting boundaries with your ex. If you listened to my episode on Parallel Parenting, this one is really important to listen to 2nd. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intr...

I define parallel parenting as a method of parenting that allows each parent to use a separate approach to when they have the kids. Their parenting does not intersect, as each parent is independent (versus more of a team approach). It’s mostly used when co-parents want little to no contact with each other. Parents rarely attend the same functions, appointments, or child-related events. If they do,...

Most people don’t even realize they are getting into a relationship with a Narcissist. They are skillfully manipulative - which allows them to come off as charming and loving. But Narcissistic relationships are always emotionally abusive - which includes put-downs, accusations, criticism, gaslighting and threats. The end goal is always to keep their Narcissistic supply of constant attention and ad...

Is it toxicity? Is it abuse? Are you "too sensitive?" Do you "attract difficult people?" In this episode, I describe three tools I used to identify when I was in an abusive relationship.  I also discuss how hard the New Year can be for many of us trying to break out of an abusive relationship. This is the link to the MEAN workbook: https://theoverwhelmedbrain.gumroad.com/l/jkSo...

The Holiday Season with a Narcissist can be incredibly challenging and dizzying. On the one hand, they may promote the "most wonderful time of the year" while tearing you down and making the entire season miserable for you. In this episode, I share three stories of Narcissistic abuse before going through 5 reasons why Narcissists ruin the holidays. Support the show *Please Note: there is...

This is a question asks; did they love me? I offer two answers to this question that are short but gives some perspective to the topic. I plan to do a longer, in depth, episode on this. Send questions to me on Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will b...

Questions and answers on Emotional Abuse and Narcissism 1. Is calling names, pointing fingers and degrading me during a fight when things go wrong abuse? Why do they pretend all is well during the calm cycle? How does one get out? 2. I love the Relationship Recovery Course. Did you always want to be a Life Coach? 3. Is it normal that I'm suddenly obsessed with learning more about Narcissism s...

This is a rant. The rules of the game are not the same. The abuse is real. This page is called Emotional Abuse Coach so if this content is not for you, please go elsewhere, like Not Emotional Abuse Coach, and comment there. You are showing how un-empathetic you are to those who are going through Narcissistic Abuse. This has been happening since I created the page and I do not wish to argue, or eve...

A listener asked me this question: how do I leave an abusive relationship? It is different for everyone. This is an introductory episode on how to leave and what you should  think about. I named it Part 1 because there could be endless episodes on this topic. I would love if you send any follow-up questions to me at jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emotionalabusecoach If yo...

A lot of my clients will ask, what is a healthy relationship? What is a safe relationship? It can feel impossible to know after you've suffered from Narcissistic or Emotional abuse. This podcast covers 5 qualities of a safe relationship.  If this podcast is triggering to you, I invite you to unpack it further by joining my Relationship Recovery program. https://emotionalabusecoach.com/relatio...

The phrase "don't rock the boat," is toxic. People say it all the time, and you think they're being supportive, but it actually can be another way abuse is enabled. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not pa...

You have more control over your thoughts than you think. Even though it's hard, it is important for us to take responsibility for our thoughts. This episode unpacks why that is important and how you can start having more control. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be chang...

It can be very hard to connect to your wants, needs and feelings when you are in an Emotionally Abusive or Narcissistic Relationship. This 8 minute meditation is intended to help you begin connect to you again. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings...

"When reminding my partner that he needs to take responsibility for his emotions, and that I can't be blamed for his anger, he responded that it should be the same for me and that he shouldn't be held responsible for my feeling abused, and that I should be responsible for those feelings." This was a question that came in through my Instagram . I answer this question in the epis...

When you're in a Trauma Bond it feels impossible to break. It feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling, but we can't leave. Lisa Sonni is an expert on Trauma Bonds. We explore trauma bonds and why they’re so hard to break, how you feel when you are trauma bonded,...

Matt's behavior on Love is Blind is the text book definition emotional abuse. Their interactions triggered me all season long, and after seeing Colleen visibly scared on the reunion, I wanted to record a podcast breaking down the behavior and looking at their interactions through the lens of Emotional Abuse. Netflix should add a trigger warning to the episodes and provide resources for victim...

Tina Swithin, the founder of One Moms Battle and Advocate in the Family Court System, discusses her story, post-separation abuse, strategies a safe parent can employ to cope, and some of the current issues in the Family Court System. Tina survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for ove...

A Narcissist projects their feeling onto you. Projection is sometimes an unconscious way of dealing with the presence of something inside of yourself, yet it gets externalized because it is so uncomfortable to be within yourself. A healthy person will notice they do this (or accept it when they are called out). A Narcissist continues to use it as a tool and project it onto you. This episode unpack...

Gaslighting affects your memory, your perception, your sanity, and your reality. To gaslight someone is to plant seeds of doubt in their mind, and make them question their own sense of reality, their perception, and their feelings. Since gaslighters lack self-awareness and empathy, they may not even realize that they're being manipulative.  But when you don't know that you're being...

A conversation with a Narcissist can be extremely frustrating and dizzying.  The communication tools you'd engage with a healthy person do not work. Promises are not kept. Words are not aligned with actions.  In this episode, I discuss how hard a conversation with a Narcissist can be, and why you continue to try. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services....

How did you end up in an abusive relationship? You are likely trauma bonded. When you're in one it feels impossible to break - and it feels like love.  When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling. This episode will give you some insights on how to identify a Trauma Bond. Support the show...

This episode explores the difference between a therapist and a life coach.  A life coach helps you look at the present and the future. We help you identify patterns in your past behavior so you can work towards a healthy future. We work on specific goals and actions to keep you motivated in your journey and unpack things when you get stuck. Most times, the work is tailored to you, and will help yo...

Emotional Abuse is not easily understood by those who haven't been through it. Some common signs include: you may feel insecure and have a low self-esteem. You might be depressed or anxious (or both). You may feel you need to justify everything you say.  You may withdraw from people even when you're around them. You might no longer go out and socialize. In this episode, I discuss signs o...