You Are Not Crazy

'tis the season for Narcissistic abuse! Does it feel like things are heightened right now? They likely are.  On this episode, we talk through some themes you may be noticing  this season, specifically with co-parenting and high conflict divorce. We will talk through the trends and end with some helpful strategies.  If you need support: https://high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com/ Support the sho...

Does it feel like you will never stop thinking about your ex? Trey De La Torre joins me to dive into rumination, analyze the motives behind narcissistic behaviors, and discuss the signs indicating a narcissist playing the victim.  His insightful humor, personal story, and strategies reveal an inspiring transformational journey.  We cover understanding and overcoming rumination, sharing practical a...

Paul Colaianni joins us for a Q&A episode on Emotional Abuse. We discuss the challenging emotions that come with leaving an abusive relationship, and how understanding these emotions can be the key to reclaiming your personal power. We also delve into the complex territory of setting boundaries in abusive relationships - a stark contrast to the way boundaries function in a healthy relationship...

What is Love Addiction? Jodi White, a seasoned psychotherapist, joins me to discuss what Love Addiction is and how we can heal. Jodi  has devoted her career to helping individuals overcome love addiction and heal from trauma.  This episode covers the heart of love addiction, unearthing its roots in developmental trauma and revealing the blurred boundaries between this and emotional abuse. Our dial...

What does it take to work through trauma and be on a path towards healing and empowerment? Emmy Marie, a certified trauma-informed coach, joins us to discuss complex PTSD and her journey towards reclaiming her power. Emmy articulates the complex relationship between trauma and personal relationships. She emphasizes how the fog of abuse can blur the lines between love and respect, impacting our sen...

Erin Riley,  the author of A Dark Force 20 Years with a Covert Narcissist,  takes us through her journey from having a successful and vibrant professional in the music and entertainment industry to being entrapped in the shadows of a covert narcissist. She  unfolds the realities of narcissistic abuse, revealing how she fell into the love bombing scheme and how she struggled to understand the compl...

Tina Swithin, author of Divorcing a Narcissist and creator of OneMomsBattle.com, has been committed to helping others divorce abusive partners for decades. Together, we dissect the complexities of divorcing a Narcissist and how to protect your children. Our conversation is rooted in our experiences and knowledge, but this isn't a source for legal advice. You should always engage an attorney o...

Navigating the labyrinth of emotional abuse can often be overwhelming. Paul Colainni joins us to help demystify reactive abuse - an insidious form of emotional manipulation where the abuser blames the victim for reacting to the abuse. We dissect the anatomy of reactive abuse, decode the abuser's intentions, and offer insights on how to differentiate it from your response.  You can connect wit...

Dr. Freida joins us to break down Gaslighting.  With her vast experience as a research psychologist, psychoanalyst, and psychotherapist, Dr. Frida helps us decipher the manipulative tactics often used in abusive relationships. We peel back the layers of gaslighting, understanding its nuances, and how it permeates different areas of life.  Learn the signs of manipulation, and listen as Dr. Frida sh...

Have you ever found yourself looking inward when a relationship goes sour, questioning your every action and thought, neglecting to consider the other person's behavior? It's a common pitfall many of us face, particularly those of us who have had the misfortune of dealing with a narcissist. In this episode, I share some personal reflections on this topic, exploring the dangerous territor...

On the 100th episode of the Relationship Recovery Podcast, I will guide you through identifying the red flags that signal emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse, empowering you to trust your feelings and reclaim your life. Our discussion starts with a deep dive into the subtle yet profound signs of abusive behavior, from controlling actions to emotional manipulations. We'll also shed ligh...

Are you feeling trapped in a toxic relationship and struggling to set boundaries? This episode explores how to set a boundary using "canned responses," a powerful tool that could transform your interactions with a narcissistic or abusive partner. Listen in as we dissect this mechanism that allows you to maintain emotional neutrality while firmly establishing your limits, putting an end t...

Have you ever felt the crushing weight of losing a friend who simply couldn't understand your life circumstances or struggles? I know I have. As a single, self-employed mom, I've experienced the harsh reality of friendships fading away as life's complexities took over. I've been in that space where it felt like I was the only one working to keep the relationship alive. This epi...

Imagine going through a grueling therapy session, hoping to find help and healing from narcissistic and emotional abuse, only to discover that your therapist isn't equipped with the expertise you need. In this episode, I will shed light on the importance of seeking specialized training when dealing with narcissistic abuse. I also explain why not every therapist or counselor may be the right f...

Have you ever pondered why you behave the way you do in relationships? Are you often left puzzled by your reactions to certain situations? Melissa, a psychologist and life coach, explore the three attachment styles - anxious, avoidant, and disorganized - delving deep into how they can shift based on who you're sharing your life with. We also tackle the blame that individuals in unhealthy rela...

If you're eventually going to be entering the family court system, you must listen to this episode. As a seasoned high conflict divorce coach, I've seen how the court system often fails to prioritize the child's best interest. Abusers and Narcissists, armed with charm and manipulative tactics, can twist the system to their advantage. Today, we're going to unravel this complex w...

Are you tired of feeling trapped in toxic relationships? Ben Taylor joins me to unveil the reasons behind why we get stuck in toxic relationships, the cycle of toxicity, and how to break free. Through personal stories and client experiences, we highlight the importance of taking responsibility for our healing journey and the crucial role honesty plays in overcoming toxic patterns.  Support the sho...

Do you feel caught in a Trauma Response? Anna Hindell, a NY based psychotherapist and Iyengar Yoga Instructor, jouns me to discuss the turbulent waters of trauma, especially after emotional and narcissistic abuse. We unravel the complex web of our body's fight-or-flight response to trauma and discuss how engaging in therapy and mindful practices like meditation and yoga can rewire our respons...

Navigating love after abuse can be very difficult. Nia Renee candidly admits that revisiting her abusive past can be challenging but necessary for healing. We delve into our personal experiences of learning how to love again after enduring such trauma. This episode aims to provide insight into navigating love post-abuse. Nia Renee, known as "How to Love a Battered Woman" on Instagram whe...

How do you begin to heal from a Trauma Bond? A 10 minute podcast will not fully answer that question, but it's a start. Recently, I posted a definition of Trauma Bonding on my Instagram: trauma bonding is a misplaced loyalty where a victim is emotionally bonded with their abuser and finds themselves unable to leave an unhealthy relationship. The victim remains loyal to someone who has betraye...

Learn to identify and understand manipulative behavior and set boundaries that protect and empower you. The transformation is difficult, but with commitment, time, and resources, I reclaimed my life from the grips of emotional abuse, and I know you too. This episode unpacks my healing program: The Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explain...

Tori Benitez of Onyx Arrow Consulting joins me to discuss the realities of the Family Court system and the importance of having a strategy when divorcing a Narcissist. In this episode, Tori and I break down the complexities of the Family Court system and Co-Parenting with a Narcissist. According to Tori, family Court is like one big game of chess where children are seen as posessions. This is exac...

"How Can I Get Him to Understand Me?" This question came from somebody who emailed me and said: "How do I get them to understand me? Apparently it's rude to have boundaries or just say no." I hear this question all the time and decided to take this episode to answer the question.  I would love to hear what you think: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com Support the show *Plea...

I went for Narcissists and assholes because it was more familiar to feel *not good enough* than to feel valued. That was my version of safe. That was what I knew love to be. I pushed away every nice guy that came my way and prioritized going back to hurtful relationships with men who never valued me for me (they valued me so long as I fit in the box they wanted me to fit in).  This podcast unpacks...

What is the relationship between Codependancy and Narcissistic Abuse Codependents lack a healthy relationship with themselves as they self-sabotage by putting others first - which is a perfect match for a Narcissist. In this episode, Manjit unpacks the connect Manjit supports many to figure out who they are dealing with and to move forward with their lives. She offers global service via zoom and w...