You Are Not Crazy

The Cycle of Abuse in a Domestic Partnership is important to understand if you are in an abusive relationship. The simplest way I’ve seen the cycle described is this: the person gets hurt, the abuser gets away with it, and they both claim the victim is the crazy one. On this episode, I will talk through the 4 stages and how you can understand them. You can find the diagram here: http://jessicaknig...

An apology from an abuser never feels like a true apology - and you shouldn’t accept it. A real apology is remorse followed by silence, space and changed behavior. A real apology is less speaking and more personal work on yourself. A real apology is looking within and addressing what caused you to hurt someone you love. Have you ever noticed how some apologies make you feel worse after getting the...

Most people don't know how to build up their own self worth. I've had my own battles with self love, self worth, self esteem and self care. I certainly didn't resented all of the words associated with it. When I was healing, all I knew is that I wanted to be able to trust myself. When I work with clients on this, I always come from a place small steps. I don't use the words &qu...

What it feels like to be in an Emotionally Abusive relationship. MAID helped me conceptualize my journey. I hope this gives you the courage to understand what is happening in your life. If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You c...

I am traveling this week so I took a step back from the larger topics and explain what it's like to work with me when dealing with Emotional or Narcissistic Abuse. Use this link to schedule a free Clarity Call: https://jessicaknightcoaching.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=2523892 If you need support: Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessic...

Gaslighting is incredibly painful and it's an actual form of psychological manipulation that affects your memory, your perception, your sanity, and your reality. To Gaslight someone is to basically plant seeds of doubt in their mind to make them question their own sense of truth and reality, like memory or sense of judgement, and their perceptions and their feelings. So my hope is that this p...

Traumatic bonding is a strong emotional attachment between an abused person and his or her abuser, formed as a result of the cycle of domestic violence.  If you are in a trauma bond, I personally believe that you saw the absolute best and the absolute worst of your partner. I am also sure his best was really good. I am sure it was sweet, kind, and raw. When you say you know who they really are ins...

Signs of Emotional Abuse. We discuss Anger, Contempt, Control, Blame and Gaslighting. This podcast only scratches the surface of what is Emotional Abuse. Free Copy: Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" Email me if you need support. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen,...

Many victims of narcissism, manipulation and abuse desperately want to know if their abusive partner is changing, or if he even can change. This is very normal. You are likely an empathetic person who would make changes if you were hurting someone you care about. This is not true for manipulative people. Yes, abusive men can absolutely change, but as Lundy Bancroft explains: true, lasting change i...

My story used to sound like this: "In my 20’s I took on the project of un-shallowing myself. I was going for the same kind of guy and getting the same result: an asshole with arm muscles who can go jab for jab with me but doesn’t prioritize me. I’d joke, ‘assholes are just my type.’  But I quickly learned that THAT kind of guy would never care for me more than his friends, or the gym, and he...