You Are Not Crazy

A description of the Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse. If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains...

Trauma Bonding is a very well-known phrase for good reason: it is a universal experience for almost everyone that experience Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse.  On today's podcast, I discuss 3 ways to break a Trauma Bond. If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can b...

Other people will claim to know what is best and give you advice based on their history and perspective, but most people, who have not been through emotional abuse, will not understand emotional abuse. I hope this episode is a permission slip for you to let the opinions of others fade -- so you can focus on your own reality. I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing...

I have been traveling and a little MIA.  I give you a quick update on where I've been, why Clarity Calls are so hard to book right now, and I go over the key books that helped me identify emotional abuse so I could heal.  This is a list of the books: "Why Does He Do That?" - Lundy Bancroft The Verbally Abusive Relationship - Patricia Evans Whole Again: Healing Your Heart and Redisco...

Interview with Sensual Coach Gwen Walsh . Gwen is a Tarot Reader, Intuitive and Sensual Coach. Working with Gwen throughout my Emotionally Abusive and Toxic relationship helped me experience my life as a viewer and step out of my own way - offering a new perspective on my situation when "thinking" through it didn't.  I've worked with Gwen through all areas of life, including my...

Canned Responses for Toxic Relationships. Using Canned Responses is often the first step in creating boundaries. Boundaries allow you to draw a line between you and another person - and you and yourself. However, setting boundaries in an abusive relationship is almost impossible. You'll find yourself in endless text, calls and emails with no way out having the same conversation again and agai...

I clear up the question of my work because if you head to my other website, you'll likely be a little confused :) If you need support: Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/...

Starve them of your interest . If you keep giving them your attention and engaging with them, their toxic presence will stay in your life. If you stay emotionally neutral, uninterested, and unengaged, the narcissist will turn to someone else to get their needs met. I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoachi...

On this Podcast I continue unpacking Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them. If you need support: Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.a...

Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them. If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emaile...

A lot of clients are seeking to understand Narcissistic Behaviors, so I am going to spend the next few podcast discussing Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them. I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed t...

5 ways you can protect yourself - even if you are still in the relationship. If you need support: Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed to you with a pla...

Many people who are in an abusive relationship will refer to their Abuser as a Narcissist - which is problematic because it put all abusers in the narcissism category when it's much more complex than that. In todays episode, we talk about the difference between an abuser and narcissistic traits, the 9 traits of a Narcissist as defined by the DSM, and the effects of calling all abusers Narciss...

The top 10 questions I've received since starting this podcast. I don't think he means it or knows what he is doing. Is it still abuse? Am I being gaslit? How do I know? What if I'm just too sensitive? Have you experienced a Narcissist or Abuser changing? How can I start to step away? Can I tell him that he's abusive? Can he really change? How do I start dating after an abusive...

What to do when an Emotional Abuser comes back into your life and tries to reconnect. I share a personal story, how I was stuck in flight or fight and how I could use all the healing and personal work I did for months to help me in that moment. If you need support: Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned...

How do you communicate with a Narcissist? Most of the time, using communication tools (that are all the rage on Instagram) will not help you with communicating with a difficult partner.  I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3 They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just i...

Setting a boundary with an abusive person is almost impossible. Today we are going to go over 3 things: Why it is so hard to set boundaries with an abuser How to regulate yourself so you can get in touch with what you need and how you feel How to actually set a boundary with an abuser If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @emotionalab...

No matter what stage of leaving an emotionally abusive relationship you are in, you will need to learn how to put your oxygen mask on, and doing that starts with no longer living to expectations set by others or society. This episode talks about how to start to be there for yourself. I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://...

The Cycle of Abuse in a Domestic Partnership is important to understand if you are in an abusive relationship. The simplest way I’ve seen the cycle described is this: the person gets hurt, the abuser gets away with it, and they both claim the victim is the crazy one. On this episode, I will talk through the 4 stages and how you can understand them. You can find the diagram here: http://jessicaknig...

An apology from an abuser never feels like a true apology - and you shouldn’t accept it. A real apology is remorse followed by silence, space and changed behavior. A real apology is less speaking and more personal work on yourself. A real apology is looking within and addressing what caused you to hurt someone you love. Have you ever noticed how some apologies make you feel worse after getting the...

Most people don't know how to build up their own self worth. I've had my own battles with self love, self worth, self esteem and self care. I certainly didn't resented all of the words associated with it. When I was healing, all I knew is that I wanted to be able to trust myself. When I work with clients on this, I always come from a place small steps. I don't use the words &qu...

What it feels like to be in an Emotionally Abusive relationship. MAID helped me conceptualize my journey. I hope this gives you the courage to understand what is happening in your life. If you need support: Website: emotionalabusecoach.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You c...

I am traveling this week so I took a step back from the larger topics and explain what it's like to work with me when dealing with Emotional or Narcissistic Abuse. Use this link to schedule a free Clarity Call: https://jessicaknightcoaching.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=2523892 If you need support: Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching Instagram: @jessic...

Gaslighting is incredibly painful and it's an actual form of psychological manipulation that affects your memory, your perception, your sanity, and your reality. To Gaslight someone is to basically plant seeds of doubt in their mind to make them question their own sense of truth and reality, like memory or sense of judgement, and their perceptions and their feelings. So my hope is that this p...

Traumatic bonding is a strong emotional attachment between an abused person and his or her abuser, formed as a result of the cycle of domestic violence.  If you are in a trauma bond, I personally believe that you saw the absolute best and the absolute worst of your partner. I am also sure his best was really good. I am sure it was sweet, kind, and raw. When you say you know who they really are ins...