You Are Immeasurable: Shadow Work & Spiritual Healing for BIPOC Women & Entrepreneurs

Do you struggle to understand the concept of holding space and creating a safe space with love? On this Valentine's Day episode, we explore this topic with a special guest, Ahmaud. Featuring a male perspective, Ahmaud and Tonesha discuss the differences between being a safe space and holding space and how men can communicate and reciprocate this safe space that women provide. Learn how to giv...

The five love languages are a way to understand and communicate the way we express and receive love in relationships. They are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and personal touch. Understanding our own love language as well as our partners can help us to better understand how we can love and be loved, reducing conflicts and misunderstandings in relationships. I...

It’s time to reflect on all your accomplishments throughout the year.  No matter how big or small, you’ve done something this year that deserves to be celebrated.  Whether you’ve gotten a promotion or gotten rid of some bad, negative energy in your life.  Or maybe you finished just a small project you started or had another birthday – those are all wins you can take time to stop, reflect on and ce...

Let’s talk about looking at other’s situations from different angles.  It’s best to look at it from their point of view before ever forming an opinion.   You just never know what is going through someone’s head and how they are feeling.   Be mindful and always think about the consequences of their words before they speak.    They say that it is always a shock when someone who seems happy takes the...

In my coaching program, I help clients work through the things preventing them from developing healthy, positive relationships. As a relationship transformation agitator, I help you see the importance of your relationship with you.  We also work on all the ways that it can lead to negative relationships with others; some of the topics discussed include abandonment issues, trauma bonds, self-love,...

Even if someone told you they understood you, that they knew you well and what you were about; they sometimes can hurt you and torment your boundaries.  Sometimes it’s those closest to you that hurt the most.  In this episode, I discuss how to protect yourself from potentially harmful people. The importance of boundaries cannot be overstated, and I encourage you to make sure to put boundaries in p...

Imagine this- you're excited to start a new job, or you get a high-paying client, or you're ready to switch to a brand-new lifestyle. But suddenly, you hear a voice. You hear a dark and heavy voice saying that you don't deserve all this or you can't do that. It could be your inner self or the people around you. Those voices hinder our growth and stop us from recognizing new opp...

How often have you felt that utter uncertainty in your head that cried out, ‘I don’t know what’s happening?!’ In today’s episode, I am focusing on navigating those uncertain times and restraining yourself from shifting to another path.   When you go from one point to another, you have to work hard, establish boundaries, do new things and walk into new territory.  Through this episode, I hope to in...

Welcome back to the U R IMMEASURABLE podcast.  In life, we strive to achieve many financial, mental, and physical goals. We set up our to-do lists and work hard every day to achieve all this, yet some days, we want to lay in bed, relaxing and doing nothing. You try to force yourself out of bed, but it's not working.   In this episode, I am talking about those days when you try but can't....

Welcome back to the U R IMMEASURABLE podcast.  Today, I am talking about wounds and worthiness, or I would say worthiness wounds. A worthiness wound occurs when something happens in your life, whether it be an accident or a mistreatment knowingly or unknowingly from a person. It leaves you feeling unloved, inferior, and worthless.  Healing those wounds is essential, yet people's ego often com...

It's bizarre how many times you've done impossible things and yet your reaction is: it's luck or you don't believe it's real. As a result, you are blocking the good things to come our way. Thus, you are blocking the good things to come your way.  If you want to be the best version of yourself, you need to accept yourself and believe you are exceptional. Unfortunately, we d...

How many times have you forgiven someone but felt hatred towards them when you saw them? Did you truly forgive them or pretend to do it? Welcome back to another episode of the U R IMMEASURABLE podcast. This episode is about "Forgiveness," a simple yet complex concept.  I have discussed how unforgiveness affects-mentally, physically, and spiritually and how forgiveness can transform many...

Are you a person that will tell someone off straight to their face? Or do you beat around the bush and end up bitter and upset at yourself because you didn’t make your voice heard? Telling others what your needs and wants aren’t being a jerk or rude, it’s getting your point out there – telling them that your feelings matter and care as well. People that are hurt often want to hurt others, stop thi...

The importance of boundaries is often discussed, but we look at it only from one dimension. Traditionally, we're taught that we need to set strict boundaries and stick to them forever, but that's not true.   Everybody grows and matures with time, lessons and experience, so your boundaries should also grow and upgrade. It's possible that you no longer need those boundaries as you mat...

The conversation continues on the topic of people pleasing and how it can be harmful. Tonesha reminds us how people pleasing usually means wanting to be seen in a certain light by others and how, when that doesn't happen, people can start to conform. If you are finding yourself apologizing a lot - you might just be people-pleasing! Don’t fall into the trap of people pleasing, this only leads...

When it comes to love, do you give it unconditionally?  Does it come to you unconditionally?  As we go through life, we often encounter people who have past feelings about love.  In today's episode, Tonesha discusses rejection, unfulfilled expectations, feeling unloved, miscommunication, and failed relationships.  It's time to review past feelings so we can move forward and give reciproc...

How often have you found yourself in a space where you are agreeing to do things for others just to make them happy?  You find yourself people-pleasing.  This is a learned behavior from years of others looking at you and expecting things from you.  And it’s time to look at yourself and see something different. We all have the RFB (Resting Bitch Face) but that’s not something you can always control...

When was the last time you had a true conversation with yourself?  One where you looked at yourself and the relationships around you and took a deep dive into what those are, who those people are, and what that all means to you.  Are there some hurts out there that need forgiveness?  Maybe they need some healing?  Perhaps you just ignore it and think the pain will go away. Today, we’ve recorded a...

Do you find yourself asking for help in all the wrong places?  You’ve got a tight-knit group of ‘your’ people, you’ve been friends forever.  Or maybe it’s a loved one you rely on the most.  But when you are trying to expand your business or even yourself, are these the right people to be giving you advice?  Are these the ones that are going to propel you forward to the next evolution of you? Somet...

Are you feeling like life is moving too fast?  You’re on this trajectory to spin out of control because you need to keep going, keep moving, and keep progressing forward at the speed of light.  But what if you slowed down?  What if you decided to stop, reflect, and BREATHE! Tonesha is back with another episode focused on you.  Don’t let the past sadness creep in.  Don’t let other projections of yo...

Depression can hit everyone.  Beautiful people, funny people, people that LOOK like they have it together.  Depression has no prejudices against people, it can and most likely touch everyone at some point in their life.  The important part is to have a support system you can use to help guide you along the way—someone special to talk to and someone you trust. We often lie to ourselves and others a...

It's no secret that you've been busy at work making changes.  You've been working hard on your business.  Working on yourself for personal gain or spending more time in your relationships.  The results are now beginning to show.  As a result of the changes you made, you are reaping the benefits.  Are you accepting them?     Tonesha is back with accolades for you.  You need to trust...

Have you been told you are a strong woman?  That you can take on anything?  But can you?  Or do you want to?  We are talking to a guest, Stephanie Barthelmes, and discussing those concrete necklaces people put around our necks.  We don’t have to be ‘strong’ women to get things done.  We aren’t always supposed to be the strong ones – and that is OK!  Our superpowers are to give life, encourage, and...

Are you asking for help?  Does asking for help seem like a weakness to you? In the absence of help, you may find yourself suffering from perfectionist issues or attachment addictions, or even clinically diagnosed with maladaptive perfectionism.  In most cases, we struggle with finding a balance between striving to be the best and not achieving greatness because perfection holds us back.  Goals are...

Have you let go of your bad habits?  It's not just any bad habit I'm referring to, but rather ones we developed based on our past trauma.  These are the reactions we create when we do not receive the best from our partners, parents, friends, or relatives.  We take on all the responsibility and accept the mess.  It's always with us, but we haven't learned how to let it go. Our t...