Yay to be Gay - Relationships and more...

It is the season one finale, and Erwin and Mau are talking about friendships: the ones that survive distance, the ones that slowly fade, and the chosen family that helps us feel like we belong. In this episode the husbands reflect on over 20 years together, from early London friendships and gay community to moving to the Netherlands, building new connections, and learning that friendship is not al...

What happens when two husbands, married for over 20 years, pull questions from conversation cards and answer them honestly? In this episode, Mau and Erwin talk about the small everyday truths that shape a long-term relationship. It is funny, vulnerable, occasionally chaotic, and full of the kind of relationship honesty that only comes from years of love, eye-rolling, and learning how to stay curio...

Arguments happen in every relationship but the real question is: what are they trying to say? In this episode, Mauricio and Erwin unpack the good, the bad, and the petty of arguments in long-term relationships. Drawing on more than 20 years together, they talk about conflict styles, unmet expectations, emotional triggers, timing, repair, and the ways arguments can either create distance or deepen...

In this episode, we do something a little different: noscript, no prep, just questions, honesty, laughter, and whatever comes up in the moment. Inspired by connection-based storytelling games, we taketurns asking each other thoughtful, funny, vulnerable, and sometimes spicy questions about our relationship. What follows is a real conversation about affection, intimacy, fear, attraction, queer love...

What happens to intimacy when a relationship lasts long enough to have chapters and inside jokes that need footnotes? In this episode Erwin and Mau talk honestly (and with plenty of humour) about desire, emotional connection, and how intimacy actually changes when you’ve been together for decades not just a few very enthusiastic years. They unpack why talking about intimacy can feel awkward (thank...

In this intimate and insightful episode, Erwin and Mau explore how their parents shaped and sometimes failed to shape their identities, emotional needs, and adult relationships. From Mau’s conservative Brazilian upbringing to Erwin’s structured Dutch family life, they reflect on culture, religion, silence, affection, and the complicated path toward self‑acceptance. They discuss: How childhood dyna...

Mau and Erwin open up about the impact of ADHD on their 20+ year relationship; from Erwin’s late diagnosis to the everyday realities of living, loving, and laughing through neurodiversity. This episode blends vulnerability, humour, and practical wisdom as they explore how ADHD shapes communication, emotional patterns, conflict, creativity, and connection. They discuss the journey through diagnosis...

In this episode, we unpack one of the most emotionally charged questions queer couples face: Do we want children and what does it take to get there? Drawing from their own lived experience, the hosts explore the complexities of queer parenthood, including adoption processes, surrogacy, societal expectations, and the pressure to follow a “traditional” life path. They also highlight the beauty of ch...

After 18 years in London, we packed up our lives, our marriage, and our pugs — and moved to Haarlem in the Netherlands. In this episode of Yay to Be Gay – Relationships and More, we unpack the emotional, logistical, and deeply personal journey of relocating countries as a queer couple in our 40s. We talk about why we left London, how Brexit shaped our sense of belonging, what it’s really like to i...

In this candid, funny, and deeply honest episode of Yay to Be Gay – Relationships and More, Erwin and Mau reflect on their own 20-year relationship and the unconventional, practical, and profoundly loving reasons behind their decision to marry. From immigration struggles and cultural misunderstandings to legal protection, emotional commitment, and the quiet work of growing together, they explore w...

In this episode of Yay To Be Gay – Relationships and More, husbands Erwin and Mau take you on a heartfelt, hilarious, and deeply honest journey through their 20-year love story. From a chance night out on Old Compton Street in 2004, to moving in together just two months later, to navigating cultural differences, money, chores, communication, and life across countries, this episode is a celebration...

In this intimate bonus episode of Yay to Be Gay – Relationships and More, Erwin and Mau explore a powerful storytelling card experience inspired by the work of Esther Perel opening the door to childhood memories, cultural identity, sexuality, infidelity, loneliness, aging, and the moments that quietly shape a life together. With warmth, humour, and disarming honesty, they reflect on the choices th...

In this powerful first episode of Yay to Be Gay –Relationships and More , husbands Mau and Erwin share their personal stories of growing up gay in Brazil and the Netherlands, navigating cultural expectations, coming out, and building a life together. They explore what “Yay to Be Gay” truly means: living authentically, embracing diversity, shaping life on your own terms, and celebrating queer ident...