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Are you spiralling out in a chaotic divorce? Are the toxic cycles causing stress, anxiety and a fear that your new future will continue to be dysfunctional? In this short but powerful episode, Stephanie opens an old journal and shares the three boundaries that protected her sanity during a high-conflict divorce. Instead of reliving old arguments or getting pulled into emotional chaos, these bounda...

If you’ve ever lived with someone unpredictable, manipulative, addicted, draining or chaotic — you already know the cycle. They do something destructive, you react, they flip the blame, and somehow you end up apologizing for the thing they caused. This episode is the pivot point. This is the moment where we stop hoping the bull will magically behave like a poodle — and start guarding the door of o...

Leaving a toxic or dysfunctional relationship is supposed to feel like freedom… right? So why do you still feel grief, sadness, or doubt after walking away? In this episode of Worthy of Work , Stephanie Rivard breaks down the confusing emotional aftermath of ending an unhealthy relationship — and why your pain doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. You might expect to feel only relief and peace,...

I’m not here to tell you what to do. But I will walk you through the exact questions that brought me out of confusion and into courage — questions like: Am I safe here? Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually? Am I seeing real behavioral change, not just promises? What kind of example am I setting for my children about love, respect, and marriage? Have I left no stone unturned in seeking he...

The Let Them Theory has gone viral, but it’s often misunderstood. On the surface, it sounds like you’re supposed to let people do whatever they want — cancel plans, show up late, disrespect your boundaries, and just accept it. No wonder so many people worry it means becoming a doormat. But here’s the truth: the Let Them Theory isn’t about passivity or weakness. It’s about clarity. It’s about letti...

Pathological Hope vs. Biblical Hope What do you do when the hope you’re clinging to feels more like a weight than a gift? In this episode of Worthy of Work , Stephanie Rivard explores the delicate balance between hope that is rooted in God’s promises and “pathological hope” — the kind that keeps us stuck, waiting endlessly for someone else to change. Drawing from her own story of wrestling in a br...

Healthy relationships depend on healthy communication—and that starts with radical ownership. In this episode, Stephanie Rivard shares six simple but powerful communication skills that can transform how you connect with others. From dropping absolutes and judgment to separating emotions from thoughts, Stephanie explains how small shifts in language and tone can lead to more clarity, authenticity,...

What does “marriage is hard—it takes work” really mean? In this heartfelt conversation, Stephanie welcomes her very first guest—her husband Roland—to unpack one of the most common (and misunderstood) relationship clichés. Both having experienced painful first marriages and divorce, they share how that phrase once kept them trapped in dysfunction, tolerating behaviors that were actually incompatibl...

The full episode will be released tonight. I thought I'd share this little clip that made me laugh. I hope you enjoy a behind-the-scenes clip of my husband and me prepping for our first podcast. #WorthyofWorkPodcast #StephanieRivard #HerHandsomeHusband

Do you keep attracting partners with "potential”? Maybe they’re struggling, broken, or in need of rescuing—and you feel like it’s your job to help, fix, or carry them. It might feel noble, but what if that very instinct is what’s keeping you from the healthy, balanced relationship you actually want? In this episode of Worthy of Work , Stephanie Rivard dives deep into the Savior Complex —a com...

This phrase was a trap: “Marriage is hard and it takes work.” You’ve heard the phrase a hundred times — maybe you’ve even said it yourself. But what if the “hard” you’re living through isn’t the kind of hard a healthy marriage should have? What if well-meaning friends are unintentionally endorsing dysfunction or even abuse because this phrase is left vague and unexplained? In this episode of Worth...

Have you ever felt responsible for fixing someone else's emotions just so you could feel okay? Maybe you’ve called it empathy—but what if it’s something else? In this episode, we unpack the differences between empathy, enmeshment, and codependency—three behaviors that often look similar on the surface but come from very different places inside of us. Using a puppet show analogy, Stephanie expl...

Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? In this episode of Worthy of Work , we unpack one of the most common character defects: people pleasing . It's often mistaken for kindness but it's actually fear, control, and dishonesty in disguise. Stephanie breaks down how people pleasing develops (especially for those raised in disrupted homes), how it shows up in adult relationships,...

If someone handed you a moldy sandwich and insisted it was fine, would you eat it? Sounds ridiculous, right? But we do this all the time in relationships. We take in dismissive comments, gaslighting, and rejection as if they define our worth or rewrite what we know to be true. In today’s episode, we’re talking about discernment — the vital (and often forgotten) relationship skill of trusting your...

Going through a divorce or separation? You’re not alone — and you’re not broken. In this episode, I walk you through the 7 smartest things to do after a divorce so you can protect your peace, avoid painful patterns, and rebuild a healthier, stronger life. Whether your relationship ended peacefully or was long and toxic, these steps will help you process what happened and prepare for what’s next —...

The key to healthy conflict isn’t staying calm or keeping your cool — it’s taking responsibility for your part. In this episode of Worthy of Work , Stephanie Rivard explores the transformative power of self-ownership in conflict. When we drop the defensiveness, stop justifying, and take accountability for our own actions, tone, or inactions — we change the dynamic. Conflict becomes an opportunity...

Are you exhausted from doing it all… yet resentful no one notices? Or maybe you feel stuck, helpless, and like life keeps happening to you. Today’s episode of Worthy of Work unpacks two sneaky character defects — martyrdom and victimhood — and the subtle ways they keep us from healthy connection and honest self-responsibility. We’ll walk through how to spot each pattern, understand what’s really d...

Two character defects that block healthy connection and avoid self-responsibility. Listen to Season 1, Episode 13 for the full episode. #codependency #recovery #selfawareness #worthyofworkpodcast

Click Here to join the next free Masterclass: Boundaries That Work Episode Description: Have you ever felt like “acceptance” meant staying silent, tolerating dysfunction, or giving up your right to want something different? You’re not alone. In this episode of Worthy of Work , host Stephanie Rivard unpacks one of the most misunderstood ideas in recovery and relationships: the difference between ac...

In this episode of Worthy of Work , I unpack the misunderstood role of worry in relationships—and in our inner lives. For years, I believed worrying was either an act of love or a responsible way to solve problems. But worry didn’t bring solutions; it drained my energy, diminished my presence, and left me less capable of engaging with the people or situations I cared about most. Together, we explo...

A critical tool to de-escalate an argument, increase vulnerability, and build connection This one's for you if: You want to respond better when your partner is upset You’ve been accused of being dismissive or defensive You crave a deeper, safer emotional connection You’re learning to unlearn codependent or conflict-avoidant behaviors You're building emotional intelligence and recovery-informed rel...

Are the dynamics in your marriage healthy—or are there red flags you're missing? In this episode of Worthy of Work , Stephanie Rivard lists 9 marriage Red Flags, such as: Coercion or guilt in the bedroom Financial secrecy and manipulation Inappropriate friendships Neglect of family needs due to skewed priorities Hurtful "jokes" and emotional dismissal Whether you're confused abou...

In this episode, I unpack the character defect of victimhood — the mindset that sees life’s inconveniences and disappointments as personal attacks or signs that I’m stuck. I share how I used to frame myself as a powerless bystander in my own life, and how that illusion kept me from seeing the choices I did have. If you’ve ever said “I had to stay late” or “I have to do everything myself,” this one...

Ever find yourself sure you know what someone is thinking — or frustrated they don’t magically know what you need? That’s mind reading. And while it feels like a survival skill, it’s actually a relationship-sabotaging illusion and a character defect. In this episode of Worthy of Work , Stephanie Rivard breaks down the two dysfunctional ways we engage in mind reading: Believing we can read others’...

Feeling resentful? You're not alone — and you're not broken. In this episode of Worthy of Work , host Stephanie Rivard explores resentment not as a character flaw, but as a powerful emotional signal . Resentment is often our soul’s quiet protest — a sign that something isn’t working, that we’re overextended, unacknowledged, or staying silent when something inside us is screaming for change. We’ve...