Worth Recovery

Getting current is one of the first skills we can gain in recovery. In learning how to share our current reality, we learn how to accept where we are.  Once we accept where we are, we can actually make changes. Change can only happen when we accept our current situation. Getting current is how we begin to do that. In this episode, I share the importance of getting current and the obligation we hav...

Continuing our deep dive into Step 10, Amy discusses the third concept from Step 10 - When we were wrong, we promptly admitted it.  Step 10 is the time we really start to focus on the present moment and our present life. We have cleaned up a large portion of our past and are ready to really focus on the present.  This means we become more and more aware of our actions in the moment and how they ar...

Everyone has a right to speak their truth. If others don't agree with you, that doesn't invalidate your truth. If you don't speak your truth, it becomes toxic sitting inside of you. These are three realities that I've experienced over the last several months. Especially the last one. When I don't speak the truth of what is going on inside of me and what I'm experiencing, I end up at the bottom of...

Did you know that Self-Care was finally added to the dictionary? You now have a legitimate resource to help you prioritize taking care of yourself. If it’s in the dictionary – it’s real! Now, we need to look at what the definition of self-care is and what areas of our life we need to maintain and upkeep ourselves. It’s so much more than a pedicure or a night out with friends. Listen to Amy discuss...

The Implementation Dip is a massive part of the change process.  It has been studied in education for decades and is a massive part of the strategic planning.  It shows us that when we first start to change and put in maximum effort, we aren’t going to see the result we want right away.  In fact, we will see a dip in our performance and results.  In this episode, Amy explains what the implementati...

Continuing our look at Step 10, Amy dives into what exactly “Personal Inventory” is and why we need it in our recovery process.  The ability accurately self-appraise comes with practice and in time, yet it is a skill that can make the difference in the progress of our recovery. 

Marnie Feree is one of the pioneers of sex addiction recovery for women. Having been in addiction recovery for over 20 years - she was one of the first to ever show up in the 12-step circle as a woman. She conintues her work for women at Bethesda Workshops ( http://www.bethesdaworkshops.org/ ), the first outpatient intensive program for women in sex addiction.  In this episode, Marnie shares some...

We need our emotions. They keep us alive. They make the world worth living.  If we couldn't feel pain, joy, fear, anger, or love what would we do with ourselves? We need them. AND we need to keep them in perspective and in their proper place. And that place is NOT in the driver's seat!  In the concluding episode on this series, Amy talks about how we EVICT the emotions from the driver’s seat and t...

Picking up the series on the 12 steps of recovery, Amy discusses Step 10: We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. When we reach step 10 in our journey, we have done A LOT of work! So much work! And there can be a tendency to back down the intensity of the work that we have done. Step 10 is a call to action – listen to Amy describe some of the things we...

We need our emotions. They keep us alive. They make the world worth living.  If we couldn't feel pain, joy, fear, anger, or love what would we do with ourselves? We need them. AND we need to keep them in perspective and in their proper place. And that place is NOT in the driver's seat!  Listen to Amy talk about where our emotions need to be - and how you can figure out who's driving your path.  

In the conclusion of our series about the Karpman Drama Triangle we discuss how to GET OUT! There is preventative work we can do so we don't get sucked in. And there are things we can once we get inside to create space and help us navigate out of the triangle. You can change and learn to have healthy relationships!  I hope this helps! Resource links: https://www.karpmandramatriangle.com/ https://w...

According to a recent poll, 9 out of 10 recovering addicts said that having a sponsor was ESSENTIAL to their sobriety and recovery. That was definitely the case for me. And just as important to my recovery has been BEING a sponsor. It has made me grow in ways I didn’t even know I needed to. In this episode I discuss 5 of the major gifts that being a sponsor gave to me and share with you an excitin...

In the continuation of the drama series, I discuss how amazingly quickly we can shift between roles on the triangle. It is SO CRAZY! We all have our favorite chair, our gateway into the drama. However, we don't stay there.  We never stay there. Using several personal and other examples, I share with you just how quickly we can make ourselves sick on the cyclone of drama as we ping around from corn...

I have been so touched recently by how many of you have reached out asking questions or wanting to connect.  It is hard to reach out!  It is hard to ask for help.  In this episode, I share emails from two recent listeners wanting some connection and help.  Are you wanting connection and help? Reach out!  Let's start connecting! Episode links: Episode 42: Slips & Falls, Part 1,  http://worthrecover...

Once in recovery, the unmanageability of our lives slows down, thankfully.  Yet, there sometimes remains an element of drama in our relationships.  We ask ourselves, why is this happening to me? why do I seem to attract these people into my life? What is going on?  Find out why this is happening to you in this episode on the Drama Triangle!

Loss is hard. Grieving is hard. So many opinions, so many ideas, so many expectations to navigate. After attending the funeral for my sweet friends mother, my heart was so grateful for the things I've learned about grief. In this episode, I share some of the lessons grief has taught me recently and the hope I feel about the grieving process. 

With guests Jackie P. and Jon T. from the Thanks for Sharing Podcast, we announce and disucss new opportunities for those looking to start dating in recovery.  While there is a lot of support around those wanting to get sober, when you're ready to start dating, there are a lot of questions. Where do you start? What boundaries do you need? What are the stages of relationships?  How do I do this in...

My mom has always told me: Amy, you have the grades you are willing to pay the price for.  Amy, you have the spirituality you are willing to pay the price for. Amy, you have the piano skills you are willing to pay the price for.  Everything we have in our lives are things we are paying a price for.  We pay a price to live in active addiction.  We pay a price to live in recovery.  We pay a price to...

Telling our story is hard and scary. Publishing it for anyone to read is a whole different level. In this episode I interview Erica Garza, author of "Getting Off: One Woman's Journey Through Sex and Porn Addiction". Her new book tells about her experiences in her own life. You'll love hearing her story.  

I think we've all been there.... the place where we have to start over, again. And we start asking ourselves - is it worth it? I've tried this before and couldn't make it work. Maybe I'm just broken beyond repair? Maybe I just can't get sober, stay sober, date, be successful, have a relationship, or any other number of things in our lives that we want. Why keep putting myself through this??  I fee...

When we grow up in dysfunctional systems, we learn to protect ourselves. One of those survival mechanisms is keeping ourselves small, invisible, unknown. At the same time, we often develop a hyper vigilance to thosearound us and feel like we know everything about them. Or we can go the opposite way--overexposing ourselves and being shameless in our interactions with others. Listen to Amy share her...

Our world is not linear. Yet, many times we think that is how it “should” be. We work through something, trauma, addiction, relationships, mother issues, or whatever it is, we feel some resolution around it, and we think that is over. Then weeks, months, or maybe even years later, something happens and here we are stuck back in the middle of it again. We say to ourselves – I worked through this al...

Using a recent entry from her journal, Amy discusses daily courage. How do we find the daily courage needed to face the overwhelm we sometimes feel?  How do we practically find the courage to stay present, say no, trust others and challenge the scarcity mindset we sometimes find ourselves in? In this episode, Amy offers some suggestions on how we build and maintain courage in our lives and issues...

Committing to recovery takes courage. Especially in those early days when you aren’t quite able to stay sober or when every step you take feels like the wrong one.  Commitment is needed when you’ve been doing recovery for a while and you realize that it’s not quite working for you anymore. Using her experience in education, Amy talks about developing a Growth Mindset and how that builds and gives...

Recorded on a recent trip to California, Amy shares some of her recent experiences requiring the courage to slow down. In our world, it is easy to give into the break-necking speed of our society and culture. What we really need, in order to be successful in recovery, is the courage to slow down and live what is right in front of us, love who is in front of us and take care of the needs right in f...