Wine, Dine, and 69

On the final episode of the pod (as well as WD&69’s five year anniversary), Rachel reflects on the last five years and everything she has learned from running the podcast. She is then joined by her *drumroll, please* prometido (fiancé), Javier. Javi also happens to be the pod’s biggest fan. The two of them discuss work/life balance, immigration, living in Spain, their engagement, personal grow...

In the penultimate episode of the Wine, Dine, ad 69 Podcast, Rachel talks about gratitude, growth, and the Johari Window model.  She then welcomes back repeat guest, Leah Spasova. This time, the two of them are diving into a conversation about complementary dynamics in relationships. They discuss how attachment styles play a role, taking accountability for our own part in toxic dynamics, how to br...

Rachel welcomes her close friend Laura – a fellow Michigander, editor, and Buffy enthusiast –  to WD&69. Laura recounts some of her dating horror stories, shares red and green flags, and offers insights into the unique challenges of dating as an Asian woman. They also touch on the historical silencing of Asian women in society and  discuss the distinction between “alone” and “lonely”. Finally,...

Rachel is on her way back to the States and checks in with listeners during her layover in Lisbon. Then, she is joined by author, podcaster, and speaker Kristyn Schott. Kristyn has done a lot of personal work working through perfectionism, OCD, and disordered eating. The two of them discuss deconstructing and unbecoming in the name of self-love, happiness, and faith. They also share a number of bo...

Rachel sits down with former guest turned friend and co-worker: Lindsay Dellinger. Enjoy being a fly on the wall as Rachel and Lindsay chat about the current political hellscape, immigration, mental health, resilience, letter-writing as processing, and so much more. Episode Notes: About Lindsay:  Swipe Write: A sometimes hilarious, sometimes sad, always brutally honest account of 20 online dates w...

Rachel talks a bit about what has been going in her life and what lies ahead for the Wine, Dine, and 69 Podcast. She is then joined by Stephany Ann, an accomplished lawyer, author, and survivor of two abusive marriages. The two of them discuss how to recognize narcissism, escaping the abuse cycle and trauma bond, and healing through belief. Episode Notes: Conversation with Stephany Ann begins at 0...

Short Description: Rachel sits down with one of her dearest friends in the world, and repeat guest, Samantha Simpson. The two share a candid conversation about growth, dating, the future of the pod, and more.  Episode Notes: Conversation with Sam begins at 00:00:43. Mentioned in this episode: Sam’s first pod ep, Episode 72: “Intention and Introspection with Sam”: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4...

Rachel talks about election anxiety and the book, The Fourth Turning. She is then joined by this month’s guest, Missy XD, author of Tales of a Phone Sex Girl .  They talk about sex work, intimacy, anonymity, and of course, Missy shares some stories from her time on the job! Episode Notes: Conversation with MissyXD begins at 00:12:50. Follow Missy XD: Book: Tales of a Phone Sex Girl, By Missy XD (2...

Rachel talks about change, values, and self love before jumping into this timely conversation with this weeks’ guest, Jenny Ferrante. Jenny shares her story and talks about what self love is, the importance of self love rituals, and so much more! Episode Notes: “Self-love is accepting where I am, right now.” - Jenny Conversation with Jenny begins at 00:15:59. Follow Jenny: Website/Free Guide: http...

Rachel covers some odds and ends before jumping into the last interview of the season with Leah Spasova. Leah is a sex and relationship psychologist as well as the founder of the Sexperts Business Community and a new platform called Life Sexplicit. Leah and Rachel discuss sex education  and one of the biggest threats to our sex lives: censorship.  Episode Notes: Conversation with Leah begins at 00...

Rachel keeps the intro short with a few brief musings before introducing her guest, Amy Reiley, an expert on aphrodisiacs. Amy and Rachel talk all about  what an aphrodisiac is, the history of food and sex, and, of course, foods that contribute to a healthy sex life. Episode Notes: Conversation with Amy begins at 00:012:06. Follow Amy Reiley: Website: https://www.eatsomethingsexy.com/   Facebook:...

Rachel talks about making moves and different types of therapy before introducing her guest and friend, Brooke McCarthy. Brooke produces and performs the one-woman show, How to be an Ethical Slut, a journey of how “an unethical slut penetrates lies, STDs, triads, and orgies in her musical  journey to becoming an ethical slut.” They talk about the show, art vs life, and how performance can be a cre...

Rachel follows up on the last episode and talks a bit about learning and attachment styles before introducing her guest, Trevor Justice of “Attract Love and Respect”. Trevor talks with Rachel about anxious attachment and people pleasing tendencies - how to notice anxious attachment in yourself, how to cope with uncertainty, and how to work towards becoming more secure in your relationship(s).  Epi...

Your host, Rachel, is the storyteller this week…she finally shares  what has been going on in her C-PTSD journey, the past, healing, and changes for the podcast going forward.  CW: sexual assault, abusive relationships, C-PTSD, PMDD Episode Notes: "InkBlot with Manan" Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4HpnU3vJ6qM6tlAQVv3rSQ EMDR: https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/treatments/eye-mov...

Rachel chats about Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn, and provides caution to fans leading up to the release of Taylor’s new album. Let’s not jump to conclusions and make assumptions, ok? Then, she is joined by Cindy Scharkey, a licensed nurse and sex educator! They talk all about the vagina: anatomy, the G-spot, female ejaculation vs. squirting, methods for enhancing female pleasure during penetration,...

Earthquakes, eclipses, epiphanies, oh my! Rachel talks about recent shakeups and shares some Gone Girl wisdom about the proverbial “cool girl” before jumping into her conversation with Keshia about combating  feminine myths, setting boundaries, and dating authentically to find your perfect partnership.  Episode Notes: “It is so ingrained in us to be dependent on others. It is so ingrained in us to...

Rachel ponders how we, as humans, change over the course of a life. She talks about changing attachment styles, the love languages, then chats a bit about the viral “Who the Fuck Did I Marry” tik tok saga. She then welcomes erotica writer Ruan Willow and the two discuss the differences between porn and erotica, how to write erotica, audio erotica, and more! Episode Notes: Conversation with Ruan be...

Rachel talks about how imposter’s syndrome and perfectionism play into one another and shares some musings about non-monogamy.  She is then joined by Jess, who shares her own journey to non-monogamy and all that she has learned along the way. The two of them discuss terminology, rules vs boundaries vs relationship agreements, dealing with jealousy, and so much more! Episode Notes: Conversation wit...

Rachel covers a few thoughts slightly related to today’s interview, and then jumps into her conversation with Daphne Wells. Daphne shares her story of realizing she was in an abusive relationship, how she got out, and how she used spirituality as a tool to heal. Episode Notes: Conversation with Daphne begins at 00:09:51.  Follow Daphne: Website: https://daphnewells.com   Book: DECIDE - Choose Your...

Rachel chats about how to maintain a healthy long-term relationship in the forms of romantic competence, EQ, and emotional regulation. She then welcomes intimacy coach Amy Color who helps men with intimacy blocks and the two of them chat about porn addiction and male intimacy.  Episode Notes: Conversation with Amy begins at 00:12:08. Follow Amy: Website: https://www.amycolor.com/   Amy’s TEDx Talk...

In this special 100th (!!!) episode of the pod, Rachel muses about life, love, and theatre before talking about Mental Health Tik Tok and how we can make it better. She then runs an in-person conversation she had last May with Rob of Rob’s 10k friends, whose goal is to make connections with 10,000 strangers.  Episode Notes: Conversation with Rob begins at 00:14:50. Follow Rob Lawless/Rob’s 10k Fri...

Rachel chats about maintaining love in long term relationships, male birth control options, and gives listeners an introduction to Playground. Then, she talks with gynecologist Dr. Shyama Mathews about all the myths surrounding sex education. They talk about birth control, natural cycles, vaginal health, and so much more! Episode Notes: Conversation with Dr. Shyama Mathews  begins at 00:15:17. Fol...

Rachel reflects on 2023 and considers what is to come in 2024. She is then joined by her guest, Phyllis Leavitt, author of the upcoming book, America in Therapy . She and Rachel discuss how the issues we see in families are reflected in our government and how therapy practices can benefit not only individuals, but America as a whole.  Episode Notes: Conversation with Phyllis begins at 00:12:27. Pr...

“Always know your why” - Daisy Rachel talks about defending the Kinsey Institute and transformation across time before welcoming her guest, transformation coach Daisy Hilbrands. Daisy and Rachel discuss values, communication, staying curious in a relationship, and so much more! Episode Notes: Conversation with Daisy begins at 00:09:38. Follow Daisy:  Website: https://www.hilbrands.coach   Wheel of...

Rachel talks about one of her favorite things…Buffy! Oh, and she also talks about spiritual and somatic practices and the interplay with one another. Then, she and her guest, Nickie-Jean, discuss spirituality, shadow work, and the difficult work of self growth.  Episode Notes: “There is divinity within each situation, there is divinity within you. You have what it takes within you to move from the...