Why I Hate Being a Wife

He goes to work… and calls it sacrifice. Meanwhile, she’s working too, at a job, at home, or both. She’s raising children. Managing everything. Carrying the mental load. Maybe she’s pregnant. Maybe she’s in school. Maybe she’s doing all of it at once. And somehow… none of that counts. In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the biggest lies women have been fed: That a man having a job is “sacr...

Content note: discussion of financial control, dependency, and marital power dynamics. Financial abuse doesn’t always look like locked bank accounts or empty wallets. Sometimes it looks like being questioned over groceries while he spends freely. Sometimes it looks like “our money” turning into his money. Sometimes it looks like giving up your career “temporarily” and waking up six years later fin...

Marriage is often sold as the ultimate partnership, where both people build a life together and thrive. But when you look at the day-to-day reality, who is actually benefiting the most? In this episode, I talk about the imbalance many women experience in marriage. The mental load, emotional labor, and expectations that often fall on one partner while the other believes simply working and providing...

Everyone tells women that marriage is “work.” That you’re supposed to push through. Pray harder. Be patient. Think about the kids. Remember your vows. But nobody ever tells you when enough is enough. In this episode, I talk about the breaking point, and how hard it is to recognize when you’ve crossed from “working through hard times” into accepting ongoing disrespect, control, and abuse. We’re tal...

Men love to say they’re “good fathers” because they work and pay bills. But a paycheck is not parenting, and money is not a childhood. In this episode, I break down the lie of the provider-only father: the man who thinks his job ends with a deposit, while the mother does everything else. The feeding, bathing, schooling, emotional regulation, doctor visits, bedtime routines, sleepless nights, disci...

He finds time for everything he wants. His hobbies. His trips. His interests. His rest. But when I need help, real help, suddenly there’s no time. In this episode of Why I Hate Being a Wife, I talk about selective availability: when a husband is fully available for his own priorities but consistently unavailable for his wife’s needs. We talk about: Why he can make time for what he wants but not wh...

When couples are done having kids, someone has to take responsibility for permanent birth control. And somehow, it’s still expected to be the woman. Even when the safer, simpler option is a vasectomy. In this episode of Why I Hate Being a Wife, I break down the vasectomy vs hysterectomy (and tubal ligation) double standard, and why women are still expected to undergo major surgery to protect men’s...

This is an uncomfortable conversation, but it’s a necessary one. In this episode of Why I Hate Being a Wife, I talk about bodily autonomy inside marriage, specifically what it means when a husband refuses to use protection despite being asked. This episode explores: When consent becomes assumed instead of respected Why refusing protection is about control, not trust How marriage is often treated l...

If I could go back and talk to my younger self before she got married, I’d tell her the truth. Not the romantic version. Not the “marriage is teamwork” version. The real version. In this season finale of Why I Hate Being a Wife, I’m sharing what I wish someone had told me before I became a wife — about the invisible labor, the identity loss, the sacrifice culture, and how fast “partnership” can tu...

Nothing kills attraction faster than having to parent the person you married. In this episode of Why I Hate Being a Wife, we talk about the mother-child dynamic that quietly forms in so many marriages. Where you’re not a partner, you’re the manager. The reminders. The delegating. The follow-up. The “Just tell me what to do.” The helplessness that somehow only shows up at home. And then everybody w...

Let’s talk about the thing wives are expected to do like it’s normal: sacrifice. Not the cute kind. Not the “compromise” kind. The life-altering kind: Your career becomes flexible (or disappears) Your body changes permanently Your dreams get postponed… indefinitely And somehow his goals stay protected like sacred property In this episode, I’m breaking down sacrifice culture. How society trains wom...

Somewhere along the way, I stopped being a person with a name and became a role. Not just to my kids. That makes sense. But to everybody. My husband, family, even strangers… it’s like my identity got replaced with a job title: Mom. In this episode of Why I Hate Being a Wife, we talk about identity erasure. How women go from being fully themselves to being reduced to “mom,” “wife,” “the default par...

Nobody warned me that marriage could cost me my friendships. In this episode of Why I Hate Being a Wife, I talk about the quiet, painful loss of friendships after getting married. The slow fade, the loneliness, and the identity loss that happens when your entire life becomes centered around being a wife and mother. We talk about: How friendships fade without a big blowup Why women lose friends aft...

What happens when being a “good wife” starts costing you your sanity? In this episode of Why I Hate Being a Wife, I break down the exhausting, invisible performance so many women are expected to maintain after marriage. The smiling, accommodating, endlessly capable version of ourselves that hides resentment, burnout, and emotional exhaustion. We talk about: The invisible labor no one sees Why maki...

The idea that men should be rewarded with sex for doing basic housework is insulting, transactional, and rooted in the belief that domestic labor belongs to women. In this episode of Why I Hate Being a Wife, I break down why choreplay doesn’t create intimacy, why it actually fuels resentment, and why doing the dishes won’t fix a relationship built on inequality. We also highlight why: • Sex isn’t...

In this episode of Why I Hate Being a Wife, I’m talking about something almost every mother I know experiences: Being the default parent. Not because we chose it. Not because we’re better at it. But because society expects us to carry everything. While dads get to opt in. I break down: • What it actually means to be the default parent • How schools, doctors, and workplaces reinforce it • Why dads...

If your partner can manage a job, learn new software, remember fantasy football stats, and troubleshoot complex problems. But suddenly “doesn’t know how” to load a dishwasher, make an appointment, or dress the kids. This episode is for you. In this extended episode of  Why I Hate Being a Wife , I break down  weaponized incompetence : what it really is, how it shows up in everyday life, and why so...

Today we’re diving into the truth behind the mental load. The invisible work that wives carry every single day. From remembering appointments to tracking the grocery list to planning everyone’s schedules, the mental load is a constant background program that never turns off. And it’s exhausting. In this episode, I break down: ✨ What the mental load actually is ✨ Why it falls almost entirely on w...

Every woman feels it but nobody talks about it. The moment marriage changes everything for you and almost nothing for him. Your name, your identity, your friendships, your body, your routines, your responsibilities. Slowly, quietly, you stop being yourself and become the manager of everyone else’s life. In this raw, honest episode, I break down how women disappear inside the role of “wife,” why it...

This episode isn’t about hating my husband or hating marriage. It’s about hating the role society forces women into the moment we become wives. The invisible labor, the unfair expectations, the emotional load, the loss of identity, the pressure to “be grateful,” the constant performance of being okay… even when we’re drowning. If the title makes you uncomfortable, good. We need to be honest about...