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Happy 4th of July! I am pleased to announce that I am in the process of migrating to a new podcast platform. While there may be some technical issues along the way, this change will allow me to focus more on VIDEO CONTENT. Stay tuned for more updated!

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with clinical sexologist & licensed mental health counselor Dr. Rebecca Eudy to discuss sex in long-term relationships. They discuss how sexual desire evolves as relationships grow, how past experiences shape our expectations, the importance of open communication, how to navigate differences in desire, the dynamics of pursue–withdrawal cycl...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with clinical psychologist and couples coach Dr. Isabelle Morley about building relationship intimacy. They discuss the complexities of building intimacy in relationships, why intimacy is something to be cultivated rather than rushed, the role of safety and vulnerability in creating real connection, how our past experiences shape the way we rel...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with martial arts expert Stephan Kesting about the psychology of martial arts. They discuss the evolution of the martial arts, the surprising relationship between martial arts and aggression, the psychological benefits that come from training, the lessons learned on the mat that can carry over into everyday life, and mindset tips for anyone con...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Cortney Warren about her new book, Letting Go of Your Ex: CBT Skills to Heal the Pain of a Breakup and Overcome Love Addiction. They discuss why breakups can feel so destabilizing, how longing for an ex can begin to resemble an addiction, the past experiences and thinking patterns that increase vulnerab...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with philosopher and writer Rebecca Newberger Goldstein about her new book, The Mattering Instinct: How Our Deepest Longing Drives Us and Divides Us They discuss why mattering is essential to human flourishing, what makes the mattering instinct uniquely human, the many ways people seek to matter, how the drive to matter can sometimes lead us to...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with executive coach and author Christian Van Nieuwerburgh to discuss his new book Radical Listening: The Art of True Connection. They discuss the importance of listening intentions, how to quiet internal chatter so we can fully focus on others, what situational cues we should pay attention to in order to communicate effectively, the role of cu...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with neuroscientist & author Dr. Joseph Jebelli about his new book, The Brain at Rest: How the Art and Science of Doing Nothing Can Improve Your Life. They discuss how rest supports brain health, why some activities we think of as restful aren’t actually restorative, the hidden costs of overwork, the role of the brain’s default mode network...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with sociologist Corey Keyes about his new book, Languishing: How to Feel Alive Again in a World That Wears Us Down. They discuss the essence of languishing, what most people misunderstand about living a flourishing life, the costs of seeking pleasure, the value of cultivating personal growth, the key ingredients to meaningful social connection...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with psychotherapist and author Dr. John Tsilimparis about overcoming adversity and his new book, The Magic in the Tragic: Rewriting the Script on Grief and Discovering Happiness in our Darkest Days. They discuss how to reframe grief as a source of growth, the difference between moving on and healing, the role of art and music in building emoti...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with performance psychologist Dr. Alex Auerbach about sport psychology and his new book, Called to Greatness: Your Personal Playbook for the Pursuit of Excellence  They discuss the essential elements of preparing for high-stakes competition, how to embody a mindset rooted in confidence and focus, ways to reframe nervous energy to enhance perfor...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with lawyer and author James Kimmel, Jr. about the science of revenge and his new book, The Science of Revenge: Understanding the World's Deadliest Addiction--and How to Overcome It. They discuss why the desire for revenge is nearly universal, the psychological forces that drive it, how it can mimic the addictive pull of drugs, the distinction...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with professor of psychology Dr. Daniel Wann about the psychology of sports fans. They discuss why people are drawn to sports, how identifying with a team can shape your identity, the personal and social benefits of fandom, how team identification changes the way you think, and the creative ways fans explain heartbreak after a tough loss. For m...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with clinical psychologist & couples coach Dr. Isabelle Morley about intimate relationship conflict and her new book, They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship. They discuss what healthy relationship conflict actually looks like, the underlying causes that drive most disagreeme...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with psychology professor Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren about the topic of leaving religion and his new book, Done: How to Flourish After Leaving Religion. They discuss why people leave religion, what it feels like when personal beliefs no longer match religious teachings, what parts of religion stay with them after they leave, how they reconstruct me...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with professor of psychiatry & trauma expert, Dr. Patricia Resick.  They discuss the difference between trauma and ordinary negative events, the defining features of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), how our thoughts can keep us stuck in distress, and what helps people truly heal. For more on Patricia, visit www.cptforptsd.com Why Do W...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with psychiatrist and author Dr. Joe Pierre about his new book, False: How Mistrust, Disinformation, and Motivated Reasoning Make Us Believe Things that Aren't True. They discuss how the internet has changed the way we learn and absorb information, how human thinking often diverges from objective reality, why it's so challenging to evaluate ide...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with experimental psychologist Dr. Thuy-vy Nguyen about solitude and her book, Solitude: The Science and Power of Being Alone, co-authored along with Netta Weinstein and Heather Hansen. They discuss the difference between solitude and loneliness, the benefits of embracing solitude, what happens when we have too much or too little solitude, and...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with clinical psychologist Dr. Gilly Kahn about ADHD in adolescence and her upcoming debut book Allow Me to Interrupt: A Psychologist Reveals the Emotional Truth Behind Women's ADHD. They discuss sex differences in the presentation of ADHD symptoms, the upside of ADHD thinking patterns, how rejection sensitivity can impact a teen's identity, AD...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with psychology professor & author Dr. Tovah Klein about raising resilient children and her new book, Raising Resilience: How to Help Our Children Thrive in Times of Uncertainty. They discuss why parents need to look inward before trying to change their child's behavior, making your child feel safe while encouraging exploration, validating...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with Richard & Colin Guare about executive skills in children and their new book, the 2nd edition of Smart But Scattered: The Revolutionary “Executive Skills” Approach to Helping Kids Reach Their Potential. They discuss how parents can distinguish ability from motivational deficits, the importance of addressing your child's environment, why...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with cultural psychologist Dr. Michael Morris about tribal culture and his new book, Tribal: How the Cultural Instincts That Divide Us Can Help Bring Us Together. They discuss the important elements of culture, how human coordination compares to other primates, the key instincts that facilitated tribal living, and how our tribal nature can be u...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with psychologist Dr. Barbara Kelly about the topic of divorce. They discuss the reasons why people pursue divorce, common causes of communication breakdown in a relationship and how to avoid them, strategies for detaching from an intimate partner, and how to manage divorce effectively when children are involved. For more on Barbara, visit www....

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with existential psychologist Dr. Clay Routledge about happiness & well-being. They discuss the extent to which happiness is objective, the distinction between pleasure and well-being, how discomfort can be an important contributor to well-being, and how nostalgia can be used to cope with negative emotions. For more on Clay, visit his websi...

In this episode of the podcast, Dr. Ryan Moyer speaks with psychologist Dr. Sue Jackson about flow states and her new book, Experiencing Flow: Life Beyond Boredom & Anxiety They discuss the characteristics of flow, common activities that can produce flow states, the arousal sweet spot that leads to flow, what elite athletes can teach us about flow, and some practical ways to experience more fl...