Why aren’t we talking about this

I'll be honest, my first reaction was suspicion. When Lorna Lyons told me she had a thriving business, earned well, and wasn't grinding every single day, something in me bristled. Is she a con artist? Is this a pyramid scheme? I sat with that reaction. And when I dug into it, I realised it wasn't scepticism. It was envy. Because I've spent years believing that to make money, you have to earn it th...

"She's so resilient. She's got it all together." That's the badge. And for a lot of high-functioning women, it's the thing that almost destroys them. When you've spent years accepting that label- being the one who copes, who holds it together, who doesn't quit and admitting you're not coping becomes almost impossible. And shameful. You're supposed to be the one who handles everything. My guest thi...

"LinkedIn is a jealousy machine pretending to be a motivation machine." Ooofff.. yep. Award season rolls around. Amazing job announcements. That campaign you wish you'd thought of. Everyone "thrilled, delighted, and excited." And you're sitting there feeling hot with rage wondering what's wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you. This is a live recording and we did not hold back. We talked about...

“Women, it's older women, and then it's urine- it’s the triple yuck” This is probably the most important conversation that I have had this year. I can not express how crucial it is that we change the whole narrative around this. 50% of women will experience them, 30% will have recurring infections and 30% of sepsis deaths in women started as a UTI. The scale of the issue blows my mind. Millions of...

Sometimes a book finds you at exactly the moment you need it and Chaos was that for me. We all experience it. Those moments where everything feels uncertain, where something is shifting, ending, or asking more of you and your instinct is to resist it. To panic. To or at least in my case, go straight to the very worst possibility.  But what if that’s not what’s happening at all? In this conversatio...

This week, we are doing something a bit different. I am talking about me. Why did I, at 41, decide to start a podcast… and start sharing stories about myself, revealing insecurities, and basically how despite now being an adult for over half my life I have no idea how to adult. --- Why Aren’t We Talking About This? is a series of honest conversations about the stuff we rarely discuss but probably...

Stories are how we make sense of what’s happening to us. But when something hard hits, most of us go quiet. We tell ourselves we’ll share it later- when we understand it, when it feels less raw, when there’s a neat ending. So we carry it alone. But silence has weight. And it makes heavy things feel heavier. Because there’s something that happens when someone tells the truth in real time. Not to fi...

We’ve normalised something quite strange. We take photos of our children constantly. First steps, first days of school, the in-between moments that feel too important to lose. And then we share them. Not always widely, not always publicly, but enough that those images start to exist beyond us. And on the surface, it all feels harmless. It feels like love, like connection, like a way of holding ont...

Everywhere you turn there’s judgement - do less, do more, be thinner, be softer, be stronger, be quieter, be grateful, be better. Society hands women a script and calls it choice, and we follow it: staying in careers that drain us, making life decisions to avoid criticism, having children or not having them based on what will be easiest to explain. At this point, so many of our choices aren’t even...

Grief. There is no one way to do it. And yet, when you’re in the thick of it, it’s so easy to feel like you’re getting it wrong - too much, too little, too emotional, too functional. Carrying on when you think you shouldn’t. Falling apart when you think you should be coping better. Grief is messy. Layered. Multifaceted. No two versions look the same. And the feelings it surfaces are often not the...

Infertility is a complex topic. And while conversations and support around it have come a long way in the 9 years since I went through IVF, there’s still one side that remains largely closed off. Male infertility. It’s often framed clinically. Numbers. Tests. Procedures. Analysis. But emotionally, it hits something much deeper. For many men, fertility is tangled up with identity. We live in a cult...

We live in a world overflowing with health advice. Protocols. Hacks. Blueprints for the “perfect” routine. Everyone seems to have a plan, a stack, a morning routine that promises optimisation and longevity. And yet, most of us (and I raise my hand here) are still exhausted, disconnected, inflamed, wired, under-fed, over-stimulated, under-rested. We’re not short on information. We’re short on self-...

I’d guess around 70-80% of people are somewhat miserable in their jobs. Many have done well - climbed the ladder, earned the big title,  but sit there day after day, quietly hating everything about it.  Dreaming of a slower pace. Of finally exploring the hobby that makes them feel alive. Of that startup idea they can’t stop thinking about; the one they’re convinced could change everything. But mos...

“Grieving people don’t need wise words. They need lasagna.” Death. It happens to all of us -  and to everyone we love -  but no one wants to talk about it. In Western society, death is hidden away. Out of sight. Out of polite conversation. As a result, many of us simply don’t have the language to talk about it. Several of my dear friends have recently had loved ones die, and I find myself not know...

Two weeks into 2026, the resolutions are in the bin, the fresh faced unstoppable January energy has faded, and you are now right back in the treadmill of life. Plodding on, doing the same old thing. But, what if, instead, you paused for a second and asked yourself this important question 'will I give these people one more year of my life?'. This can apply to work, but it can also apply to friendsh...

Christmas is supposed to be all twinkly lights and joy and chaotic family WhatsApps… but for a lot of people, it’s also the time when grief hits the hardest. The quiet moments get louder. The empty chair feels bigger. According to YouGov research for Co-op Funeral Care, 13 million people in the UK who’ve recently lost someone are struggling with loneliness and their mental health this Christmas. T...

I’ve been sober for almost three years now-  after a long, grey relationship with alcohol. One that swung between binging and self-loathing. Eventually, the morning-after anxiety just became too much, and I gave up drinking. I don’t know what I was expecting, but it wasn’t the full-blown reckoning that followed. I hadn’t realised how much of my life was centred around alcohol. Celebrate something?...

A passing comment at an ultrasound, that I didn’t think anything of to sitting in a conference room years later, going into a full state of panic. Dense breasts. Not a term that I knew anything about, yet, having them increases my chance of getting breast cancer 4-6X, AND breast cancer within dense breasts is often undetectable within regular mammograms, putting women with dense breasts at even hi...

GLP-1s are everywhere- whispered at school gates, dissected on Reddit at 2am, dropped casually into brunch chat like everyone suddenly got a medical degree. A year ago most of us had never heard the term. Now it’s Hollywood’s worst-kept secret, the NHS’s newest headache, and the quiet pressure sitting behind half the conversations women have about their bodies. But beneath the glossy “skinny revea...

When it happened to me, coming up to 5 years ago, I was mortified. Humiliated even. How could it happen to me. I was the person who worked hard, was focused delivered, and yet the business no longer wanted me. Enter shame spiral. I had equated my self worth with my job title. According to studies 44% of people will get made redundant at som point of their careers, yet despite the likelihood of thi...

Intuition. I would say mine's pretty strong- whether I actually listen to it is another story. In today’s episode, I talk with Sim Stevens about intuition: how it looks, how it feels, and how to tell when it’s really intuition talking. ---- Why Aren’t We Talking About This? is a series of honest conversations about the stuff we rarely discuss but probably should - big feelings, weird thoughts, lif...