Whole Heart Transformation

This week I discuss the character structure of adulthood/authority.  You might find it insightful to know what some of the deficiencies look like and some examples of why they might have taken place in your own story.  I hope you enjoy! 

We've been discussing different Character structures over the past couple weeks.  Today I will be talking about the Character structure of Integration.  Deficiencies in this show up as a lack of capacity for negative realities.  As we dive into it today, I hope it brings YOU more aware of the places in you that may need some strengthening. 

Attachment.  What does it look like and how do you do get your attachment needs met when you grow up in a home where normal needs are dismissed?  Today I discuss this on a deeper level, even beyond attachment styles and more as a character deficiency that can change, grow and heal.

Healing requires us to get face to face with the very parts of us we don't like.  Without that, we just won't experience the healing and wholeness we long for.  Today I will deep dive further into why we need to work towards moving into curiosity and grace with the parts of us we don't like or want others to know about so healing can take place.

Ever wonder why you take on other people's emotions or choices? Today I will be discussing some of the ways we do this and how this is linked to the character deficiency of Separation.  You may relate more than you think! Take a listen and let me know what you think.

My world blew up 3 years ago from my husbands secret sex addiction.  Little did I know that there were gifts along the way of this healing journey that were completely unexpected.  Today I am sharing what those gifts are in hopes that you'll be encouraged.

Why is it that we get stuck in our process to healing? Today I will be unpacking some of the reasons and how to move forward in the healing process.

Being known is the only way we will know if we can fully be loved.  The problem is that most of us are too afraid to be known for many different reasons.  What if being known is there very thing you need in order to have the love you always wanted? In this short podcast today I will be sharing more about this.

Forgiveness is regularly a hot topic.  Many people believe that forgiveness is a matter of will power and surrender.  But what if forgiveness requires us to take a different route than mere will power?  And what if there was a real way to know whether you forgave or not? I will be going over this topic today and providing a path to knowing how to forgive for good and to know when th...

Part 2 of Did I choose the wrong spouse and what I wish my momma would have would've taught me.

Today I discuss the many things I feel would been helpful to have known about marriage and choosing a life partner.  I believe this discussion can be helpful for any state of your relationship status, whether married or single.

When the overwhelming feelings of trauma hit our body, many things happen.  We can go against our values, feel out of control, freeze etc etc But, ultimately you are NOT your trauma.  Trauma is what happened to you, not who you are. I discuss in depth about who you really are and how to get through the trauma.

When we've betrayed the person we love the most, it's important to understand that by you helping them, it is the only way to heal the marriage.  When a betraying partner is reactive and not RESPONSIVE this puts the threat level in the body of the betrayed at an all time high.  If you want the marriage to heal then you absolutely have to learn how to be there for your partner who has bee...

Part 2 of Malachi's story.

As promised, my husband Malachi shares his story of what led him into a life of duplicity, sex addiction and secrecy as a child.  His attempts to get free and the unraveling of his secret life. You don't want to miss this episode!!!

Boundaries are essential to health and healthy relationship.  In order to understand the benefits we have to have had them established in our upbringing.  If we didn't get those skills as kids then we have to learn them as adults. Which can be really hard because we don't understand the gift they are to us.  In today's episode I explain boundaries in a way for you to understand so y...

Pornography is at an all time high.  And we have never been a more disconnected people.   Today I discuss the affects of porn and sex addiction and how this relates to attachment.  What we long for is security in our relationships and to know that we are truly loved despite our imperfections.  If we have no concept of secure attachment growing up, we have to go to something to attempt to get that...

Our body has an incredible alert system to let us know whether or not we have experienced healing and forgiveness or not. If our body still has reactions to things that are not healed we know we need to give more attention to that area.  When we can come at this with openness, love and grace, we can heal.  

There are many misconceptions around marriage that I personally found damaging. In today's podcast I discuss some of those misconceptions and how they affected me personally.   ******WARNING******* This is MY personal experience.  I am not saying that this applies to everyone.  This is my experience and what I learned and had to unlearn. Scripture references: 1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife does not ha...

If you haven't heard part one of "My Story" then go back and take a listen. In todays episode I talk about my failed boundaries and how I had to learn to incorporate them after betrayal.  Even if you haven't encountered a marital betrayal, I believe you can benefit from my story and how to grow in intimate relationships.  

I am finally ready to share more details of my story of betrayal, sex addiction, boundaries, a grueling process to healing and finally hope.  

Grieving.  Many of us were taught that grieving was only for when someone passed away.  But grieving is much more than that!  Our body needs to grieve the losses no matter what they are.  I discuss how grief should have been taught in childhood and reasons why we may not be able to grieve as adults.  I think it might blow your mind!

Using words to describe emotions seems as though it won't have an affect on how we heal. However, new research shows that emotions that are not expressed are a part of the missing link for healing.  Whether thats with ourselves or in relationships. I unpack the reason for this and why it's so important to start sharing these felt emotions whether you are a male or female.  I hope you gai...

What if sex could be so much more than what you are currently experiencing?  Sex within the context of marriage is one incredible union.  We are taught that in order to have amazing sex that we need to perform, wear outfits, lights off, candles on etc. and that will create amazing sex.  What if I told you that NONE of those things make sex incredible, in fact it can becoming boring,...

Our society is based on beauty.  All you have to do is drive down the street, see a billboard, an advertisement on your phone, a commercial on tv, magazines etc.  The list is endless on how to obtain beauty.  What if I told you that what you've been taught about beauty is wrong?  I will be discussing this in today's podcast.  My hope is to bring a new perspective so real c...