When You Don’t Know

It’s been 4 weeks since our precious daughter arrived, and I’m finally finding the space to sit down and process my labor and delivery experience. Going into birth, I truly had no idea what to expect. Like many women, I had heard plenty of stories that left me feeling uncertain about what my own experience would be like. But what unfolded was such a beautiful, peaceful, and positive birth experien...

In part two, I’m answering the questions so many of you sent in about labor, delivery, and postpartum. I’m also sharing what postpartum has looked like for me so far, what has surprised me, what has been challenging, and the things that have been most helpful as we’ve adjusted to this new season of life. Whether you’re currently pregnant, hoping to be one day, or simply curious about the experienc...

So many Christians approach dating asking: “How do I know this is the right person?” But rarely do we stop and ask: “Am I learning how to love someone well?” In this episode, we’re talking about how fear of choosing wrong can fuel relationship anxiety and keep people stuck overanalyzing feelings, doubts, attraction, and “signs” instead of actually building a healthy relationship. We discuss: • Why...

“If I just do this right, God will approve of my relationship.” Of course as Christians, we want to please God. That’s a good thing. But for a lot of people, that desire quietly turns into something else… the feeling that you have to earn His approval, His love, His acceptance. In this episode, we’re talking about how that mindset shapes your dating life more than you realize. When your relationsh...

“If it’s not a 100% yes, then it’s a no.” It sounds like solid relationship advice, until you’re someone with an anxious, analytical brain. In this episode, we’re talking about why that mindset can be so harmful for people who struggle with relationship anxiety. If your mind is always searching for certainty, analyzing your feelings, and looking for signs that you’re making the “right” choice, you...

So many people with relationship anxiety are focused on the wrong things in their relationship. We can get so caught up in chemistry, certainty, and whether we feel “enough” all the time… that we overlook the traits that actually matter most. And honestly, I think we assume the good traits we’re seeing are more common than they really are. Kindness. Safety. Consistency. Good character. We can trea...

If you’ve ever felt a sudden “voice” telling you to break up, and it came with guilt, fear, or shame, this episode is for you. In this conversation, we’re responding to a message that deeply moved us. A man shared that after hearing a sermon, he felt what seemed like conviction telling him he was in the wrong relationship and needed to leave, even though he loves his girlfriend and wants to serve...

👉 If you struggle with relationship anxiety or ROCD, one of the hardest questions is: “How do I tell my partner what’s going on in my head… without scaring them, hurting them, or damaging the relationship?” In this episode, we’re talking about how to have the conversation and how to know when you’re actually ready to have it. Because sharing your anxiety isn’t about confessing every intrusive tho...

The prophetic is often presented as a reliable way to discern relationships — but for many people, it becomes a source of fear, control, and harm. In this episode, we talk about spiritual abuse that took place in the context of prophetic language and relationships, and why relying on prophetic words to make dating or marriage decisions can be deeply unsafe. We unpack how “God told me” has been use...

What do you do when spiritual advice about your relationship leaves you feeling anxious, confused, or afraid of getting it wrong? In this episode of When You Don’t Know, we talk about the tension many Christians experience when church leadership doesn’t support their relationship — not for biblical reasons, but because of feelings, preferences, or a perceived “lack of peace.” For many, this create...

You’re in a relationship, but you’re unsure if your callings align. “What if this means we’re not meant to be together?” “What if I’m missing God’s will?” In this episode, we talk about why uncertainty around calling creates so much anxiety in Christian relationships, and why not having clarity doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. We also discuss how fear can disguise itself as discernment,...

Relationship anxiety doesn’t just make you overthink — it takes things from you. Your confidence. Your peace. Your ability to enjoy your relationship. And for so many people, the anxiety becomes so overwhelming that ending the relationship feels like the only way to get relief. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the real cost of anxiety and how it silently impacts your relationship even when...

What happens when two best friends start to fall for each other… but one of them is battling intense relationship anxiety? In today’s episode, we sit down with Pedro & Aliah, a married couple who went from friends to lovers — and had to navigate fear, doubt, and anxiety to get there. One partner struggled deeply with relationship anxiety and eventually joined our Relationship Anxiety Group Coa...

If you’ve been stuck in an anxious loop about your relationship — constantly questioning your feelings, your partner, or whether you’re in God’s will — this episode is for you. We’re breaking down the difference between reacting and responding to relationship anxiety, and why both can still leave you trapped in fear if you’re missing one key thing: your core beliefs. Many people learn to pause bef...

What’s it really like to marry someone who’s been married before… and already has kids? In this week’s Imperfect Love Stories, we’re talking with Tiph and Andrew — a couple who’ve built something beautiful out of life’s second chances. We talk about the fears, assumptions, and growth that come with blending lives (and families), and what it looks like to let go of “perfect” love so you can embrace...

Are you Team Conrad or Team Jeremiah? In this episode, we break down The Summer I Turned Pretty love triangle from the perspective of a marriage and family therapist and relationship anxiety coach. Joy walks Mathieu (who has never seen the show!) through Belly’s relationships with Conrad and Jeremiah — from first love butterflies to Jeremiah’s cheating to Conrad’s emotional growth and big confessi...

“Does God really take away something you love because He has something better?” This idea has shaped so much of modern Christian dating culture — but it often creates more fear than freedom. In this episode of When You Don’t Know, we explore the roots of this message, how it fuels relationship anxiety, and what it really means to trust God in love and commitment. Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyr...

You got married and thought the anxiety would go away—but the doubts are still here. “What if I made a mistake?” “What if this wasn’t God’s will?” In this episode, we talk about why anxiety can show up after marriage, how ROCD and spiritual fears play a role, and why it doesn’t mean you’re in the wrong relationship. We also share what to do if you’re stuck in anxious spirals—and how to avoid falli...

In this episode, we’re opening up about some of the heavy things we’ve walked through over the past month. Honestly, we almost didn’t share this—but it didn’t feel right to move forward without acknowledging what’s been going on behind the scenes. Trigger Warning: We talk about loss in this episode. If that feels too tender for you right now, please feel free to skip this one and take care of your...

Have you ever heard someone say the person you’re dating might be a counterfeit — someone sent by the enemy to distract you from “God’s best”? 😳 Whether it’s:     •    A non-Christian labeled a trap 🎯     •    A “fake Christian” in disguise 😈     •    Or even a good person who just isn’t your “divine match” 💔… This teaching has caused so many people to second-guess themselves, spiral in fear,...

In this episode, we explore how idealized expectations around love, faith, and life can lead to anxiety and doubt in your relationship. If your current relationship feels “off” because it doesn’t match what you always imagined, you’re not alone. We talk about: • The origin of unrealistic expectations • How unmet hopes can fuel anxiety and confusion • Spiritual pressure around “the one” and leaders...

Do you ever wonder if the differences between you and your partner are red flags—or just normal, human differences? In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between true red flags (the kind you shouldn’t ignore) and preferences (the kind you can work through with the right tools). We’ll walk through real-life examples—from faith and fitness to humor and ambition—and talk about how to tell...

In this episode, we’re getting real about what our walk with God looks like as a married couple—and how it doesn’t match the polished image a lot of Christian influencers put out. We talk about letting go of spiritual performance, not praying together every day, and learning to embrace a relationship with God that’s raw, honest, and personal. If you want to work with us, follow this link: https://...

In this episode, we interview one of the many people who has worked with us. Like us, she used to struggle with relationship anxiety but her healing journey got her to where she is now; married and happy. We hope you enjoy this episode! 1:1 coaching with Joy: https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy?typeform-source=stan.store Online community: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at

We feel it’s important for people to know that the thoughts you dwell on are physically changing your brain. It’s important to understand that we can’t indulge in anxiety. If you want to work with us, check out this link: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaZQF-cSGmkuC57wqyt_5Ha2rR-8I9kQxhM4GpWzkLe0sEBVNwyC2j3eEVI_aem_dhP9EorJwKO1WLPYB0chnA GROUP COACHING DETAILS: https://joy-d...