When life gets in the way. How can we find hope again?

The emptiness that remained What do you do when your thoughts are lost in emptiness and loneliness? You may try to keep thoughts calm the best you can, but it feels like they are eating you up and you may think that you are a bad person for not being able to keep yourself together and because you still have persistent feelings of sadness and emptiness even though a long time has passed since your...

"When life gets in the way, your heart risks carrying more than it can bear, Step by step loneliness grows in the shadow of silence. In loneliness, grief grows. But when words come to life, slowly from silence, grief becomes less heavy. Shared pain makes it easier to endure and can open up unseen paths. the difficult lives in the dark, but small glimpses of light can start shining in very gently,...

Grief Recovery, why? Unprocessed grief is almost always due to something emotional that has not been communicated. Therefore, communication is also key. To heal grief after a painful loss, you therefore need to find out if and what is left unsaid in the relationship, what is it that still takes energy and makes it difficult to move on in life? There is otherwise a risk of getting caught up in rumi...

The decline of a loved one . Seeing a loved one break down and gradually decline quickly or over a longer period of time is enormously painful. It can be felt both physically and mentally and be an almost paralyzing powerless experience. Noticing small or large changes; A more tired gaze, slower movements, a mind that loses the thread can be the beginning of an end we are not ready for. Welcome to...

Grief during the summer holiday season. Summer series; episode 5 Today´s episode is about grief during holidays and vacation, but it can also be representative for other specific times of year when you might feel extra lonely and vulnerable for individual reasons.   The summer holiday period or vacation, can be difficult since loneliness might be extra hard to handle. The summer season awaken...

This is a podcast about grief and loss and how we can find hope. How are we and how can we move forward?  Even if your life's greatest losses are not caused by death, this is still for you. Today I will talk about myths about grief. I think we can all recognize:  -Don't cry , can be perceived as; Don't show that you're sad through a reaction of crying, even though you're sad. This is eas...

Grief can manifest itself through emotional, cognitive, physical, and behavioral reactions. It is common that we have difficulty concentrating and remembering things. We can forget what we were supposed to get in the kitchen or what we would say or do.  It can also be difficult to make decisions and you feel confused. Sometimes we deny and find it difficult to accept what has happened. It doe...

Summer series; episode 2 Time and change. When life gets in the way, we often need to reprioritize time and think about what needs to . Maybe time just goes by without us feeling better.   When we talk about grief linked to time, we may think that we will get over the loss during or after a certain time, but it doesn't work that way. Every grief and loss are individual, thus the need for time...

Grief recovery helped me to heal and I decided to become a certified grief coach myself, since I also wanted to help others, which I do now; individually, in groups and proactively with seminars and through this podcast. So, my own experience led to a strong urge to share the tools. I also believe a lot in proactivity about how we as fellow human beings can support and be there for each other when...

Losing yourself I got lost between a goodbye and a why.. My colors disappeared. I got lost and in the silence, I became someone I didn't recognize. I didn't have the energy to look for myself right there and then, but in memories, in meetings with others, in notebooks, I found who I used to be again, and understood that sometimes you get lost, that it's natural. (Lanler 2024) The value lies in con...

" In the silence, it feels like you don't care. I want to share my story, my truth, dare to be vulnerable. I dare to make my cracks, my dreams and my thoughts visible. In the silence, I feel that you think my story and my thoughts are wrong, exaggerated or silly. I am met by a silence that hurts more than words. Your eyes look at your phone when I talk and I realize that you may hear but not...

“There is always someone who has it worse, so what I am experiencing is probably not so bad. Maybe it would just be perceived as petty whining or grumbles if I would mention it or talk about it”. (Lanler, 2024) This might be an example of how we think, diminishing our own experiences or not taking them seriously ourselves. Still our body and brain scream of pain or of need for support, help or jus...

  At certain times I find myself thinking more intensively about how I held my mother´s hand before she passed away. Her hand was warm. The warmth affected me. The warmth was there even though she slipped away further and further from me. I can still recall it, as if it was yesterday. But she disappeared from me and the next day the hand was cold. I clung to the feeling of warmth in order not...

I wish you welcome to this episode where I talk about feelings about the Holidays. We might feel as if we're within a labyrinth of emotions, trying to navigate, but without a map or a compass. It is ok to feel lost. Maybe you have memories coming back around Christmas, The New Year or other Holidays or maybe you are feeling lonely, without a person to share it with.  Loneliness can become mor...

Welcome to listen to this episode about loss of self esteem! Self esteem and self confidence are basic needs in our identity and perceåtions of ourselves. If we lose them, we can feel a deep grief, a loss of an important part of ourselves. When someone is undermining my words, they pull away the floor I am standing on. My feet start standing unsteadily and for each time it happens, it becomes more...

Grief recovery We don’t say good-bye to dear memories. We don’t say good-bye to love. We allow ourselves to be free and move on with the feeling that we have completed the grief process and the communication. Unprocessed grief is almost  always about something uncommunicated of emotional nature. Thus, communication is also the key.  We need to overview unspoken thoughts, words and feelin...

It is about love, priorities, time and care. Hold hands, listen, ease someone’s burden.  All the difficult feelings of a person taking care of another one, during a very painful period of time don't show on the outside. A person who cares also needs to be heard and cared for. This period of time is enormously challenging. It can be long or short. I want to share the last months with my mother...

When no one asks how you feel anymore but you feel like grief just hit you yesterday and your world is broken into pieces. When we meet a grieving person, our own feelings from losses can come to the surface again, which we might believe that we cannot handle. It might lead to us not asking, holding back and there can be a silence around grief and painful life changes. We hold back what we want to...

Sometimes we pretend to feel differently in order not to reveal ourselves and not appear vulnerable or weak because we do not want to be that. Sometimes we want to protect others so they won’t have to consider how to support us or what to say to comfort us. Maybe we don't want others to worry about us or make them feel uncomfortable in the situation. Sometimes we are just afraid to open up and be...

Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying -I will try again tomorrow. (M-A Radmacher) I was thrown to the floor several times by the fact that the person I loved most in the world got cancer. First time when I was a teenager and then again and again. Not having a dad around to contact or talk to, nor having any siblings, made it feel like my sit...

Sometimes I hear that the worst thing is silence. A silence that seems to signal that what has happened is not important, even though it is. We want to support, but how can we say and how do we ask? It is difficult to know how to behave and to approach the situation both for the affected person and people in the environment. It might even happen that no one says anything to the affected person. Th...

Early in life we learn that getting things creates happiness and a good life. We learn how to get and achieve things, but we don’t know what to do when we lose them. It is important to be able to heal our hearts when they are broken. It is not about broken brains and that means that only theoretical comments are not helpful. I give you a few examples of those:  Don’t be sad, you can have more...

In this episode I will talk about what I have been going through lately or am going through currently. Confronting all the memories. Suddenly old chapters in life come back. Things like a letter, a diary, a photo or a garment have made me reminisce of old times. Strong symbols for past times which have really shaken me. I have cried, smiled to myself, investigated my feelings as well as laughed at...

Today I want to share a short extra episode about spring or summer and grief These times of year can be a bit extra hard after a loss. Feelings of loneliness or feeling left out can become more obvious and painful. We might see couples walking hand in hand and their happy eyes and laughter can make us feel excluded from life according to the expected norms for the season. Spring and summer might o...

“How tired I am,  no more energy,  my body is heavy, my brain will not focus or cannot think.  I want to but cannot remember things right now. I am grieving.” (Unknown author) After a loss we often think that we ought to get back to work, school and other places as soon as possible. Agreements vary from workplace to workplace regarding how long you are allowed to stay home. Often we...