What to Say & How to Say It

Research shows us that resentment stems from envy. Little places where we resent either the other person, their circumstances or blessings... we can resent our boss's vacation to the Bahamas, our spouse's freedom in going to work (or getting to stay home with the kids), or our friend getting picked to lead a study at church, or being elected to an office. Sometimes we don't even know we are experi...

Jeffrey sat stunned. He couldn't believe his wife didn't even ask him before making the big decision to get a dog. He stared at the kids playing with the puppy in disbelief. The heat of anger and disrespect bubbled up within him. "You okay?" Suzanna asked. "No. But I'm not going to talk about it now." He left the room. How we choose to interact with our mate determines the course of the relationsh...

Jenelle opened her email and stared blankly at the notice from the bank... overdrawn... again. How could Stephan keep doing this to them? Both worked hard and wanted to build a nestegg for their little family, but Jenelle felt scared they'd even make the house payment now. When would the gambling stop? How could she help? She was angry, afraid, and didn't know what to do. Maybe it isn't gambling,...

How to be KIND in Conflict - Or maybe we should call this episode, "Why men can easily be interested in sex right after an argument..." Listen in as Nina and Shy talk about what kindness is, what it's not, and how to actually BE kind in the midst of a conflict. Pop over to our website and grab your FREE eBook, "5 Tools to STOP Walking on Eggshells," at  https://greaterimpact.org

"You're going with me tonight, right?" Lisa asked her husband, Daryl, when he walked into the family room. His heart beat a bit faster. He hated it when she did this. He'd already told her he was meeting his friends for dinner. Twice. He couldn't help it if she had a social she decided to go to after she learned his plans. "No, I am still going with the guys. We can do something tomorrow night." L...

"Lord, help me be patient, help me grow in this area." Every time I would pray that I'd get pregnant. Apparently, I'm a slow learner, as it took three pregnancies to discover patience isn't something God injects in us through the power of the Holy Spirit, but rather a MATURITY developed over time. I hate that. But it's His way, and it's wildly useful. Join Nina and Shy as they talk about how to de...

We ALL encounter it - selfishness. It's getting in the way of healthy mature relationships with God, yourself, and others. What's this about? What are some of the myths and lies around selfishness? How do we overcome it when it shows up in ourselves OR other people? You may be surprised with the answer. Tune in today as Nina & Kyle Hargrove take a look at this interesting topic. Check out our free...

You know the feeling, listening to someone judge another for doing a thing they themselves are doing... it's cringeworthy, and you want to respond. What do you do? What do you say & how do you say it? Join Nina & Shy as they explore dealing with the hypocritical people in your life. Check out our free eBook called "5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells," you can grab it on our website at  https://g...

Mikel knew he needed sleep. As he tossed and turned, eyes glancing at the clock, he wondered why his brain just wouldn't shut down. Months of stress left him short with his kids, angry at his wife, and less than his best at work. What he didn't know was he was not alone, nor did he know the secret to conquering stress and worry. Join Nina and Kyle as they explore how to stop worrying and start liv...

Amanda felt her chest get heavy and the weight sinks into her stomach. Why did she agree to the project deadline? She knew she had two other deliverables too close to that date! Frustrated with herself, feeling stuck and helpless, she recognized her people-pleasing tendencies at least... What she didn't know was how these small acts of "service" were never checked with the Lord. They had become a...

You know that moment when your throat gets caught, your heart starts to race, and you sense conflict coming on? Fight, Flight, or Freeze are your choices, thanks to our brain design. AND... because of woundings from our past, lies we believe and vows we have made. Join Nina and Shy as they unpack some details you may not have heard about Inner Healing Prayer and Deliverance. If you've been through...

We know men and women are different, but when we consider emotions, there's a lot of myths we hear which may or may not be true. Join us in today's epiosde where Nina & Kyle talk about how what we don't know about emotions may be in the way of healthier relationships. Want more info? Grab our free eBook Stop Walking on Eggshells from https://GreaterImpact.org

My heart raced in my chest, my shoulders lifted, tight. Jaws clenched, I felt myself getting caught up in fear. The cause this time? A hard conversation with an upset customer, but it could just as well have been a spouse, adult child, or close friend. Thankfully, those moments are few and far between for me now, and I give the credit to God. Today's episode covers some of the "how's" of healing p...

Carol's husband didn't know how to respond to his wife. Trenton loved her a lot, but didn't know what to do with her emotions when they were aimed at him. Carol had similar feelings and felt as lost as her husband. She didn't know how to handle his anger and was sometimes afraid of him. BOTH people were avoiding bringing up issues more and more, finding it too stressful to think about what could h...

Joanne couldn't believe what she was seeing on social media. her blood boiled at the insults and attacks towards Christians. She wished she knew how to interact in that space, she'd give them a piece of her mind if she didn't calm down. What could she say that would stop them in their tracks? Can you relate? The lawsuits, suspensions, firings and cancelling of people is getting out of hand. It's a...

Terrance sat in his car in the garage, considering walking through the door to see his wife and kids. Unfortunately, dread filled his heart, and his pulse quickened. If there were a way for them to have a conversation about important things without one of them coming unhitched and being mean... sometimes that was him, sometimes it was her, and then it didn't matter, it became both of them. Sound f...

Ryan stared in disbelief at his wife, Yolanda. Her words literally made it clear she heard NOTHING he had just said. Yolanda feels her throat tighten and the lumpy pressure begins. How many ways could she say the SAME THING and yet Ryan just doesn't get it, then blames her for not listening!! What's crazy is both people truly felt in the right, and unheard. Can you relate? Check out today's episod...

Joseph dreaded talking to his coworker, Steve. EVERY. Single. Time. Steve was difficult to deal with. Arguing, pushback, complaining, ugh. Joseph hated having to ask him for anything. Hopefully this time, things would go better; he really needed Steve's data for the quarterly report, and it was late again.... Susan wondered why her husband wouldn't change. She'd let him know so many times about ho...

Kyle's had his own life experiences with becoming more equipped at conflict and helps others do likewise. You know that feeling where you are heated, emotional, your partner doesn't understand what you're talking about, can't hear you, and so conflict ensues? Listen in to today's episode as Nina interviews Kyle Hargrove, LPC, about this challenging topic. Be sure to drop by our website at  Https:/...

Tonya stared with disbelief at her coworker, Elise. The words spoken over her were hateful, mean, not to mention unprofessional. Elise had a reputation for being a powder keg, and most of the staff avoided her as they never knew what would set her off. We all have a relationship with someone who has a short fuse. That anger often triggers an anger response in us, and so the cycle begins. Listen to...

You discover one of your closest friends overshares about a touchy situation in your life... and a few of your other church friends find out about it. You're angry, concerned about the gossip, and feel betrayed. What do you do? How do you solve this common problem, when someone injures you, even when it is unintentional? Aren't we supposed to just overlook the insults and turn the other cheek? Che...

Jesse spoke clearly and directly but couldn't understand why his employees didn't seem to respect him. Bob had a hothead admin everyone hated to deal with - including him. What to do?. Mary's sister-in-law reminded her (and the rest of the family) of a venomous snake in the way she treated people. Sound familiar? What if there were TWO communication tools that are MUST-HAVES for creating mutual re...

Karen's kids walked all over her. David had to ask his sons several times before they would do what they were asked. Mika got talked over constantly in meetings. Sound familiar? Maybe this isn't you, but even if it's not, there are a few tips in this episode to help! Listen in and be sure to grab our free eBook, STOP Walking on Eggshells at https://greaterimpact.org

Dina walked on eggshells in her relationship with her brother, her dad, and her husband. Oh, yes, also her boss. What kept her from being honest when they asked for her input? She deferred so much she felt invisible in all of those relationships. Why couldn't she show up like she did with her friends or her work team? In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina & Shy explore what's really...

Clara felt trapped in the hallway as she listened to Stefan drone on and on... and on... complaint after complaint about his work situation. Then he criticized the neighbor's poor choice of dog breed, noting the short legs of the Basset Hound and its howling. "I wish he would just shut up," she thought to herself. "He never asks me about me, the kids, my job... just more about him and his opinions...