What to Say & How to Say It

#ThrowbackEpisode You KNOW that feeling... the dread, the gut twist, the thing that happens when we agree to do something we don't want to do because we're afraid someone else will have a fit. I've had it, too. It's lousy. And controlling. We waste time walking on eggshells, and over time, the relationship degenerates into something super unhealthy. Want to STOP that? Listen to today's episode of...

Even Christians have differing opinions on this decision - here's what to do to avoid ESTRANGEMENT as an outcome - trust me, that's a real thing to be concerned about. Dig into our free pdf on "5 Tools to STOP Walking on Eggshells" at  https://greaterimpact.org  and build connection in your relationships today!

Clara felt trapped in the hallway as she listened to Stefan drone on and on... and on... complaint after complaint about his work situation. Then he criticized the neighbor's poor choice of dog breed, noting the short legs of the Basset Hound and its howling. "I wish he would just shut up," she thought to herself. "He never asks me about me, the kids, my job... just more about him and his opinions...

Repost in case you miss this episode. You discover one of your closest friends overshares about a touchy situation in your life and a few of your other church friends find out about it. You're angry, concerned about the gossip, and feel betrayed. What do you do? How do you solve this common problem, when someone injures you, even when it is unintentional? Aren't we supposed just to overlook the in...

Darla droned on and on about the doctor's appointment for their preschooler. She seemed concerned, but Nick couldn't remember about what, she took so many tangents when she talked. What was she doing that made it so hard to listen to her? Check out today's podcast with Nina & Kyle Hargrove as they talk through Emotional Physics, and the ONE skill everyone needs in their marriage. Grab our free dow...

Kevin realized early in his marriage that his wife had more patience, was kinder, and more gentle than he was. WHY? Finally, he asked her, and the answer surprised him, "No, baby, that's our Jesus you're seeing." Stumped, he asked God about this. How could that be a thing? What could HE do to allow Christ to rule his heart, mind, and words more easily? Check out this episode of What to Say & How t...

We get married with these notions of happiness and holiness and find ourselves struggling with what healthy actually looks like. Christian myths might be part of the problem. Join Nina and Kyle as they discuss myths some of their clients have believed, and how that impacts the marriage negatively. Be sure to grab our PDF on how to STOP Walking on Eggshells from our website, Https://greaterimpact.o...

There's a fine line between hope and stupidity, where we leave reality and keep having wishful thinking - that ironically often lands us in hopeLESSness. Listen in today as Nina and Shy talk about how the verse, Love always Hopes, comes into play when your relationship is a mess. Be sure to grab our free PDF called "5 Tools to STOP Walking on Eggshells" from our website,  https://greaterimpact.org

Jered listened to his wife's apology about the affair in the counselor's office. She seemed sincere, said she had changed her ways, but she's done that before, too. As a Christian, was he supposed to just trust her now? Love always trusts, right? Explore this Biblical command and what we believe it means with Nina & Shy in today's episode. Check out our free eBook, "5 Tools to STOP Walking on Eggs...

You want things to be different. Your spouse says everything is fine. What to do? What needs to be in place to change a relationship? Join Nina & Kyle as they dig into what the process is for change to occur in your relationships. Grab our free resource, "5 Tools to STOP Walking on Eggshells," from our website,  https://greaterimpact.org , and change your relationships today!

Javin saw his son struggle with the other boys at school, picked on, probably because of his accent. "I'm not going to slay your dragon, son, I'm giving you a sword." Join Nina and Shy as they discuss what it means for love to protect and how to notice if you're being controlling, as we talk about the best gifts we can give those we care about most. Check out our free eBook, Stop Walking on Eggshe...

Sheila recognized her daughter's silence as deserved. While right about the boundaries with a curfew, she knew her tone had been too harsh, and now her daughter wouldn't even look at her. What to do? Can you relate? Even when right, we can cause damage. Join Nina and Kyle as they explore what to do when we create relational damage. For more, check out our website and grab our free eBook, Stop Walk...

Louisa thought to herself, "Well, now THERE's some decent reaping and sowing! Serves him right! I told him so! Keep making fun of their daughter in front of her friends, and a day of reckoning was coming!" and there it played out, Seth receiving a tongue -lashing like nobody's business from his fifteen-year-old daughter. Can you relate? Ever feel just a little bit good when someone "gets what's co...

In this episode, we deviate from our normal relationship focus to deal with a "what to say" as a concerned citizen - if you live in a country where voting is a thing, NOW is the time to make your voices heard. If you live in the United States, please listen to this short episode. Below is the information on what some are saying is the groundwork for uncontrollable power...   There is a discussion...

David fell into bed exhausted after a long day at work, running kids to sports, picking the dog up from the groomer, and grabbing dinner for the family. Fast food. Again. Karla noticed him walk in the house and called out a cheerful, "hello!" Over the din of the kids, he barely heard her, grumped a "yup," in response, and slowly found his way to the den. An hour later, his wife found him there, ba...

"Stressed" was Billie's middle name. Seemed like everyone BUT she knew that, however. What could she do? With two kids in soccer, a demanding job, and a husband that traveled, things were BUSY. She was the hostess for the neighborhood book club, so of course, her home had to look beautiful. On the outside, she seemed like she had it all together, smiled a ton, made everyone's day a little easier,...

Eyes welling with tears, Louisa read the verse another time. Mikal confessed the affair only because she caught him - again. This made three women he shared himself with, violating their vows. Was God saying Mikal was off the hook with this? If she loved him, did that mean there were no consequences? Join us in today's episode as Nina and Shy pick apart this verse and apply it to our relationships...

June waited impatiently, exhausted, for her 9-year-old's baseball game to finish. She knew she should be more aware of what was happening on the field, but she found herself distracted by the thoughts and emotions swirling in her head and heart. Her husband's death left her with three kids, a mortgage, no job, and the reality of loneliness daily licking like flames ready to destroy what little sen...

You know it when you see it - a look, an eye roll, a snide remark. Love is the LAST thing you feel when those are tossed your way - especially by someone who claims to love you. What to do? How do WE keep from being easily angered ourselves? You won't want to miss this episode with Nina & Shy if you ever find yourself dealing with anger in your love relationships. Check out our free eBook gift for...

Deanna wondered if she should confront her brother about his behavior towards their mom. The older woman spent a ton of time alone, needed his help, and he lived so much closer to her than Deanna did. She couldn't tell if she was meddling or helping her mom out. She decided to call their sister, Claire, and ask her what she thought about it all. Can you relate? Got family drama? Wondering what to...

Few of us know that LOVE does NOT dishonor others - yet we year for being respected in our relationships. Join Nina & Shy as they explore what it means to dishonor, how to respect others AND ourselves, and why that matters in relationships. Be sure to check out our free eBook, "5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells" at https://greaterimpact.org and change your relationships today!

Heart in his throat, feeling exasperated, angry, and finally hopeless for change, Jerome threw his hands into the air. "I don't know why I even try. You are the most disrespectful person I know!" he shouted, storming out of the room. Samantha stood dumbfounded, confused, and began to tear up. She'd done everything she knew to do, asked if he was open to a different perspective AFTER making sure sh...

Christianity is full of myths, one being, "God won't give you any more than you can handle..." maybe that's true IN HIS STRENGTH, but everyone in the Bible and you and I today are being called outside our comfort zones daily. Join Nina and author and Bible teacher, Doris Homan, as they dig into a few Christian misquotes and misapplications that may be messing with your relationship with yourself o...

Louisa listened to Stewart go on and on and on and on... While her husband was intelligent and sometimes she did learn a new thing from him, she grew weary of time spent conversing. She often found herself feeling like she was in a lecture hall listening to a teacher drone on about the topic at hand. Stewart didn't have conversations, he gave sermons. If she tried to get a thought in, his condesce...

Every change, whether good or bad creates its own chaos - what we DO with that is important. Sometimes, we even need to START conflict so that the relationship can improve. Join in today while Nina & Kyle talk about the steps to change, the mindset that helps navigate change, and learn how to STOP being afraid of conflict! Be sure to grab our free ebook, "5 Tools to STOP Walking on Eggshells" from...