We're Not Fine

WNF Family, we did it! And we couldn’t have done it without you! Our 100th episode marks two years of growth, amazing connections, brilliant guests, so many great topics hi-lighting the interplay between mental health and relationships, new learnings and much wisdom imparted. Join us as we reflect on our 2 years, share BTS drama, bumps and bruises along the way, and honor our beloved team Alex, Ge...

In this episode, Dr. Talia Jackson and Doug Jensen discuss the five main personality traits: openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. The characteristics of each trait and how they manifest in individuals are explored. The hosts emphasize that these traits exist on a continuum and that there is no good or bad trait. The importance of understanding and accepting di...

Today’s topic is Dating with Daddy Issues in honor of Father’s Day. Here’s to all of the amazing dad’s out there who are showing up for their children with interest, affection, tenderness and consistency. You are changing worlds and preventing attachment issues. We applaud you! Today’s episode focuses on the wounds we carry with us when we have unmet needs from our own fathers’ rejection, disinter...

In this live recorded episode, Dr Talia and Doug have a chance to talk to the beloved former news anchor on KARE 11 Sunrise, Bryan Piatt. He started experiencing symptoms of Anxiety and OCD from an early age with no understanding of what was happening to him. The disparity between his perfect external presentation and his quiet internal suffering grew until he could take it no more. He chose to st...

In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia respond to real life couples struggling with mismatched libidos that are negatively impacting their relationships . One writer is breaking off an eight year relationship because they can’t meet their partner’s sexual needs and feels insecure and constantly pressured to give more than they are able to give & in the second couple, the writer has a much...

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug tackle one of the most common relationship problems; mismatched sex drives. In many couples, there is one individual with a more robust libido, who feels enough burning desire for intimacy that they are the default initiator, often creating a pursuer and distancer dynamic, leaving one member of the couple feeling undesirable and rejected and the other member of...

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia share their 50 years of combined experience in the couples’ therapy room. Being married is hard, even if you’re married to someone fabulous. What are the signs that there are some dealbreaker red flags brewing in your marriage? Resentments building that can’t be undone, trusts broken that can’t be repaired, differences in values and dreams that can’t align witho...

Meet Gao Motsemme, a Botswana born current resident of Germany, and mother of three from a long ancestral lineage of gifted intuitive healers. In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug sit with Gao as she takes us on her complex and unexpected mothering journey while needing to face her own mother wounds. “Why doesn’t my mother love me?” and “What is a mother without her children” are a few of the questi...

In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia hear from two people completely fed up with their spouse and ready for a divorce, but we feel that their decisions might be premature! We share the ingredients necessary to determine whether or not it’s time to throw in the towel. Is there willingness on both sides to work through this issue? If so, divorce might be further down the list of solutions tha...

You know the saying that when you wear rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags? Well, in this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug respond to listener voice notes about first date horror stories. These stories are full of cringe, red flags, and lewd tales of hook-ups and dates that have gone horribly wrong. Prepare yourself with a bowl of popcorn because you will be screaming NO! Run for the h...

In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia respond to two mailbags, both from people that explain why they have ghosted someone they cared about. And once you get inside the minds of the ghoster, you will see why they are disappearing, even if you could have sworn there was a connection and chemistry. Why oh why didn’t they just tell you the truth? It will all make sense, tune in! We're Not Fine https://w...

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug talk to Minneapolis based, friendship-focused writer and podcaster, Nina Badzin. Your friend hurt you badly. Until now you have never needed to have a difficult conversation about your friendship, but if you don’t, the friendship won’t survive. What do you do? To determine whether your friendship is salvageable, think about these three things. How meaningful is t...

In this episode Dr Talia and Doug look at two very relatable issues. In the first mailbag, a young father grieves his wife while his wife’s sister, who has been the greatest supporter to him and his kids, tried to sleep with him a month after his wife’s passing. And he hates the way he reacted. And in the second mailbag, a young man says he’s incredibly uncomfortable with the way his girlfriend pr...

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia tackle two heartfelt mailbags. In the first letter, a gentleman who has had no luck with women feels he did everything he could to revamp his look; fitness, wardrobe and haircut, check… but is still having no luck in the dating department. All of his friends tell him he just hasn’t met the right person but he is losing hope fast that he is anyone’s type. In the...

In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia talk to Andrew Davie, a true Renaissance man. He is an author of crime fiction novellas, short stories and memoirs about dating, managing OCD and recovering from his brain aneurysm. He is also a fellow podcaster as the cohost of happy hour with Heather. Join us for this fascinating conversation as Andrew shares his experience of surviving a ruptured brain aneurys...

Loneliness is a global health crisis. In this episode Dr Talia and Doug have a moving conversation with Anna Bonavita, a former physicist with a passion for culture, cuisine, and the natural environment. While grieving her beloved husband, and in the depths of loneliness and despair, she found comfort and community at a communal table in Italy and has brought this healing opportunity to one of the...

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk to author and sex educator, Demi Wilde about hook up horror stories (Talia won worst story! Woot woot!) We discuss stigma, down low online exploration of sexuality, which apps produce which kind of connections, all the kinks and fetishes, and pitfalls and dangers of modern dating! As you can imagine, the middle aged straight lady asks a lot of embarrassing...

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug have a lively conversation with Dr. Deb about how to deepen your apology after an affair. We explore the lack of resources available to the cheater, as most therapy, books and videos are geared towards helping the betrayed heal. Dr. Deb Miller's book More Than Sorry: 5 Steps to Deepen Your Apology After You Have Committed Infidelity helps those that have cheated...

In this episode Doug and Dr Talia tackle the scariest of all emotions; the contagious, heavy, and unmotivated wave of apathy. How to know if it’s a bad day or a bad decade, and how to infuse joy, motivation and passion back into your life. We’ve got your back! We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagram: @werenotfinepod Doug Jensen Profile: https://w...

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug speak with the enigmatic Hannah Spanke, who shares with us her rocky road from a toxic family into stripping and sex work by the age of 16. She wanted agency over her sexuality and thought of pursuing sex work as a sexual entrepreneur but ended up in a dark scary place ready to face her truth. And here she is, a truly enlightened young woman turning her pain to p...

Fight, flight or freeze; what is your go to coping strategy? In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia tackle Anger vs Rage. We talk about our family of origin as the source of how we learn to regulate and express our emotions, and we teach you practical tips to express yourself without pushing people away. Don’t swallow it down, because rage turned inward becomes depression. Tune in to this week's episo...

In this second live recording of our We’re Not Fine, Dr Talia and Doug dive deep into the experience of letting others in to the most vulnerable moments in our lives with Birth Doula Sarah Longacre and End of Life Doula Wendy Longacre-Brown. What if we did birth and death differently? What if we invited in skilled and compassionate navigators to be by our sides in these unfamiliar lands so the unk...

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk to Shanenn Bryant, host of the podcast Top Self, Jealousy and Insecurity expert and coach, and leader of the Facebook group Jealousy Junkies. We dive into how insecure attachment develops into unhealthy behavior patterns that threaten to destroy your relationships. Shanenn shares with us how to differentiate between trusting your gut versus acting out old t...

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug take on a listener mailbag about division of labor in a household. Who does more? Why are they resentful? What exactly is invisible labor? Why does one person naturally step up while the other waits for the “honey-do” list? Inquiring minds want to know! We have so much to say, per usual, and let us give you the tips and tricks to manage your household with equali...

In this episode, Kiki Joy Latham shares with us her incredible journey through physical and emotional abuse in her family of origin, betrayal after betrayal, from abandonment and heartbreak to the most profound love story. Not just with her partner, Jodi, but with herself. Kiki found herself/himself, and loves herself/himself with not just acceptance but with a deep appreciation of all of the intr...