Wellish

Sometimes the thought of being what the world considers sexy is daunting. Especially now that we live in a world that has examples of what it means to be sexy everywhere you look. And all of those examples some how look....the same? lol. So what do you do if you don't fit that specific mold? That means you can't be classified as sexy. I refuse to succumb to that pressure. I want to challenge what...

We know that making decisions easier is something that comes from confidence and that being able to make decisions is something you're "supposed" to be able to do. But from one indecisive mfer to another, how can we start incorporating this into our lives? I have a couple tricks up my sleeve to make the daunting decision making task a little easier!

Self doubt is so far engrained in my daily way of thinking I don't realize the subtle ways that I constantly do this. Other times it's very obvious and I feel like I'm drowning in a deep pit of uncertainty of who I am, what I doing, why sh*t happens the way it does the list goes on & on. I want to talk about a way to stop this that doesn't require you to love yourself first. The only thing you...

If any of my episodes are calling the kettle black, it's this one. I used to live my life in a constant state of rumination. It is one of my least favorite feelings because not only would I be driving myself nuts, I would want so badly for it to stop, but have no capability of putting an end to the issue. Looking back, I was never given anything concrete to try. I want to give you things you can a...

One of the feelings I hate the absolute most is feeling like I cannot get a handle on how I act in order to align with how I want other people to view me. Honestly, I have a hard time aligning my actions with how I want to view myself sometimes. Learning my needs has been one of my favorite tools in nailing down who I am, loving who I am for understanding those needs, and capitalizing on them in o...

I would never insult my Ishies intelligence by letting them know "comparison is bad". Old f*cking news. It's so much deeper than that. Instead I want to help open your eyes to the ways that you may be doing this you're not even aware of and give you a new perspective on why you need to knock that sh*t off.

We always hear how once we love ourselves we will be able to handle these awkward situations like being the center of attention. But, while that's true, that's not how life works. Life happens, these awkward situations happen, while we are learning to love ourselves and if we don't enter the situation with intention, we fall into the trap of lessening our love for ourselves. The exact opposite of...

Creating a safe environment that allows yourself the space to grow and the intention to focus on your self love is crucial when it comes to loving yourself. It is next to impossible to fill yourself up when you are constantly surrounded by negativity draining you of your energy. While this isn't feasible for everyone all of the time there are things you can do to create a safer environment for you...

Sure, it's good to work on yourself gain confidence and self worth to attract someone that is worth while into your life. But the real answers are a much simpler than that. A lot of the time we have no control over who pops in and out of our lives and when and it won't perfectly align with our own personal wellness journey. So, how do you manifest and ideal partner while still working in yourself?...

If you've ever taken a psychology class or heard of Sigmund Freud you have probably heard of the concept of the id, superego, and ego. I need cold hard evidence that the bullshit my brain is putting me through is for a reason and lot of the time I have a hard time finding the happy medium with what I am willing to settle for mentally. I am going to apply this psychoanalytic personality theory to o...

The concept of dating yourself isn't a new one. It's definitely a good idea and gives us a little bit of a perspective on how to love ourselves better. But the expectations we set when it comes to dating ourselves have been a tad skewed. We must find a way to date ourselves not to replace the feelings we get from a relationship or to become more independent and not need those things from a relatio...

You want to learn to love yourself but you're stuck in all awareness stage of loving yourself mentally? Let's start with the basics. Loving yourself doesn't have to be that complicated and sometimes we can find the most pride in what we can feel accomplished in physically. The evidence of what we have done to love ourselves is right in front of our faces when it comes to body maintenance compared...

Because body image is a HUGE part of self love it is so often talked about that the idea becomes too broad and we are not looking at what realistically is going to help us. We start wondering why our body isn't good enough to fit into whatever beautiful standard is racing across the internet. I want to find a way to ease that though process that can whip us into psycho buy every product we can get...

A big piece of the issue with loving ourselves is the embarrassment and shame we feel whether thats in the moment of an embarrassing thing happening or a random memory from 10 years ago pops into our head and we can't help but cringe. We have to learn how to detach our identity from the shitty embarrassing things that inevitably make their way into our lives.

There are two types of saying no: saying no to others and saying no to yourself. Both come with difficulty. But the good news is that with enough practice and applying the right techniques you not only can show yourself that you are capable of saying no guilt free, but that most people don't respond in a negative way. If anything it shows your confidence, love for yourself, and helps gain respect....

Confidence means trust. Can you build self trust enough in order to become confident? For one of the most talked about topics, it's interesting that so many people continue to struggle so much to achieve it. Today I am walking you through some ways that will give you the instant gratification of confidence when you need it and when applied enough will help improve your confidence for the long term...

Ishes this is probably my favorite topic of all time. Standing up for myself has been one of the most difficult things I have had to overcome, it has been my biggest insecurity from the time I was a little girl. Because of that, it has been my proudest achievement learning how to stand up for myself and being able to apply it in my life. I tell you guys some pretty intense stories from my life and...

I am in no way shape or form a therapist that has the answers that will cure your social anxiety. I also am fortunate enough to not be a person who has suffered with social anxiety my whole life. I am however a person who has developed this fear through the repetition of rejection. It was become a learned fear in my life. Because of that, I get frustrated because I know life doesn't have to be thi...

Hi Ishes!!! I felt you guys deserved more than the average self talk convo. This one isn't going to be about how flip your negative mindset to be more positive or how to get rid of the negative self talk completely. Although not impossible, truthfully, I think that those are both pretty unrealistic expectations. I want to give the Ishes a way to use the negative thoughts to strategically shift the...

I am so tired of the classic idea that we need to replace internal validation with external validation. They are not the same! You will never get the same feeling from internal validation that you will with external validation. That's because the external validation is a temporary high that doesn't come with the long term satiation of internal validation. But how do we make this happen for ourselv...

Today I am diving into the 3 main things that I think you ishes need in order to truly define who you are. Defining who you are is the first major step you need to practice in order to love yourself because if you don't know who you are, you will not know what it is you stand by and therefore you will constantly find yourself questioning what you say and what you do. When you truly know who you ar...

Today I am coming to you guys from my actual death bed I am so sick and if that doesn't make for a better you just have to accept the shit that happens to you, surrender to it, and decide how you are going to respond and move forward, I don't know what is! I am talking to you guys about the lack of control we have over the things that show up in our lives. Sometimes we just need to learn to ride t...

Today I wanted to talk to you guys about the role your families shaping you has played in your self love journey. This is NOT saying there is a right or wrong way to raise children. All I am saying that the way the people who raised you behave and their conscious and subconscious beliefs contribute to yours and that does not exclude the ways in which you struggle to love yourself. It might be less...

Today I wanted to talk to you guys about the pressure of digging deep into your unconscious mind, doing shadow work, healing your inner child, the list goes on and how you might be overlooking to obvious issue behind your struggle to love yourself fully. I then get into taking responsibility for your issues with loving yourself and forgiving yourself for not loving yourself as you should thus fair...

We constantly hear about and a striving to achieve this concept of self love. But some times it can really feel so unfathomable. On this episode I am breaking down the why behind that. The topic is far too broad for something that is so specific for each individual person. I will walk you first through my self love journey, my most impactful breakthroughs when it comes to self love, and at long la...