We Can Do Hard Things

1. The Mother of Codependence shares the difference between healthy and unhealthy helping.  2. The daily practice that helps Melody stop controlling others and “Let Life Happen.” 3. Why no one is able to gaslight you more than you.  4. The one area of life where Codependence is necessary. 5. All four of us surrender to the truth that we will never be Codependent No More. About Melody: A pioneering...

1. Abby shares with Sara the great personal impact Sara’s music has made on her life. 2. Sara and Glennon bond over the joy of solitude, the underrated gifts of being heavy-hearted, and the fact that “there are too many things to be worried about at all times” to be lighthearted. 3. When you are in deep stress, do you try to sabotage your job, relationship, etc.? (Before this conversation, Amanda...

1. How the Abby+Alex sisterhood began, how hard it was for Alex to watch Abby suffer at the end of her career, and how friends can build each other up. 2. How to get back on the field – in life and in sport – after crushing defeat. 3. The way Alex’s mom helped Alex fulfill her dream, and what Alex is teaching her own daughter, Charlie. 4. How Alex finally stopped comparing herself to others and st...

1. The Nap Ministry’s Nap Bishop shares small, concrete ways to bring rest into our own lives – especially when rest seems impossible.  2. Why so many of us feel like machines instead of humans – and the power of imagination as a spiritual practice to reconnect with our humanity and divinity. 3. Why grind culture – a collaboration of capitalism and white supremacy – wants to keep us exhausted, and...

1. What Melissa’s parents said when she told them about her dream – and how those magic words set the course of Melissa’s life. 2. The green and red flags Melissa tells her kids to look for in a relationship. 3. Why Melissa is a shark, and her brilliant strategy to “Run Around the Block” in almost any difficult situation.  4. Melissa’s and Abby’s experiences with ghosts. 5. How Melissa learned abo...

1. What to do when you’ve done everything you were supposed to do and ended up in a place you don’t want to be.  2. Why the question “What do you want?” is terrifying – and how to start answering it authentically for yourself. 3. The power of imagining what does not yet exist in order to make space for new possibilities.  4. The gift of a “midlife crisis” 5. What a mother’s job really is. About Ce...

1. What happens inside us when we receive criticism–and how our brains ensure we’re always in the right (even when we’re not). 2. The three-ingredient recipe for a positive, productive “care-frontation” exchange. 3. The single biggest relationship killer (it’s not conflict) – and how conflict can bring you closer. 4. Amanda navigates a “care-frontation” with her son’s friend’s family – and Abby re...

It Was Said, the 2021 Webby Award winner for Best Podcast Series, returns with a new season to look back on some of the most powerful, impactful, and timeless speeches in history. Written and narrated by Pulitzer Prize winner and bestselling author-historian Jon Meacham, this documentary podcast series takes you through another season of ten generation-defining speeches. Meacham, along with top hi...

1. The twinge of loneliness that comes with searching for what it *seems* like everyone else has.  2. A Varsity-level question from Christie that challenges everything we said about Help on Tuesday’s episode. 3. How to make “your thing” more of an “our thing” in relationships–and how Abby got Glennon into the sports. 4. If there is anything worse than vacationing with your own kids, it’s vacationi...

1. Why sharing your messy middle with someone is a gift and connection builder, not a burden. 2. The reasons why we don’t ask for the help we desperately need. 3. “Vague favs” and why are they a hard No for Amanda. 4. Abby, Glennon, and Amanda each share something they need help with right now. 5. The science behind Help as one of the most effective relationship-enhancing tools, and the best ways...

1. Why Emily couldn’t stop crying (and it wasn’t because she was emotional). 2. The intervention that got Emily sober – and why Amy wasn’t there. 3. Glennon admits something that she’s never told anyone before. 4. Amy and Abby agree on the shared cost of internalized homophobia and misogyny. About Indigo Girls: One of the most successful folk duos in history – Amy Ray and Emily Sailers aka THE IND...

1. The moment Abby – as Christen’s USWNT roommate – walked into their hotel room and knew Christen was very different than any soccer player she’d ever known.  2. The boundary that helps Christen love her people while protecting herself. 3. Christen’s take on death and how to keep the people we’ve lost alive in our lives. 4. How to show our people (including our little athletes) that we love them...

1. How to embody your authority while also validating your kid’s experience. 2. The #1 strategy for building resilience. 3. Why consequences and punishments backfire and don’t work. 4. How to sit with your child on the “benches” of their emotions.  5. One thing you can say to your kids to build connection in any circumstance.  About Dr. Becky: Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist and mom o...

1. The 3 most important things to say to your kids and partners every day. 2. Why our kids trigger us – and a fail-proof strategy to use when you’re triggered. 3. Why “poorly-behaved kids” can be a sign of good parenting. 4. How to break family cycles by rewiring the way we were raised. 5. How to use Internal Family Systems to heal ourselves. About Dr. Becky: Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psycho...

1. How to recognize when you’re dysregulated – so you can slow down and help yourself. 2. The beauty and wisdom in being judgmental, and how that saved Chani’s life.  3. The liberating idea that “The things that happened to me weren’t about me.” 4. How to set and trust boundaries in order to finally rest. About Chani: Chani Nicholas is a Los Angeles-based New York Times bestselling author of You W...

1. “Weird Glennon” comes back to the pod and shares her #1 sanity strategy. 2. The rule Glennon and Abby set for their wedding week that made everything OK. 3. How Amanda stopped accepting assignments from strangers. 4. How Glennon discovered she couldn’t trust her thoughts – and found the part of herself she could trust. 5. How to know if your thinking is disordered, and how to reorient it to be...

1. An Advocate, Commander, and Entertainer walk into a podcast – and each share how they feel about their labels. 2. Do personality types make you feel boxed in, or give you permission to be you?  3. How to decide when it’s important to work first and play later, or jump on a moment of joy and work later. 4. How Glennon as a strong F (Feeler) and Amanda as a strong T (Thinker) make business decisi...

1. Our desperate desire to figure out: Why are we the way we are? 2. Why Abby once believed she was 100% extroverted, and the fear she uncovered that makes her think she’s not.  3. How what you think about when you see a cactus tells you a lot about your personality. 4. Why some of the best-known personality binaries are just silly – and corporately manufactured.

1. Deep dive into how it feels to not be in any of your family photos, why it happens, and how to change it.  2. A call-in question from a husband that made Amanda cry. 3. Reimagining “acts of service” and how to know whether actions belong in the “Adulting Bucket” or the “Love Bucket.” 4. Getting the kids to read over the summer went terribly, thanks for asking.

1. Five signs that you might have a boundary problem. 2. Why each of us should stop pretending we’re not a needy person. 3. How to stop arguing like a lawyer – and start communicating like a kindergartener – to get what you need.  4. How to know when to end an argument, how to exit a friendship, and how to respond to passive aggressiveness.  About Nedra: Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is a New Yo...

1. Tig and Stephanie’s highly effective and hilarious ways to diffuse their marital feuds. 2. Stephanie’s experience figuring out her sexuality (years after she married Tig)–and how Tig knew Stephanie was the one. 3. Why Tig’s deep in “Towanda-ing” right now–and how that affects their marriage. 4. The power of knowing what you DON’T want in your life. 5. Tig, Stephanie, Abby, and Glennon each shar...

1. Abby’s new nightly ritual of 80’s parties and Amanda’s wild adventure at a crawfish boil. 2. Glennon’s transition out of depression, and how she’s moving off “The Landing.” 3. Why our parents are so triggering – and how we can see them differently. 4. Glennon, Abby, and Amanda answer pressing Pod Squad questions. 5. Amanda pays tribute to a particular Pod Squader, Lexi – and to all women of her...

1. What is Polyamory – and how Martha, Rowan, and Karen make their relationship work.  2. How Martha felt – after years of marriage to Karen – when Karen told her she was in love with Rowan, too.  3. The hilarious moment Martha, Karen, and Rowan told their friends they were now a throuple. 4. A huge lesson for couples based on the revolutionary ways they deal with conflict, jealousy, and daily rit...

1. Why Jen believes none of us is safe from betrayal – but how she knows with certainty it will never happen to her again. 2. The useful part of unforgiveness, the worst thing about forgiveness, and how to know when it’s time to forgive.  3. Brené Brown’s advice to Jen for how to begin rebuilding brick by brick after the life you built implodes.  4. The steps Jen took to learn to trust her body fo...

1. Pod Squad Qs about co-parenting after infidelity, setting boundaries with friends, and reconciling an estranged parent relationship. 2. How to know when it’s time to leave, and whether your partner deserves to be free of you.  3. Why every problem Cheryl’s ever had has been solved by a list–and how to use her strategy.  4. Ways to be a better advice-giver, and how to keep “floating in the direc...