We are the Traffic | A Self-Help Podcast

This week Tyler and Ally go all over the map, and somehow it all connects. It starts with Tyler's "thinking chair," the fire hose of modern input, and why he gutted his email inboxes down to one. Then it turns into a real, unresolved debate about AI journals: are they the fastest on-ramp to self-awareness humanity has ever had, or a slow leak rotting the cabinet underneath your relat...

Most of us are trying to hold onto what was while we're building what's next. Tyler and Ally get into why that doesn't work, and why the moment you finally let go is the moment everything gets clearer. This one covers the real purpose of a goal (it's not what you think), why setting smaller targets often produces better results, what "don't yuck your own yum" has to d...

Tyler and Ally recorded this one in the middle of real life, a sudden loss, a dog gone too soon, a world asking a lot from everyone at once. What came out of it was one of their most honest conversations yet. They get into what grief actually looks like inside a business, why founders can't stop themselves from trying to fix everything, and what it costs when your mind keeps writing checks you...

Entrepreneurs are being sold on systems, funnels and automation as the path to scale, but what's the cost? Tyler Lewke and Ally Gregory talk about where real trust and community come from, why the relationships you've outgrown need a new shape not an ending, how to lead with authenticity when everything around you is templated, and what sturdy happiness actually looks like inside a profita...

What if holding two opposing truths at the same time is the most important skill nobody is teaching? In this episode, Tyler and Ally go deep on morning routines and rewiring your bandwidth, the algorithm you're feeding without realizing it, and the hardest conversation of the episode, policing, privilege, and what it actually takes to see a human being instead of a label. Tyler shares the mome...

Something worth saying up front: this is a new show. You may know Tyler from Not Your Teacher, a solo podcast he's been running for a while now. This is different. We Are the Traffic is a co-hosted conversation between Tyler Lewke and Ally Gregory, and it exists because the two of them kept having the kind of honest, wandering, hard-to-categorize conversations that felt too good to keep to the...

Tyler and running coach Ally Gregory sit down for a raw, wide-ranging conversation about mental fortitude, collective heaviness, and the exhaustion that comes from constant context-switching in modern life. This episode moves from taper blues and training struggles into deeper territory: navigating a world that feels increasingly heavy, finding compassion in the midst of tragedy, and recognizing t...

Why Your Self-Care Practices Aren't Working (And What to Do Instead) Your meditation isn't hitting the same. Your morning run feels hollow. The journaling that used to center you now feels like going through the motions. What's happening? In this raw, unfiltered conversation, Tyler Lewke and Ally Gregory explore why our coping mechanisms are failing us right now—and it's not what y...

In this raw and vulnerable episode, Tyler explores the profound difference between actual pain and the fear that keeps us frozen long after healing has begun. After months of back pain that prevented him from running, Tyler discovers that even when the physical pain subsided, fear continued to paralyze him—until his friend Ally refused to let him cancel their running session. This realization open...

Tyler sits down for an in-depth conversation about what it really takes to scale a business—and it's not what most entrepreneurs think. In this raw, unfiltered episode, Tyler reveals why nearly every business challenge he encounters traces back to one thing: our relationship with money. From his unconventional coaching approach that seamlessly weaves between QuickBooks and sex life conversatio...

In these weird, wild and uncertain times of our current lived experiences, we all have a hunger to know how to keep our relationships growing and businesses thriving, while keeping our hearts and minds open and centered. This unconventional conversation with Mary and Ali dives deep into how we're all carrying more than we realize. Our nervous systems are inflamed, absorbing the chaos and disco...

Tyler and Mary explore a transformative concept: what if our deepest struggles aren't actually ours, but inherited patterns we can choose to return to sender? Tyler shares his breakthrough realization that the money anxieties waking him at 2AM for thirty years weren't his own - they were inherited from his father. Through observing his dad and uncle during a recent visit, Tyler discovered...

In this beautifully messy episode, Tyler and Mary dive deep into the transformative power of clearing exercises and authentic ritual. Through their 25-year friendship, they've developed practices that cut through the noise of aspirational thinking and get to the heart of what matters. Mary vulnerably shares how a "productive lie" led to profound truth, while they explore their time-tested New Year...

In the Sacred Space Between Silence and Sharing What lies in that tender space between what we show the world and what we hold within? In this intimate episode, Tyler guides us through the delicate dance of vulnerability as he sits with a client in a one-on-one Check In - that rare moment when the walls come down and truth rises up. We all walk through life carrying silent stories - our deepest fe...

What happens when Grant & Tyler commit to complete silence for 48 hours? In this raw and transformative episode, Grant and Tyler embark on a Noble Silence retreat together, documenting their individual experiences before merging into shared reflection. The silence speaks volumes as they navigate the uncomfortable spaces between thoughts, the weight of unspoken words, and the profound clarity t...

In this intimate 5-minute meditation, we explore what it means to truly inhabit your own space. Like footprints in wet sand, we often leave impressions everywhere except within ourselves. Today, we're changing that. Raw, unfiltered, and deliberately uncomfortable – this isn't your typical meditation. We'll sit with the noise, the resistance, and the parts of ourselves we usually rush past. No ince...

We dive into a pivotal moment on a freezing Canadian stage that transforms into a powerful meditation on American division. We reveal deeper truths about the violence we inflict on each other daily through our choices to disconnect, condemn, and close our hearts. Through raw, honest reflection, we explore the empty chairs at our Thanksgiving tables, the Facebook rants that ended friendships, and t...

Checking In: The Mirror of Self-Reflection In this raw and introspective episode of 'Not Your Teacher', Tyler Lewke dives deep into the murky waters of self-examination. Tyler grapples with the profound confusion and conflict that often accompany moments of intense growth. How do we truly check in with ourselves? What questions should we be asking to gauge our alignment with our deepest commitment...

Stop Fixing Your Problems to Solve Them What if the secret to solving your problems wasn’t fixing them? In this episode of the Not Your Teacher podcast, we dig into the paradox of problem-solving: the more we try to “fix,” the deeper we sink. Tyler explores the idea that our constant need to fix, tweak, and adjust might be what’s actually keeping us stuck. Join Tyler as he challenges you to think...

In this episode, we step into the vibrant world of Pride, peeling back the layers of its meaning far beyond the rainbow flags and parades. Join Tyler Lewke as he takes a raw and unfiltered dive into what Pride truly represents—both as a personal journey and a powerful movement. From challenging societal norms to finding the courage to be authentically yourself, this conversation is a reminder that...

In this episode of "Not Your Teacher," Tyler Lewke dives deep into the art of handling difficult people. Drawing from his extensive experience as a business therapist and radical disruptor, Tyler shares actionable insights and personal anecdotes that uncover the hidden dynamics behind challenging interactions. Whether it's a tough colleague, a demanding client, or a personal relation...

🎙️ Not My Teacher Podcast: Where We Plant Our Seeds In this episode, we delve into the profound idea that where we plant our seeds in life shapes our journey in unexpected ways. Tyler Lewke explores the hidden impact of small moments, like the simple act of drinking tea, and how they ripple through our lives, creating lasting effects. Join us as we uncover the beauty in the seemingly insignificant...

In this episode of the Not Your Teacher podcast, Tyler sits down with his best friend Mary for a raw and honest conversation. They dive deep into their insecurities, exploring why they sometimes avoid doing the work that's necessary for personal growth. Tyler and Mary open up about their fears, vulnerabilities, and the challenges they face in their journeys. This episode is a candid exploratio...