We Ain't Dead Yet

Join us as we chat with Jaimie Krem, friendship scientist and founding director of the UCLA Center for Friendship Research. We discuss how friendship is a “silver bullet” in terms of the many health benefits it brings, including improvements in cardiovascular health, sleep, immune function, and reduced risk of mental illness and dementia. Jaimie describes how venting to your friends can be a manip...

Join Constance and Lori for a personal catch-up episode, after a short podcasting break. They discuss recent health challenges, grandchildren, and grief. As always, expect some laughter and some tears as they explore themes of aging, the complex nature of caregiving, and maintaining connections with deceased loved ones. Please join us for this intimate discussion. And, please reach out to us with...

Tips for making new friends aren't just for kids! In this fun and friendly episode, Constance and Lori explore the topic of friendship with expert Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore. We talk about the importance of friendship, and the value of developing new friendships as we age. We explore the reasons that it might be easier for us as 60-somethings to make friends, than it was when we were younger. E...

All the Single Ladies! All the Single Ladies! If you ever thought it was too late to jump back into the dating pool, or that there are no good prospects still swimming out there, this episode is for you! Join our conversation with Dating Coach Laurie Gerber who has more than 20 years of experience helping single men and women over 50 date with intention and find what they seek. Laurie unpacks her...

More couples later in life are sleeping in separate rooms and in some cases separate homes. Called "Sleep Divorce" by the media, what does this trend say about evolving ways we are thinking about sleep, intimacy, self-empowerment and the judgment of others as we age? For many women over 60, sleep can feel precious and precarious. Figuring out just the right  pre-requisites for a good nig...

Please join us for a lively chat with Sari Botton, founder of Oldster Magazine, about her recent rise to fame and her lifelong obsession with aging. After being rejected by endless employers in her 50s, and then working her butt off, she has finally earned a much-deserved seat at the publishing table, and her star continues to rise. We cover topics ranging from turning 60, becoming our more authen...

In this episode, Constance goes into full on fan-girl mode with our guest Barbara Waxman, a gerontologist and coach who helps people lead an undiminished life as they age. We talk about flourishing and recognizing the importance of not just our life span and health span, but something Barbara calls the Third span, comprised of our mindset, relationships and purpose at this stage of life. We unpack...

One thing that doesn't change as we age, is our obsession with our hair. For women over 60, many conversations often get around to asking one burning question..."Should I let my hair go grey?" In this episode, we will go there with our guest Ellen Taxman, a woman who prides herself in being "low fuss" in her appearance, and who even works in the field of aging. We hear fro...

In this episode we dive into the myths, barriers and boundary issues that get in the way of moving into, and fully enjoying retirement. For many working women, their careers are a source of pride and self-definition. Take a listen to this episode with Retirement Coach Elaine Belansky as we explore the question of "Who Am I?" once your career is in the rear view mirror, and Elaine provide...

In our conversation with Amy Schiller, a social worker and professor who specializes in the field of death and dying, we start to unpack the myth of the “Good Death.” Amy talks about letting go of control in the dying process, and how becoming aware of our fears and beliefs about dying can impact our lives, and allow us to live more fully. Amy offers her students the opportunity to write Legacy Le...

Just in time for VALENTINE'S DAY, Constance and Lori speak to Kandee Love, a licensed therapist specializing in couple’s and sex therapy. We explore topics ranging from sexual expression across the life stages to sex toys and tips for older adults. Kandee emphasizes the importance of prioritizing pleasure, passion, and play in a world filled with stress. Kandee has labeled February as “Spunky...

Constance and Lori speak to Ellen Blum Barish, a writing coach and memoir author. Even if writing is not your thing, listen in to our lively conversation about leaning in to this form of creativity as a tool for growth and reflection as we age. For starters, we discuss the hidden value of writing for people who don’t like to write. Ellen suggests looking through the old stuff we tuck in drawers an...

Constance and Lori speak to Ramsay Ringo, a career coach and expert on caring for elderly parents. We discuss the unique challenges of supporting aging parents when you are in your 60s yourself. Ramsay emphasizes the importance of a simplified approach to avoid overwhelming caregivers, and provides many practical tips. We explore the tension between ensuring the safety of elderly parents and respe...

Constance and Lori catch up after the Thanksgiving holiday break. We cover everything from no longer giving a fuck, to spiritual connections with our deceased parents, to Mel Robbins’ "Let Them" Theory, to aging pubic hair 🤣 And we preview a few of our upcoming shows. Please join us for this quick, warm check-in. SHOW NOTES Aging Out of Fucks: The Neuroscience of Why You Suddenly Can’t...

Constance and Lori speak to Gail Rice, psychologist and writer, based in Sydney Australia, about her recent life-imitating-art birthday celebration. For her 70th birthday, inspired by Emma Thompson in the film "Good Luck to You Leo Grande,"  Gail hired not one, but two male escorts. She clearly touched a nerve, as her story went viral.  She's been interviewed all over the world and...

ALERT WADY Listeners:   Due to a technology glitch, or to my senior brain 🤣, we accidentally published an environmental rap song instead of this Holiday episode, and over 70 of you downloaded it before we caught the error. Sorry, but it's all fixed now! Although we did receive some lovely compliments about the song 😊 Thanks in advance for trying again 🙏  Join Lori and Constance for a discu...

Constance and Lori check in with Bonnie Lee Black, writer and popular blogger, about her mission to amplify the voices and activism of older women. Join us as we explore themes of aging, death, sex, and civic engagement. Bonnie shares her journey from blogging about aging to advocating for activism in her hometown of San Miguel de Allende, Mexico.  We discuss the imperative of making some noise, a...

Is age only a number? Are the 60s the adolescence of aging? Does a lengthy life equal a live well-lived? All of these questions and more will be discussed, if not answered in this episode. Every decade of life holds its own, unique gifts and challenges. Constance and Lori will unpack the differences of being in your 60s and being in your 70s with Claudia Perez, a psychologist who specializes in wo...

Sex! Sex! Sex! It never gets old, even as we get older, but there’s no denying that things change. In this episode, Constance and Lori hear from sex therapist Jen Rafacz, who specializes in working with “medicare-aged” clients. Jennifer busts some myths about sex no longer mattering to people as they age, and offers some hacks to getting and keeping the sexual motor running, regardless of the phys...

"Dynamic and delicious" are two words that have been used to describe Nina Manolson, and we wholeheartedly agree! In this episode, you will be treated to a private reading of 2 of Nina's favorite poems. Together, we explore themes of aging, body image, and self-compassion. Nina shares her personal journey from being an "expert dieter" at age 10 to becoming an anti-diet the...

In this episode of We Ain’t Dead Yet (WADY), get to know the origin friendship story of Constance and Lori, and hear about the qualities and conditions that allowed their remote friendship to blossom over 25 years. This is also an open-hearted and authentic conversation about the role of friendship in the lives of women over 60, and tips on how to keep old friendships alive, how to make new friend...

Meet your new hosts Lori Dube and Constance Bauer, long time friends, as they embark on this intimate journey chronicling their deep conversations about life, love, and aging. Constance is more "furious" with the aging process and the way women in their third act are ghosted by society., and Lori is more "curious" about how she can lean into and learn from this aging process. I...

Whoever said you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, had not met Priscilla Dann-Courtney! Priscilla embodies the empowered woman learning and trying new things in her third chapter of life. In this episode, you will hear the hilarious story of how Priscilla ventured out of her comfort zone, to journey from her psychologist chair to the improv stage. This episode has many surprises, laughs, and a wh...