Wandering the Wild Mess

What happens when healing starts asking you to become someone unfamiliar? A lot of us say we want healing. We say we want peace, love, confidence, purpose, success, and a different life. But what happens when healing starts asking you to let go of the version of yourself that’s been "you" for so long? In this episode, I talk about identity shifts, outgrowing survival mode, emotional attachment to...

Many of us believe we’re being kind… when we’re actually abandoning ourselves. In this episode, we unpack the subtle ways self-abandonment shows up in everyday life, from saying yes when your body says no, to over-explaining yourself, to staying in relationships that quietly drain your energy. I'll share personal reflections on people-pleasing, boundaries, and learning that you don’t need to prove...

Starting over after divorce can feel lonely, uncertain, and overwhelming, but it can also lead to a life you never imagined... In this episode of Wandering the Wild Mess , Heather sits down with a back-home friend, April, a mother of eight and a successful entrepreneur who rebuilt her life after a divorce in her 20s. From navigating single motherhood and the loneliness that comes after leaving, to...

We often pick a time in our life and think we’ll be “there” by now. But what no one talks about is the in-between—the space where you’ve changed your life, done the work, and you’re still waiting for it to come together. Starting over can feel like 10 steps backwards, and getting another year older can feel like you still haven't made it to where you wanted to be. In this raw and honest episode, I...

When your focus is on everyone else’s perception, it becomes almost impossible to fully be yourself... “You don’t need to be understood by everyone. You just need to be aligned with yourself.” In this episode, we unpack a hard truth: how much of our lives are shaped by the fear of what other people might think. From second-guessing decisions to holding back parts of who we are, many of us are unkn...

When you leave everything you’ve ever known, it gets messy. If you've ever left a life you thought you'd always have, and no longer know who you are after it's all said and done. This episode will hit. After my divorce, I felt defeated. I left Utah, followed a feeling, and started rebuilding my life in Tennessee one wild decision at a time. In this episode, I’m taking you back to the “wild mess er...

You say you want a different life… But somehow you keep ending up in the same patterns. In this episode, I sit down with Josh Terry for a real, unfiltered conversation about why that happens, and what it actually takes to change. We talk about the fear of being seen differently, how much we let other people’s opinions control us, and the truth that most people don’t realize: Nobody is thinking abo...

How do you actually start over after a divorce, and why does no one talk about what it really feels like? Three years after leaving my marriage and rebuilding my life from scratch, I’m sharing the raw, unfiltered truth about starting over—what happens after the decision is made and you’re left to figure out who you are on your own. In this episode, I talk about the loneliness of having no one to f...

No one prepares you for what it feels like to lose a marriage you never thought would end… when he decides to leave... and it quickly becomes a journey of learning how to let go of the life you built.  This episode is one of the most raw and honest conversations I’ve had on Wandering the Wild Mess . Leah Wade shares her story of going through two divorces, navigating emotional manipulation, a...

You don’t get what you want in life. You get who you believe you are . In this episode of Wandering the Wild Mess , I break down why self-concept and identity shape the life you experience. Your brain filters reality through the Reticular Activating System (RAS) , highlighting evidence that confirms what you already believe about yourself.  If you believe you’re someone who figures things out...

Being single isn’t the hard part. Being ready.. and still waiting is. No one talks about the discipline it takes to desire partnership without settling for less. Three years post-divorce and a full year without dating, I’m sharing what it feels like to finally be ready for love… and still be in that uncomfortable gap of “put me in, coach.” This isn’t just about the loneliness. It’s about identity....

In this episode, I sit down with my first-ever guest, Kade, for an honest, grounded conversation about what divorce actually feels like — this time with a man’s perspective. I met Kade while wandering the wild mess of life in Nashville, at a time when we had both recently moved there after our divorces, trying to rebuild and rediscover who we were, even as we were still running from some hard trut...

Comparison is the quiet thief of joy, and this year, we are done letting it run the show .  In this episode, I talk about why feeling “behind” is an illusion created by comparison—especially in a world obsessed with timelines, numbers, and visibility. I share a personal moment that almost stopped me from recording, along with a metaphor about walking your own path instead of running someone e...

Why do New Year goals feel so motivating… and then quietly fall apart a few weeks later?  In this episode, I break down the real reason goals fail — and it has nothing to do with laziness or lack of discipline. I walk you through the psychology of the nervous system, self-concept, and why big goals can start to feel unsafe, triggering self-sabotage and burnout when expectations exceed capacit...

Let this be a reminder that your life doesn’t need to be rushed, fixed, or proven to be worthy. You can be deeply grateful for where you are and still long for more. Those two things can exist at the same time. This episode is about worthiness, about releasing the belief that good things “aren’t for you,” and remembering that your desires are valid because you are valid. If last year felt heavy, t...

If this season feels different this year, you’re not alone. The holidays have a way of amplifying everything: your joy, your healing, your loneliness, and your growth. Life changes, Traditions shift. Emotions rise. And the contrast between what was and what is can feel heavy. This is a must-hear, honest reflection on navigating the holidays (and any season of life) when your life no longer fits th...

If you’ve ever wondered why your life hasn’t changed yet — even though you want it so badly — this episode finally reveals what’s been missing. As we move into a brand-new year, we explore the real reason your reality looks the way it does. Spoiler: it’s not your habits, your discipline, or your timing. It’s your self-concept — the identity you keep returning to. In this transformative episode, He...

In this episode, I share the story of someone who was never meant to be my forever—but ended up being the exact preview I needed. A reminder of what connection is supposed to feel like, what being seen actually feels like, and why the relationships (or almost-relationships) that don’t work out often hold the biggest clarity. After a painful betrayal, life sent me someone whose energy was the compl...

In this super vulnerable episode, I open up about the moment I found out I’d been cheated on—and the deeper lessons that came with it. From betrayal and self-doubt to the realization that healing isn’t about fixing yourself, but remembering you were never broken—you just need to find your way back to seeing your worth. When someone betrays you, it’s not about you. And if you’re honest, you likely...

In a highly asked-for episode, I’m giving you a little backstory on my own wild mess, how growing up Mormon in Utah shaped my mindset, identity, and the way I’ve navigated who I am. From childhood testimonies to quiet questions about faith, I share how those early teachings influenced not just what I believed, but how I saw myself and others. This isn’t a story about religion; it’s a story about r...

This episode is here to remind you that the moment you feel the farthest from what you want is usually right before your breakthrough. Those moments when you start questioning everything, your path, your purpose, your timing—are often the proof that you’re so close to what you’ve been working toward. In this episode, I’m sharing my heart on what it really means to keep going when life feels heavy...

In this episode of Wandering the Wild Mess , I get real about how often we let our own inner critic and subconscious mind hold us back. Too many times, we take old beliefs and treat them as truth—without even questioning if they’re ours. That keeps us from stepping into rooms we belong in, going after the dreams we really want, and believing it can happen for us. I share why it’s so important to p...

What if your dream never died, it just went quiet, waiting for you to grow into it? Waiting for you to become the version of yourself who could finally trust enough to go after what truly lights you up. In this episode, I revisit the version of me who flew to L.A. chasing a songwriter’s dream, leaving with self-doubt and then, later, full circle, finding proof that our deepest callings don’t disap...

Because sometimes the pressure to ‘have it all together’ feels heavier than the hard thing itself… In this episode of Wandering the Wild Mess , I open up about the pressure of “having it all together” while navigating moments of doubt, discomfort, and shame. Even after seasons of alignment and positivity, life has a way of throwing unexpected loops that remind me I’m still human, still learning, s...

Modern dating can feel exhausting.. like applying for jobs you’re not even sure you want. In this episode, we unpack why dating apps, swipe culture, and “numbers game” dating don’t work for everyone — especially when you value depth and intentional connection. If you’ve been feeling drained by modern dating or questioning whether the process even aligns with who you are, this conversation is about...