Virgin Vodka Soda: The QueerRecovery Podcast

Send us Fan Mail Platonic friendship isn’t supposed to feel impossible — but for gay men, it often does. In this episode, I dig into the viral Threads post that pulled in over 250,000 views and thousands of comments from men saying the same thing: I want connection, but I don’t know how. We get into the real reasons why: validation chasing, hookup culture, shame, and the conditioning that makes ev...

Send us Fan Mail You’re not too busy. You’re avoiding yourself. In this episode, I unpack the cycle of chasing, crashing, and craving clarity — but never letting yourself sit still long enough to get it. We talk about “someday” reality, healing as performance, and why high-functioning gay men (yes, you) keep filling their calendars instead of facing their truth. We cover: Why silence feels unsafe...

Send us Fan Mail Let’s talk about the moments you don’t speak up. Not because you can’t. But because you’ve convinced yourself that being “chill” or “healed” means staying silent. Even when you don’t want to go to Cheesecake Factory. This episode is for the high-functioning gay or queer man who knows their attachment style, knows their triggers, knows their trauma… and is still spiraling over a 30...

Send us Fan Mail We’re back with the second episode of QueerRecovery 2.0 — and this is the one where I finally break down what “emotional integration” really is. This episode is for the high-functioning gay or queer man who’s been in therapy, read all the books, bought the crystals, journaled, meal prepped, and still spirals over texts that go unanswered. You’re not broken. You’re just performing...

Send us Fan Mail After a long (and very human) hiatus, I’m back — and this episode is the raw, reflective, real-ass heart of where QueerRecovery started and where it’s going. I take you through the moment that changed everything: officiating a party-heavy wedding in Ibiza just five months sober, and realizing I didn’t need a sponsor, a step, or a sip to stay grounded in who I was becoming. This ep...

Send us Fan Mail What do you do when you’ve ruined a weekend meant to celebrate someone you love? What happens when the fun runs out, but the feelings don’t? In this episode, Mick shares one of the most personal and pivotal moments in his recovery journey — a blurry, emotional spiral that cracked something wide open. If you've ever mistaken chaos for connection or tried to drink away the disc...

Send us Fan Mail After a disastrous weekend left me hungover, humiliated, and alone, I turned on the TV and saw the Notre Dame Cathedral burning — and somehow, it felt personal. This episode picks up right where the spiral ended and walks straight into the fire: my first experiences with AA. I talk about the shame, the silence, and why those rooms never felt like mine — even when I was desperate f...

Send us Fan Mail A car crash. A mugshot. Those can be rock bottom for some — I’ve had both — but that’s not what made me question everything. In this episode, I talk about that moment. The one that stuck. The one that made me go, “Wait… who even am I right now?” It’s not glamorous. It’s not tragic. But it cracked something open. I’m talking gay party culture, denial dressed up as fun, and the quie...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to Virgin Vodka Soda , the QueerRecovery podcast—where we skip the steps, ditch the shame, and keep it real. In this premiere, I unpack my first drink (ft. a hot older guy and a red Solo cup), the chaotic relationship I had with vodka, cocaine, and the club scene, and why AA just didn’t work for me (and maybe doesn’t work for you either). I also drop 5 brutally honest less...