Unsilenced- Survivor's Journey To Justice

There are many myths around sexual assault. Here are three of the most common ones that I have personally experienced first hand and have heard them time and time again by the media etc. In this video I also reference a particular other youtube video I urge every survivor or loved one of a survivor to watch. the detail and level of knowledge of this man can not be criticised - this man is a genius...

If you’re hearing this and you haven’t watched ‘trial 1’ then I recommend you watch that first as the difference between the two is vast. In this trial we went out with a very strong case because now my evidence was going to be used which debunked many of the lies that he had narrated for 6 years. My barrister knew the detail of my story and wasn’t willing to let a single lie go. As a survivor - s...

It was hard documenting a 4 day trial of so much chaos into an hours video/podcast. All this info is available to the general public as it was held in Crown Court. The unique experience I have compared to others is a) I was one of the 3% who actually have made it to court to begin with and b) I did this twice with such wildly different experiences. This really was a very difficult few days. I have...

I got wind that the man who I put behind bars for raping was someone who had worked closely with and done fundraising for multiple child protection agencies. There were multiple agencies either run or founded by 3 separate people.2 responded with a deep level of integrity and I have all the respect for them and the charities they work for. The third implied I was lying and blocked me. This video I...

I was aged 20 when I told my sister Id been raped - 4 years after the assault took place. It was the first time I’d told anyone the full story. As Ive said many times a family of a survivor are the silent casualties and collateral damage when one has been violated. My sister's reaction is over 20 years old now but I remember it like yesterday. Im documenting this because it's the unspoken part man...

Its so easy to assume the only person affected by being raped is the survivor themselves. That goes without saying but I have sen first hand the impact on the family. Family still feel helpless, angry, hurt and sad too. In this video I discuss the occasion I told my brother and his reaction. This is all part of my rape survivor story - I hope you find this channel useful. Enjoy.#rape #rapesurvivor...

Many people think that going to the police was a choice. On paper that's technically true - but at that time when I reported my r@pist my options were to live with emotions internally that were killing me - or face the unknown of what reporting him would look like. To me that wasn't a choice as nothing could be worse than living the rest of my life feeling how I felt then. there was so much contai...

People often make the assumption that the hardest part of a justice system process is going on stand or seeing their rapist for the first time. They are also very difficult moments of course - but the parts that were the hardest are often a shock to people. The parts that required the most energy and caused the most overwhelm and stress are often misunderstood. In this video I mention what was the...

This was a conversation I’d had in my head for over 2 decades. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. In this moment I had to manage my own emotions and see in real time my parent's emotions too. I was more then telling them in this moment…. this was them finding out. There’s a difference. Here’s what happened and how they reacted. For video footage on this conversation you’ll find me...

I know I don't talk highly about my experience in the justice system - and it may put many people off. My motivation isn't to put people off. On the contrary. Thing is, what I experienced may be what other experience too. So what's worse? Going into it and feeling utterly deflated by it or going into it with your eyes wide open. I cant change the system - but I can help people be more prepared for...

Here I explain a distressing reality of going to court after reporting an assault: the courthouse is treated as a neutral environment where prosecution and defence share the same spaces, meaning you as a survivor may repeatedly cross paths with the person who assaulted you in corridors and communal areas (frequently) throughout the trial week. This was unexpected and can trigger intense anxiety an...

I’ll keep this simple. I make this content on youtube which I then transfer to a podcast for one reason - to reach people like this survivor who commented on my post. Out of respect for her I’ve not disclosed all she said - but the impact was real. Its reshaped the way I view and plan to create content on this channel in the future. Enjoy. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss thi...

“You must be happy he was sent down.” No actually - happy isn’t not the word. It’s not like that. Let me explain…..There is a regular assumption and misconception that once my r@pist was found guilty I'd be home drinking champagne feeling ‘happy’. What people miss is what myself and my family had to endure for 6 years before I got to that stage. After so much of a battle and so many twists and tur...

This podcast documents the day I reported him to the police. It was nothing like I expected and was by far THE hardest par of the whole process because at the point of reporting I was battling with 23 years suppression and years telling myself Id never do it. It was nothing like I expected but I hope someone who is a silent survivor - and esp someone who is on the cusp of going to the police liste...

I share this podcast as a way to expose the types of things survivors are expected to deal with. This moment was uncomfortable and actually quite intimidating. The lack of care from the justice system in situations like this could jeopardise trials. Something so simple and easy to avoid created by a system that is designed to allegedly protect us. After waiting 6 years to get to this day - it was...

In this video - I address the belief that it is brave to speak up and share you have been seriously sexually assaulted! But I ask why? Has anyone even questioned why this is deemed brave? Have we considered why we think it is brave to share the thing that happened to us against our will? In this video I add my personal opinion to this hidden psychological aspect - and I share why I think ‘being br...

This question is the question I get asked the most - Why did it take you so long to go to the police? Why now? This is a topic I will address from the psychology side of what goes on behind the scenes of a silent survivor and what’s more the parts that are so massively misunderstood by so many. We carry myths and stigma in society and survivors are almost asked to justify why they handled the thin...

When I was living as a silent survivor - this podcast would have been valuable to hear. It wont be for everyone but is suited to any silent survivor in the process or about to step into the process. It's not legal advice - it is simply an account of my personal experience of the steps I underwent over 6 years to take the person who assaulted me from reporting to conviction. This is a public episod...

This is my story of how I spent 23 years silent before reporting the man who seriously sexually assaulted me. It took 6 years in the justice system to get him to prison, 3 rearrange court dates, one hung jury and one retrial to finally get the justice I was seeking. This video / podcast details a lot of what went on and how it is to live as a silent survivor in the justice system. This is a public...