Unshaken

🎙️ Episode 83: Marriage Is Mostly Wednesdays: Finding Each Other in the Ordinary What if the strength of your marriage is being built on the days nobody celebrates? Christian marriage is shaped by more than anniversaries, date nights, and big moments. For couples juggling work, children, caregiving, or plain exhaustion, Tony and Kristy talk about finding each other in ordinary weekdays through sma...

🎙️ Episode 82: Too Tired to Pray? Come Anyway Have you ever tried to pray, only to find that your mind is too tired to stay with the words? Spiritual exhaustion can make prayer, Scripture reading, and showing up at church feel difficult even when your love for Jesus has not changed. Tony and Kristy talk about what faithfulness can look like when caregiving, stress, illness, or ordinary exhaustion...

🎙️ Episode 81: You Are Not a Project: Disability, Discipleship, and Belonging in the Church What does a church do after accessibility gets someone through the door? This episode is about disability ministry, church inclusion, and the difference between welcoming disabled Christians and treating them as indispensable members of the body of Christ. Tony and Kristy talk about discipleship, spiritual...

🎙️ Episode 80: Remembering Our Way Home When Life Scatters Us What helps you find your bearings when you know what is true about God, but life has made that truth feel far away? This episode is about spiritual growth and the ways God uses remembrance to reorient us when faith feels scattered, distracted, routine, or empty. Tony and Kristy talk about sensory memories that feel like home, the Lord&a...

🎙️ Episode 79: When the People You Love Get What's Left of You What happens when the people you love most get the version of you everyone else was protected from? This episode is about Christian marriage and the way work stress, emotional depletion, and outside pressure can spill into home. Tony and Kristy talk honestly about coming home spent, needing transition time, and learning to give yo...

🎙️ Episode 78: When Your Family Can't Keep Saying Yes What happens when every yes is good, but together they become more than your family can carry? This episode is about family boundaries for Christians who are trying to serve faithfully without overloading their household. Tony and Kristy talk about ministry commitments, marriage, hidden workload, and the discernment it takes to decide what...

🎙️ Episode 77: When Help Adds to the Burden What if the help we offer is making a hard season heavier? Tony and Kristy look at why good intentions can still add work for someone who is already overwhelmed, and how specific, consent-based, reliable support can actually lower the load without taking away dignity or agency. The goal is not to feel helpful. The goal is for someone else's burden t...

🎙️ Episode 76: When Your Parents Start Needing You What happens when the people who have always been your touchstone begin needing you in new ways? Tony and Kristy talk about the slow, sometimes surprising shift that happens as parents age and adult children begin carrying more responsibility. They explore how to offer practical help while still honoring a parent's dignity, agency, privacy, w...

🎙️ Unshaken Conversation: Gary Steffes: When Trying Harder Is Not the Answer What if the harder you try to live the Christian life, the more exhausted you become? In this Unshaken Conversation, Tony sits down with his friend Gary Steffes, who leads Pure Encouragement. Gary shares how God met him in the anxiety and performance pressure of his hockey career, transformed the way he understood confide...

🎙️ Episode 75: When Your Story Is Not Public Property What happens when a question that seems harmless starts to feel exhausting? How do we balance grace for people who are trying to learn with the right to protect our own story? In this episode of Unshaken Podcast, Tony and Kristy talk about questions, privacy, agency, and dignity through the lens of faith, family, resilience, disability, and rea...

🎙️ Episode 74: What If the Strongest Christian in the Room Needs Help? What if the strongest Christian in the room is not the person who needs the least? Tony flies solo for an honest look at how Christians define strength, dependence, weakness, and calling. Drawing from 2 Corinthians 12, 1 Corinthians 1, Mark 10, 2 Corinthians 4, and Hebrews 4, he asks whether our picture of strength has been sha...

🎙️ Episode 73: When School Feels Impossible: What Your Child May Be Trying to Tell You What if the morning meltdown is not the problem, but a clue to something your child cannot yet explain? Tony and Kristy talk through the mornings when a child is crying, shutting down, bargaining, complaining of a stomachache, or simply saying they cannot go to school. Instead of treating the refusal as the whol...

🎙️ Episode 72: Make Room Without Keeping Score Who do you invite when there is nothing in it for you? Tony and Kristy open Luke 14:12-24 and confront the hidden economy that can turn hospitality into a quiet exchange. They ask what it means to invite people because they belong, especially when disability, age, transportation, food needs, sensory needs, or accessibility make welcome cost more than...

🎙️ Episode 71: Are You Waiting for Wisdom or Holding On to Control?  Are you still gathering wisdom, or has preparation become a safer way to avoid the step God has already made clear? Tony and Kristy talk honestly about procrastination, uncertain outcomes, ADHD initiation, and the temptation to wait for perfect conditions. Grounded in Ecclesiastes 11, they examine the difference between wise plan...

🎙️ Unshaken Conversation: Cody Watson: When the Faith You Preach Becomes the Faith You Need  What happens when the truths you have taught for years become the only place left to stand? Tony sits down with pastor, father, and disability advocate Cody Watson to talk about the medical crisis that changed his family, raising two sons with disabilities, and the moment theology stopped being something h...

🎙️ Episode 70: Can I Fall Apart Here? What Love Requires When Someone Is Hurting What does someone need from us when their pain cannot be explained, fixed, or hurried away? Tony and Kristy talk about the pressure to say something useful when someone is hurting, how well-meant words can protect us from discomfort instead of caring for them, and what it looks like to offer steady, trustworthy presen...

🎙️ Episode 69: Your Child Doesn't Have to Fit In to Belong Has your child ever wanted friendship but seemed unable to find a place where they truly fit? In this episode, Tony and Kristy talk honestly about children who feel left out, struggle to make friends, or experience belonging differently because of disability, personality, communication, fear of rejection, or simply not having found th...

🎙️ Episode 68: When One Child Needs More: Helping Every Child Feel Seen and Secure When one child needs more time, attention, care, or support, how do parents help every child know they are still loved, seen, and secure? Tony and Kristy talk about the tension families feel when one child's needs are louder or more urgent, whether because of a new baby, disability, chronic illness, therapy app...

🎙️ Episode 67: Who Gets a Front Row Seat?: Choosing What Shapes Your Life What is shaping you right now, and have you given it permission to sit that close?  In this episode of Unshaken, Tony and Kristy talk about the voices, environments, habits, relationships, and everyday inputs that quietly shape who we are becoming. From childhood warnings about good company to adult realities like coworkers,...

🎙️ Episode 66: Leading Your Home Without Controlling It What does steady, Christlike leadership look like in real family life? In this solo episode, Tony reflects on Father's Day, spiritual leadership, and what it means to help build a home that is more faithful, peaceful, courageous, resilient, and rooted in Christ.  A title does not make a man trustworthy, faithfulness does.   🔵 For Deeper...

🎙️ Episode 65: What Makes a Family Feel Like Family: Why Family Culture Matters What makes a family feel like family when the ordinary routines, rituals, and values are easy to overlook? In this episode, Tony and Kristy talk about family culture, the quiet and loud patterns that shape a home, and what they have been learning as their households have come together in a new season. The small things...

🎙️ Episode 64: When You Need Community but Don’t Have the Energy What do you do when you deeply want Christian community, but the process of getting there feels exhausting? In this episode, Tony and Kristy talk honestly about the tension many people carry in church life: wanting to be known, needing community, and still feeling worn out by hallway conversations, small group sign-ups, uncertainty,...

🎙️ Episode 63: When Your Home Feels Like an Airport: Finding Peace in a Busy Family What happens when your home starts feeling less like a refuge and more like a terminal, with everyone rushing to the next gate? In this episode, Tony and Kristy talk about the pressure busy families carry when schedules, activities, responsibilities, work, school, and constant transitions begin to shape the emotion...

🎙️ Episode 62: Discipleship Is Not Self-Improvement: Becoming More Like Jesus What if the goal of discipleship is not a better version of you, but a life shaped more and more like Jesus? In this episode, Tony and Kristy talk about discipleship as something deeper than Christian self-improvement. It is not just behavior change, spiritual productivity, or finding someone to fix us. Healthy disciples...

🎙️ Episode 61: When Growth Happens in the Dark: Faithfulness When You Can’t See Change What do you do when you keep showing up, keep working hard, and still cannot see anything changing? In this episode of Unshaken, Tony and Kristy talk about the long middle seasons where faithfulness feels hidden, progress feels slow, and the numbers do not seem to match the work being done. Some of the most impo...