Unshackled Love: Parenting in Faith

How We’re Surviving a Crazy Busy Season: Sabbath, Discipline & Obedience (Parents of 9) Bruce and Kaila Payne introduce the Unshackled Love podcast, sharing that they are Metro Detroit teachers parenting nine children while building a family-focused ministry, producing podcasts and devotionals, remaking their website, and balancing seminary, multiple jobs, and parenting demands. In the midst o...

🔥 This one’s for the family fighting to hold it together and the believer clinging to God’s promises. Welcome to “The Journey of Yet.” In this heart-filled episode of Unshackled Love , Bruce and Kaila Payne dive deep into faith, parenting nine(!) kids, rebuilding after brokenness, and the power of "yet" - that sacred space between who we are and who God is calling us to be. From tantrum...

In this episode of the Unshackled Love Podcast Kids Edition, Bruce and Kaila Payne introduce listeners to three of their youngest children, Truett-Mac, Harvest Grace, and Wooden. The conversation humorously addresses the challenges the kids have with wearing certain clothes, tying it into a lesson from Exodus 28 in the Bible. Despite their mischievous tendencies, these kiddos love Jesus and their...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila smashed 6 kids into their small office to ask them about who their Bible GOATs (Greatest of All Time) are and what they would like to ask them when they get to meet them in Heaven (even if it takes them hundreds of years of waiting in line to meet them. But who cares when you have eternity, right?!)

After our serious conversation in the podcast, Bruce decided to lighten the mood with a little spontaneous Bible Trivia with the Teens. Listen in as Bruce puts them on the spot, asking them to sing songs, name the books of the Bible, and more. As we like to say, a little friendly competition is good for the soul. These few minutes together brought smiles and giggles, despite a sneaky wrong answer...

In this special episode of the Unshackle Love Podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne are joined by their daughters Zoe and Gabby, along with Gabby's boyfriend Gabe, to gain insight into their perspective on the climate of America today. The conversation covers the importance of their personal faith journeys, the role of parents in guiding their children's spiritual growth, and the moral and politi...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila Payne discuss the emotional toll of a challenging week marked by the commemoration of 9/11 and the martyrdom of Charlie Kirk. They reflect on the importance of unity and servant leadership, inspired by Simon Sinek's book 'Leaders Eat Last.' The conversation extends to the broader disunity in America, attributing current societal issues to a spiritual ba...

In this episode of the Unshackled Low Podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne discuss the challenges and necessities of parental control as children grow into adulthood. They share personal stories and biblical insights, emphasizing the importance of gradually releasing control and allowing children to develop independence. They illustrate this with Bruce's decision to let his daughters spend quality t...

In this episode of the Unshackled Love podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne share their journey as parents of nine children and how they manage the daily challenges of parenting. They discuss the importance of being firm, fair, and consistent in raising children, emphasizing the need to set boundaries and enforce consequences. The conversation covers practical tips, personal anecdotes, and biblical insi...

In this episode of the Unshackle Love Podcast, Bruce and Kaila Payne discuss the significance of intentional parenting through the concept of 'dating' your children, spouse, and God. They emphasize the importance of quality time, setting examples for respect and communication, and the spiritual connection that comes from dedicating time to God. The conversation highlights practical experiences and...

In this episode of the Unshackled Love Podcast, Bruce and Kaila dive into the concept of FOMO, or the Fear of Missing Out. As parents of nine children, they explore how this modern anxiety affects both kids and adults, fueled by the endless options and social media highlights. Join them as they share personal stories, insights, and a faith-based perspective on finding contentment and purpose amids...

We're back! Our first episode in over two years, and there is a lot to talk about, but this episode focuses on Radical Obedience and the importance of following when God is guiding us to uncharted territory or asking us to make a change in our lives. What change is God putting on your heart today in which you need to be Radically Obedient? Let's connect: linktr.ee/thelionslove

In this episode, Bruce is reflecting on Fatherhood and what it means to him. He invites you to their dining room table as all NINE little Paynes join the conversation to reflect on their favorite family traditions and give some honest feedback to their dad about areas he can grow. Scripture References: " As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila address their children's many accomplishments and the drive for wanting to be the best by giving your best and, as parents, the importance of having expectations for effort.  Scripture Citations “ A slacker’s craving will kill him because his hands refuse to work. ” (‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭21‬:‭25‬ ‭CSB‬‬) “ There is profit in all hard work, but endless talk leads only...

In this episode, to commemorate Mother's Day, Bruce and Kaila talk about the importance of the role of moms in a family, the impact their moms have made in their lives, and Kaila shares her purpose as a mom raising her children into adults.  Scripture Citations “About this time, a man and woman from the tribe of Levi got married. The woman became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She saw that...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila answer some of their most frequently asked questions by others and give a little bit of insight into their lives as parents of nine and how they have had to adapt to meet the needs of their family. FREE EVENT: Controlling your Chaos (Sign-up) [01:45] What kind of car do you drive? [04:09] Did you always want a lot of kids? [07:59] When do you get "you" ti...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about the busyness of their schedule and open up about the vulnerability that comes from being busy and tired, when you feel like you’re running on fumes and have very little to give. Life can weigh you down, but it doesn't have to if you keep your eyes fixed on Jesus who rejuvenates our souls.  Episode 10: Q&A Form [01:06] Intro: Busy Schedules [04:3...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about how they have shifted their perspective on parenting to reflect God’s love for sinners as they raise children who are being tempted by the devil and the cravings of the world. They talk about the importance of keeping your own spiritual walk strong, how to show God’s love and grace through patience and understanding, while making sure that we are being a...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila are joined by their 16 year old daughter, Zoe, to talk about how people use their words, including cursing and putting others down, but how God wants us to use words to build up others, share our testimony, and give life to those around us.  [01:27] Intro to Topic [03:24] Meet Zoe & talk about cursing [07:55] Accountability  [15:14] "Shut your mouth"...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about the importance of setting a personal growth plan so that we can reach our full potential as individuals, which allows us to pour into our children, helping them to grow into productive adults who value a growth mindset, create measurable goals, and value learning from mistakes.  [01:54] The Laws of Growth (John Maxwell) [07:35] Planning ahead [14:22] Ste...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila share their own Christmas message and a reminder that, regardless of the emotions felt during this season, Christmas is a time for redemption and a time for giving. As Bruce reflects on the story of Mary and Joseph, he shares of how God led the Paynes to Texas in an unlikely time and in unlikely circumstances only to bring blessings through faith and obedience.  [0...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila return, this week of thanksgiving, to offer their own thanks and talk about the importance of being thankful for all that God has provided for us, even in difficult times. Acknowledging the ways God is good allows us to have an attitude of gratitude, changing our perspective on current situations that may be bringing you down.  [00:42] Intro to Thanksgiving [02:57]...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about anger and discipline , the importance of controlling our anger as parents, how to stop taking things so personally, and leading your children to better choices through gentleness and kind teaching. Connect with the Paynes: www.growingpaynes.org [00:46] Intro to Anger [04:28] What gets under my skin (Kaila) [06:59] What gets under my skin (Bruce) [09:09]...

Connect with us! Check out the site! www,growingpaynes.org In this episode, Bruce and Kaila use scripture to define what unshackled is, what it means to us, and how we can show unshackled love as parents to our children. Music Intro/Exit: Unshackled by David Upton (listen on Spotify) Thanks Sabrina! [02:22] Definition of Unshackled [03:33] Unshackled Love for Bruce [07:01] Unshackled Love for Kail...

Welcome to the FIRST episode!   This project is the “ours” of the “His, Hers, and Ours” ministry that is “ Growing Paynes Family Ministry ” In this first episode, Bruce and Kaila take the time to introduce themselves, their family of eleven, and the ministry God has put on their hearts to make an impact in the next generation by growing parents to be the spiritual leaders of their families.  Bruce...