Unrelenting Pursuit

Is your marriage dangerous? The truth is, loving someone always involves an element of risk because your spouse has the ability to hurt you more than anyone else, and when you allow yourself to be vulnerable, and have true intimacy, it involves danger. But that danger is worth it! And we want to challenge you to start thinking of a dangerous marriage in a new way. We want you to start recognizing...

If you want to stay relevant in your life, you need to constantly seek knowledge. Are you being a willing student in your life? Do you seek to know more about your spouse, your kids, and most of all...in your faith? Staying relevant doesn't mean shifting your foundation, but WHEN YOU STAY RELEVANT YOU STAY RELATABLE. You allow God to reveal what needs to be revealed and you allow Him to use yo...

On today's episode we give some practical advice on what maintenance in your marriage looks like, not to be confused with maintain! Often we don't recognize that the daily intentional acts we do, or don't do, in marriage leads us somewhere. We challenge each person to ask themselves, "What is one thing I can do love my spouse better today?" We also want you to encourage you t...

We love sharing resources that will help your marriage and your healing!  On this episode we have Travis & Adelle, who are YouTubers, speakers, authors, content creators, and coaches, share their story. They are inspiring marriages globally who are walking through infidelity & betrayal, to learn a healthy way of healing, through foundational truths that help couples discover true love...

We try and share as openly on possible with every topic, and today's episode is no different. Join us as we discuss disciplines we have developed to help us handle triggers, our thought life, and we even discuss some current struggles we are navigating through.  We challenge you to memorize 2nd Corinthians 10:3-5 and learn to fight temptation as Jesus did. Follow His example and utilize the t...

Does being caught in sin vs confessing have an impact on whether there is genuine repentance? How do you truly know if someone is repentant? What does that look like? We talk about these topics and much more on this episode, and we encourage you to evaluate where your trust lies, and to listen to God’s voice over any and all others. Don’t move until He tells you to move, and if He tells you to mov...

We often hear from those who has been betrayed about the struggle between where their life started being a lie, and the reality that so many of their beautiful memories have been tainted through the lens of their pain.  On today's episode, we share unique personal insights into how this came to pass in our own marriage, and both the dangers and the necessity of compartmentalization.  We...

We are beyond honored to have Married for a Purpose Founders Greg and Julie Gorman with us for this episode. They firmly believe God holds a purpose for every married couple! They enjoy teaching and inspiring couples all over the world on how to live Purpose-Focused, Not Problem-Focused. Greg and Julie present a unique message, helping thousands of couples move forward, and we love coaching on the...

100 EPISODES!!!! Wow, what a journey. We want to give all praise, glory, and honor to Jesus for taking us each step of the way as only He can. We could never have anticipated what the past two years have held, and we look forward with anticipation to what God is going to do in our future. We couldn't be doing this without our family and are so beyond grateful for each of them, and for each one of...

We were so thrilled to have guests, Shawn and Helena Bonneteau, with us for this episode. They started Secret Habit Life Coaching in 2017 as a way to help couples overcome the harms of p*rn addiction and betrayal trauma. Since then, they have played a helping hand in transforming over 2000 relationships through their coaching services and podcast. Both Shawn and Helena struggled with an addiction...

Few people who follow Christ deny the power of prayer, but often we choose not to access it. Instead, prayer is often treated as a last resort, instead of a first step. We want you to evaluate what it looks like to go to God in prayer for everything. What would your life look like to go to Him FIRST? The reality is that prayer may not change your circumstances the way you like, but IT WILL CHANGE...

Surrender is not an easy process because the reality is that we all crave control, and we like to think we can somehow dictate outcomes. However, that is not the reality, and we all need to learn to surrender every area of our life.  We often don't consider this, but in reality we are all surrendered to something, and we need to choose what that is. You can choose to give it to God or you can...

WELCOME BACK TO OUR NEW SEASON! We get very personal on this episode and invite you into the details of our renewal ceremony at 15 years, and even read our vows that we spoke to each other. Find out why we believe legacy matters so much, and how we have seen how God has moved immeasurably more than we could ask or imagine in the past 11 years.  We also challenge each of you to look closely at...

In culture today, there is a mind-set of self-love, vs. what Christ calls us to, which is to be selfLESS.  We were shocked by several articles that stated the reason they chose to get a divorce is because of self-love. We see the continued trend of how culture is demeaning marriage, the value of it, and also giving it the appearance of it being simple to walk away from.  In fact, the lie...

It is so easy to come from a place of expecting God to meet us, instead of chasing after God. What is your posture towards God? Are you all in? Are you humble? Are you seeking? Is your heart hardened? Are you stuck on the sidelines? Your marriage is designed to be a team effort, filled with purpose, effective for the kingdom. You are meant to be better together, instead of being half of what could...

Do you know yourself? Do you know your spouse? Do you help your spouse know how to love you? Learning your spouse is an honor, a privilege you have for the rest of your life. You have the opportunity to grow individually, as a couple, and ultimately, in your walk with Christ. Don't take this privilege for granted, or expect it to remain if you choose to ignore it until you have "time" to invest. W...

A criticizing spouse is one of the key factors in divorce, but self criticism is also detrimental to the health of your marriage. On this episode we take a look at criticism, it's effects, and some tangible steps you can take towards growth in this area. We encourage you to pray and to begin to... See the Best Speak the Best Believe the Best These actions apply to both sides of the coin, and will...

Today we live in a world where truth is ever changing, and our kids are bearing the brunt of the ever shifting dialogue.  As parents... Are you preparing and equipping your teenagers?  Are you navigating the dance of both pushing them and pulling them?  Are you teaching them resiliency? Do you have the right expectations for them? Have you thought of the legacy you are leaving?&nbsp...

The difference between where you want to be, and the life you dream of living, are consistent steps in the right direction. Over and over we see that developing consistent disciplines in marriage is a huge piece of the puzzle in building a better one, and towards healing. It is determining to do what it takes as long as it takes, and not depending on motivation, but on purpose. Our biggest encoura...

Sexuality is one of the first places you can see the evidence of brokenness in a relationship. It holds great power to bring both connection and disconnection with your spouse.  God's design for sex within marriage is meant to be a beautiful place of intimacy that draws a husband and a wife closer to one another, where they can experience pleasure with one another, but this is an area of brok...

We often give people advice that they should follow peace but what does that look like? If you are feeling comfortable, does that mean peace? What does it look like to have a Godly peace that exceeds your emotions, understanding, and cirumstances? We dig into this topic on this episode and encourage you to never  get ahead or behind where God wants you to be.  “Don’t worry about anything...

This entire episode today is based off of a friend who left us a review. We wanted to address what it is like to be a part of the collateral damage when there is betrayed trust in a marriage.  Family and friends can either hinder or help in these situations. On this episode we give some practical advice on how you can help. Don't be a friend or family that helps numb the pain, but instead ena...

Mindset and Moving Forward are key to any aspect of your life if you don't want to become stagnant. On this episode we talk about specific things that we learned that allowed us, through God, to get out of the same cycle over and over.  Isaiah 43:18-19 “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.   See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am makin...

We developed guardrails and accountability the hard way. We didn't think about them, or develop them until our marriage was in crisis. At first, they started as a series of rules instead of a systemic way to approach life, but we learned how valuable they were in helping us head the right direction, and protecting what we value.  The truth is that guardrails and accountability will serve you...

Our story involves a lot of forgiveness....on both sides. On this episode we touch briefly on Lisa and what forgiveness looked like for her, but the focus is on Brad and his journey of walking through forgiving himself. Listen as he discusses the process that God brought him through and how that transformed the way he thought, and even looked at himself. He reveals how God eventually had him look...