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I met Anna 5 years ago when we both interned for James Franco’s Studio 4. I left LA while she went on to work for James Franco and experience the true hustle and bustle of the film industry. Fast forward to 2020. and just 10 months before our conversation, she had left her life in LA and moved to Louisiana to gallop racehorses! Why? Simply because it is a life that leaves her more fulfilled. And s...

Getting Sexual is now Find Your Sexy! In this episode, I explain why I decided to change the name of my podcast and re-launch under a new name. I also tell you all about my new “Sexy Workshops” that I will be hosting and how you can sign up. For more information visit www.findyoursexy.co or connect with me on Instagram @kelcyvalletta

In this episode, I sit down for a conversation with my friend, Bridgette Wynn.  Here are some topics she touches on: -Don’t forget about the black women. Keep saying her name! -What happens when your social media campaign and the “trend” is over? Will you continue to be an advocate? -The difference between being an ally and being an advocate. -What privilege means and the responsibility that comes...

I know last week I promised some exciting news and a big change to the podcast. But in light of what is happening around the country right now, it just doesn’t feel appropriate. So that will be postponed until a later time. Instead, I wanted to share how I am trying to do better and how I plan to bring you this important conversation. This episode is very short but I explain why I felt that was ne...

This week’s episode is a very special one… you might have noticed that there is no interview this week. This week’s episode is short and sweet. I am breaking the pattern. But just temporarily because there are some really exciting changes coming. For starters, this will be the last episode of Getting Sexual… BUT the podcast is not going anywhere!! Things are only ramping up from here. Starting nex...

In this episode, I tell you why you’re not always going to feel sexy and share why I haven’t lately. It’s short and sweet, but oh-so relatable! www.gettingsexual.com 

In this episode, Madie and I discuss body image, unhealthy eating habits/disorders, her experience competing in a Bikini Competition, and the importance of how you choose to talk to yourself.  Some key points are: [3:50] How her journey with self-love began. [7:45] Learning she had to fix her relationship with food so she could start loving herself and her body. [9:22] My experience having an eati...

I talk about [1:56] What is The Golden Circle? [3:20] How The Golden Circle mirrors the brain’s functionality and impacts our decision making, [5:56] How this relates to Find Your Sexy, [6:30] Visualizing yourself as a Golden Circle, [7:45] Is your WHY something you wanted or something someone else wanted for you? and [8:40] Become crystal clear on your WHY(s) in life. 

Dr. Zen talks with me about [5:50] The most common reasons she sees patients with sexual health concerns, [9:06] What is low libido, and how do you know if you’re struggling with it, and why? [10:00] It’s important to find a doctor you feel comfortable talking to about sexual health, [13:13] The 411 on birth control, what it does in your body, and how it can be related to low libido, [16:33] Commo...

I discuss, [3:35] all human beings have emotions and strive to be understood- no matter their sex, gender identity, or race, [4:45] the difference between conscious and subconscious emotions, [5:25] #1- Figure out what emotion you are feeling and verbalize it, [8:55] #2- Listen to your partner in return, [10:08] being vulnerable will help you and your partner both feel sexier in the relationship a...

Abby talks about [4:32] the first time she felt sexy, [5:43] how its hard to separate sexy from sex when you’re young, [6:59] realizing she hadn’t been living her truth until she was on her own after her divorce, [11:22] quitting her day job to pursue a career that fulfills her, [18:33] SEXY, [22:45] caring more about external opinions after starting her own business, [27:28] how setting boundarie...

I talk about [1:10] Meeting Dr. Morgan Francis, LPC [2:10] You have overcome uncertainty before. [3:16] How to know if you are being brave, [5:15] Why its more challenging to be vulnerable with ourselves than others, [5:55] Why we need to practice self- empathy, [6:42] How bravery, vulnerability, and empathy impact our SEXY, and [9:50] How you can encourage the women in your life to explore their...

Jazz and I discuss [3:05] the first time she remembers feeling sexy, [3:42] how growing up in a Middle Eastern household impacted her view of female sexuality, [7:10] realizing that she is worthy of love, [9:00] how therapy helped her take charge of her life, [10:55] she’s an INFP and needs space to figure things out on her own, [13:43] how practicing radical self-acceptance changed her life, [15:...

I talk about [2:30] what I’ve been doing at home, [6:20] experiencing feelings like a roller coaster, [7:50] how I feel about social distancing, [11:40] acknowledging people with anxiety and people who aren’t getting paid, [13:30] THANK YOU to all the people in professions who are working to help while we are at home! [16:30] why we are so fortunate! [19:00] the importance of practicing self-care...

Bridgette talks about: [1:20] having sexuality placed on her at a young age, [2:50] losing her virginity at 14 in a non-consensual experience, [3:10] wishing someone would have had a conversation with her about sex and being sexualized at a young age, [5:00] feeling shame and not wanting to talk about what happened to her, [5:58] the difference between relationship sex and empty sex (and knowing w...

I talk about [2:20] taking a “Stress Management” class in college after experiencing my first panic attack, [3:50] not knowing how to process stress, [6:40] what cortisol does to your body, [7:55] what dopamine does for your body, [8:29] how guilt relates to your sexuality, [10:00] what I did to start taking care of myself, [11:30] what I learned from setting boundaries and not feeling guilty abou...

Jade discusses: [1:18] what Reiki is and what it does, [2:28] feeling sexual before feeling sexy, [4:48] experiencing shame and how it affects your self-worth, [8:00] having a near-death experience during the birth of her third child, [10:20] working in Western Medicine and how her life shifted her to Eastern Medicine practices, [13:00] how watching a Burlesque show inspired her to explore self-lo...

I talk about [00:55] playing with Play-Doh (seriously), [2:40] being told what our Play-Doh, or our “sexy” should look like, [3:30] how do we make positive impressions on other women? [4:50] you are in control of the impressions you leave on other people, [5:30] 5 things you can do to leave a positive impression on the women around you, [13:05] it is easier for us to remember the negative impressi...

Alex talks about [1:35] having a hard time saying the word  ”sexy”, [2:45] becoming a Christian in high school and how it affected her feeling sexy, [4:45] being born without the lower half of her right arm and learning from a young age to be aware of her body, [7:30] experiencing cyber bullying, [9:45] how joining the church helped her confidence and find people like her in high school, [11:!5] b...

In this episode I talk about how [1:48] there are too many women who don’t feel worthy of feeling sexy, [3:20] why we are put into a box and labeled by society, [4:53] how to step outside your box and redefine yourself, [8:00] do you define yourself as Sexy? [9:15] we are all unique and all worthy just the same, and [10:12] how the word “sexy” has been put in its own box.

Corinne tells me about [1:50] how her husband has made her feel sexier than she ever felt before, [4:15] how becoming a new mother created a challenge for her to feel sexy with her husband, [5:00] loosing her mother catapulted catapulted her into depression, [5:40] why Oh La Lari was created, [11:35] visualizing a goddess helps her channel her sexy, [12:15] her SEXY, [13:12] her mom’s group gives...

In this episode I discuss [0:45] What I’ve learned from Cayla Craft of Mommy Millionaire, [2:05] “Your words create your reality,'“ [4:45] How Mandy Moore cultivated a sexy mindset, [8:40] The importance of declaring your truth right now at this point in your life, [9:27] Envision your future in the life that you want. Who is she? [10:15] Proof of needing to put in the WORK in order to reach...

Allie discusses: [1:05] the first time she remembers feeling sexy, [4:30] how a break-up fueled her to work out and create healthier habits in her life, [8:10] how staying active keeps her happier and more confident, [9:20] discovering her passion for lingerie and how it helped her discover herself on another level, [12:45] being comfortable I her body just the way it is, [15:35] how taking sexy p...

Kelcy discusses: [1:40] If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try, [3:25] You need community to help you grow, [5:10] How finding a community will help you find your sexy, [8:40] Five things to consider when thinking about creating or joining a community, [12:39] Choosing a community that aligns with your SEXY, and [13:45] Thank you for being part of my community!

Nicole discusses: [3:15] how her health affected her sexuality, [4:05] being diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes, [8:15] what made her finally begin to take her illness seriously, [11:50] how this affected her self-esteem and body image, [14:22] developing a toxic relationship with food resulting in a drastic weight loss, [21:30] checking herself into an eating disorder clinic and how that decision sav...