Unpacking Myself

The very definition of Intuition implies that it doesn't come from conscious reasoning but we sometimes feel pressure to justify and explain our decisions, and if we can't then we start doubting ourselves. In this episode I talk through the realization I had around the discomfort we need to embrace as we listen to our intuition and let it guide us. Just because we can't intellectually explain some...

So many people are interested in learning about themselves today - why they behave a certain way, where the behaviors came from. People are learning from therapy, books, courses, podcasts or even talking to friends, and this is definitely a step forward from past generations but we need to remember that the end goal is to learn AND implement, not just know. It feels good to find an explanation for...

A lot of our challenges in life stem from what other people do or don't do, say or don't say. How often is the pain or suffering in your life because of other people? I realized that I often set expectations of others that they have never fulfilled or have not been willing to fulfill so why am I being stubborn about my expectations? If the other person isn't capable of doing something at this poin...

From the outside procrastination may look like laziness but its more than that. There is a lot going on in the mind when we avoid certain tasks. In this episode I share what I noticed in others and myself when we procrastinate. Why do we do it? What happens inside to us when we do it and how do you stop doing it? I share my thoughts on all of this as I unpacked my own procrastination. Listen in! W...

I've heard one too many women mention that they struggle with being too controlling. I find it hard to believe that 90% of women out there are controlling. Where is this coming from? Why do we feel this way? Is it an unhealthy need for control or a necessity for the things we are responsible for? Do we have a heightened sense of self-doubt around this? Listen to this episode where I share a new pe...

Our mind should get an Oscar for the stories it can come up with. Sometimes those stories are excuses so that we can "excuse" ourselves from any responsibility or accountability for what is happening in our lives and the choices we are making in our life. It's easier when we don't have to feel the weight of the consequences especially when they are uncomfortable or undesirable. In this episode, I...

My birthday yesterday got me thinking and I want to share some of the realizations I had with you. I've always been intrigued by the varying range of reactions and emotions people feel during their birthday - some are happy and excited, some are depressed and sad, some hide under a pillow. Why is this? Why do we feel so many emotions around birthdays? I then asked myself a question that completely...

I tried out the Oculus goggles in the Metaverse this week. I was amazed at how immersed you can feel in this pretend, digital world but then you take the goggles off and boom, back to reality. What if we had the ability to do this with our lives. The moments where we are deep into the dramas of life, the pain of life, the emotions of life - what if we had the ability to just "take the goggles off....

We have all done it at some point - talked about other people to someone else. Sometimes it impacts us and we need advice or feedback, and sometimes it has zero impact on us and we still do it. What makes us want to talk about other people? Where does the desire stem from? Why do some people do it more than others? How can we be more aware and conscious even if we do it sometimes? I unpack all of...

Most of us have compared ourselves to others. It could be looks or money or lifestyle. Often times what follows is envy which can be a toxic and negative feeling if we allow it to. In this episode, I unpack why we even compare in the first place. Where did we learn this? And when we do and feel envious, how do we get past the negativity that emotion brings so that we can have a positive outcome an...

The word "self-care" has become more popular in the last 2 years than ever before. Why? What was the true intention of this term and encouraging people to do #selfcare? Have we strayed from the true meaning of self-care? Have marketing companies made us stray away from real self-care? In this episode I unpack all these questions that popped into my head last week. Self-care is needed and so good f...

Feeling conflicted about decisions is something most of us experience on a daily basis. Should I do this or not? Do I clear my schedule for this? Do I prioritize this? Do I say this or not? Our mind sometimes hurts from the back and forth. Oftentimes we look at the facts, the logistics or go with our gut but erring on the side of love is a great way to help ease the mind in making some of these de...

It can be hard to admit that you were wrong or that you don't know something. All our insecurities and feelings of not being good enough seem to come knocking as soon as you say these statements but that couldn't be furthest from reality. In this episode, I share an incident with my daughters on how this can manifest in day to day life and why it's so important to say these statements more.  Conta...

We all have our ways of protecting ourselves from pain inside - not in a physical sense but rather psychological and emotional pain. Our defense mechanisms can often be traced back to our life experiences, and our mind tells us that it's just trying to help us but what if the downside of this protection was less love flowing through our hearts and souls. Defense mechanisms are often rooted in a fe...

It's so easy to get impatient with our lives especially when we face rejection, failure and feel defeated. Our goals and aspirations can feel so distant and unachievable. In this episode, I reminisce about a time in my life where I had just graduated and couldn't find a job - I felt defeated and rejected but things ended up working out in my favor and more beautifully than I could have ever imagin...

It can be extremely damaging when we become too rigid in our beliefs and thoughts. Many people go through life tying their beliefs to their identity and so any change or threat to their beliefs becomes a threat to their identity. This is dangerous because it prevents us from evolving and learning and being better versions of ourselves. This week, I talk about how some current events highlighted th...

The goal is definitely no judgment but let's be honest, that is hard. Our mind takes on a life of its own when we are around people we don't know…making up stories, making assumptions. It's easy to let our mind take charge and influence our future interactions with this person but in this episode I talk through why I think we shouldn't give our mind this power. It's like the mind doesn't even know...

There are often times in our life where we are going through something or someone else is that breaks our heart but there isn't anything we can do to make it all go away. We start to feel helpless and lose faith. Those are hard feelings to deal with because at least taking action can make you feel as though you are working to change the situation. What do you do when you feel like there is nothing...

This week I share a practice that I started 3 years ago to help me notice things I was avoiding because of fear and to help me push through them. It's a simple yet powerful practice that we all should do throughout our lives to remind ourselves of fears we have tackled and keep us accountable for fears that we have yet to conquer. Check it out! Contact: unpackingmyself@gmail.com or Insta: @unpacki...

When we think of culture, we often think about the fun, flashy things - food, outfits, festivities but are we overlooking the more subtle parts of our culture? They way certain cultures behave, approach life, make others feel. There are parts of my Indian culture that fill my heart and soul up with love but it has nothing to do with the food or outfits or festivals. Lots of people want to keep the...

I often hear people wanting to say no more to lighten their schedules and make room to breathe yet they hesitate to do so. Who and what do you say no to? FOMO, obligations, hurt feelings… so many things cross our mind even at the thought of saying no. So what do we do - we just go with it? What if "saying no" was normalized and not a sign of disrespect but rather just a healthy way of living? In t...

Ever had a time where one moment, interaction, incident consumed all your thoughts and energy? You just can't shake it. This is what happens when we are too zoomed in and attached to a specific moment. We get consumed, attached and lose sight of everything else around us. In this episode I talk about how I learned to zoom out in life to feel more calm by gaining a greater perspective of life. List...

There has been a lot written about the ego - how to tame it, embrace it, notice it, etc. but James Redfield introduced a perspective in his book The Celestine Prophecy that blew me away. He takes the ambiguity away from tying our actions to our ego so that we can be more aware. Pleasing my ego sounds a lot less alarming to me than "stealing other people's energy," and that is what caught my attent...

At a young age we are correct for any behavior that may seem "inconsiderate" or "look bad." Unconsciously parents teach their kids to ignore their gut and heart and focus on the external cues and signs. So then we go into adulthood doing the same. We settle in one aspect of our life and then another. But our gut and heart are not to be ignored. They are guiding us to where we should be. In this ep...

Have you ever interacted with someone who loves their job? How do they make you feel? How do you feel about going back to that store or place of business? What about the person who hates their job? What influence does that person have on the entire environment, their interactions and the energy. This week I dive into a few experiences I have had as well as a personal story on what happens when we...