Unpacking Myself

Whether we realize it or not we sometimes pick and choose the parts of our life we want to show up for and put in the hard work for. For some parts - we might be intimidated by what needs to be done, we may not know how to tackle, we might be uncomfortable with the situation, so we avoid it. Purpose isn't about achieving money and career goals - its about tackling what life is throwing at you at a...

I recently noticed that our idea of who we are at this very moment may not be fully based in reality. Why is this? There is who we think we are, who we are in this moment and who we want to be. All 3 of these things are not always aligned. We are often transitioning between the old us and the new us. What happens to our idea of who we are during these periods? Spiritual teachings say "know who you...

Through my own experiences and hearing from many others recently, I realized that many people are being called to take a closer look at things they have been doing on autopilot for many years. Things that they dismissed, shoved under the rug and ignored, were now staring them in the face, forcing them to address it. People are being challenged to question their old ways of doing things. I felt thi...

Is it possible that we might be missing the point of being human if we do not allow ourselves to feel deeply? Why do we stop ourselves or judge ourselves when we feel things deep within our being? I wonder if the message that we shouldn't live in our feelings long enough to cause suffering somehow turned into not feeling at all, being stoic at all times, being even keel at all times. Some of the m...

These days "values" has become a word like many others that we sometimes casually and carelessly throw around. I recently realized its a lot easier to recite what our values are, than to defend them, speak up for them, walk away because of them. There are people who simply talk about values and then those who integrate them into how they live their life. In this episode, I talk about this realizat...

It's so easy to feel insignificant in this gigantic planet of 8 billion people but I don't think we would if we truly understand the collective energy that is at play in the universe. It may sound overwhelming or out of reach to think of a collective energy but in this episode, I break down what that means for me and how I realized there was such a thing as collective energy that I am actively con...

Everything our mind spews out isn't always true. Sometimes its simply to soothe us and make us feel better. It's goal isn't always to feed you accurate information but to rather make you feel better. In doing so, sometimes we become judgmental and critical of others when the relationship changes or when people don't include us. Rather than accepting that maybe the season for this relationship has...

One of the biggest challenges in relationships tends to be that they are not behaving in the way we expect. The question we fail to ask is - did their behavior change from the past or is it the same? Where did our expectations of them come from? Changing others is rarely the solution because, as we all have probably experienced, its not an easy thing to do. So what do you do in this situation? Com...

I recently did two of the most physically strenuous things I have ever done in my life and of course, I had a lot of realizations and unpacking that I wanted to share with you. From why you should do things outside of your comfort zone to the bonding that happens when you do hard things together to what true character means and so much more. You may not care about hiking for 15 hours like I did bu...

Its very easy to ignore our gut because of peer pressure, FOMO, wanting to be liked, expectations others have on us and many more reasons. When this happens we often make all our decisions just with the chatter and information in our mind but our gut, heart and body can be an incredible resource in helping us make decisions that are right for us and serve us better. The greatest benefit of learnin...

Out with the old, in with the new - sounds like a harsh saying especially if you are talking about relationships or people but depends on how you look at it. Many of us get attached to the things in our life - people, work, etc. and even when we have an inkling in our gut that we have outgrown these situations in our life, we don't let it go. We get complacent, we get FOMO, we get sheepish on maki...

I noticed over the past 5-10 years there was more content out there that was dark, serious, intense, and it was popular. What happens when we pause and notice how the content we are consuming, whether its movies, shows, social media or music affects our mind and overall energy. Yes, its just supposed to be entertainment but there might be a bigger influence on our overall well-being than we realiz...

The biggest job we have as human beings is getting as close as we can to being our authentic selves. Somehow the universe has a way of pushing us to be our authentic selves and shaking our lives up if we are straying. An important part of this is whether the people you are surrounded by are pushing to be more of your authentic self vs stray away. Do they make you feel insecure and make you feel se...

I heard someone say this line recently - that seeing the world solely through our minds might be the biggest issue humanity is facing right now. This caught my attention because it feels like it is getting to the crux of the many issues we are facing in the world today. I can spot moments where I'm leaning towards the mind more so than the heart - and the correlation to suffering and challenges is...

There are a lot of great things and a lot of change that happens in this world because of people who are passionate. Passion is a wonderful thing but passion can breed healthy involvement and also unhealthy entanglement. Both often appear to be the same on the outside but on the inside we can tell the difference if we pause to notice. When we go from entanglement to healthy involvement, we tend to...

 The power of female friendships is not a new concept but does everyone have that in their life? I think every woman wants it in their life but while it may be easy for some to cultivate, it isn't always easy for everyone. Its not a matter of luck, it often has more to do with what you are bringing to the table. There are certain things that are a must in order to cultivate deep friendships. While...

We all tend to play a certain role in most of our relationships or interactions - the nice one, the loud one, the understanding one, the emotional one, etc. I recently was thinking through what this was for me and realized that rather than seeing what I bring to the table as a strength, it was starting to feel like a burden. The whole "why do I always have to be the emotionally strong one?" In thi...

If we pause and reflect on our life, we all will notice something that has been the biggest blessing in our life. It's easy to get caught up in the noise of what we don't have or wished we had but knowing what the biggest blessing in your life is, not only brings more of it into your life but also serves as something to give you faith and hope when life isn't going your way. When I realized what t...

There are a lot of humans in this world that we come across and that means we may not always like everyone we come across, and because of that is born this idea of being disingenuous where we say one thing behind people's back and another in front of them. Not everything requires confrontation but what do you do when you find out about the things they have said behind your back? Do you confront it...

Almost everyone says they hate small talk but what they don't realize is that they are an active participant in creating "small talk." I'm not going to undermine your intelligence and give you specific questions to ask, to avoid small talk but I will tell you why we end up doing so much small talk and how we contribute. While a lot of people complain about small talk, I noticed that somehow I was...

Karma is a very complex topic and you can find a lot of in depth knowledge on this but on this episode I want to share how this past week, I used the principles of Karma to positively influence a difficult relationship in my life. After all, these principles are best when applicable to real life situations. I break down how to simplify and apply the concept of Karma so it can bring more peace into...

If you start watching self-help videos, the number of trends and things people say you should do is insane. Ayahuasca, intermittent fasting, infrared therapy, cold plunge, sunlight, saunas, waking up at 5am, meditating, journaling, walking 10,000 steps. It is impossible to do it all. A lot of the times the people who boast 3 hour morning routines are men or women who don't have kids or have grown...

This episode isn't about taking a nap in the middle of the day, but I'm a huge fan of that, if you need it :) Somewhere along the way, resting has gotten a negative connotation because of the fast paced, go-go-go world we live in but when we go through hard moments in our life like a divorce, health issues, failure, sometimes the rest is what helps get us back on our feet. The alternative of not s...

No matter how old we get, there is always a part of us that wants to feel the way a baby feels in a mothers arms - I'm safe, I'm protected, I'm loved. Basically that feeling of someone genuinely going "I got you, no matter what." Many people still get that from a parent but if not, along the way in our life we come across people who make us feel this, who make us believe in ourselves more than we...

What do you do when you just can't stop replaying an interaction with someone in your head because you wish you would've said or done something differently? So many times I have heard people say this is one of the things that keeps them up at night. I remember doing this in my 20's but this week I reflected back on what I started doing differently so that I don't get stuck in unproductive, replay...