Unmasked Dating

You’ve probably heard of attachment theory. Secure, anxious, avoidant... and then there’s us. The ones no one wants to date. The “fearful avoidants.” The disorganized ones. I’m one of them. And that episode is for you, to help you understand us (or yourself) a bit better. Check out: www.silbuch.de

Dating today can feel like a strange mix of hope, confusion and digital fatigue . In this episode, I share why dating apps never really worked for me, what I’ve learned from countless awkward dates, and how I’m navigating connections differently now. From Latin dance floors to language meetups, I walk you through the spaces that feel more natural to me when it comes to meeting people. No quick fix...

If you’ve ever felt too quiet, too sensitive, or too unsure to really connect while travelling, this episode is for you. In this episode, I share what helped me move from isolated and unsure to feeling deeply connected, even as an introverted traveller. You’ll hear about • How communication became the foundation for real friendship • How I choose people and spaces that actually feel safe • And wha...

I was never soft enough. Never graceful enough. Never “feminine” in the way the world seemed to reward. For years, I thought that meant I was failing at being a woman. In this episode, I open up about my journey to redefine femininity on my own terms, beyond the roles I thought I had to perform to feel a sense of belonging. I share moments of shame, confusion, rebellion, and quiet clarity. What do...

This one’s for the women who’ve ever felt the quiet confusion after a casual connection, hoping for more and getting less. In this episode, I share raw reflections on dating in Bansko's nomad scene: the hunger, the neediness, the red flags... and the moment I realised I was offering my body in hopes of earning real connection. It’s not about shaming men. It’s about seeing clearly. About callin...

This conversation changed me. I sat down with a Black American woman and a Korean woman to discuss what it’s like to navigate the world in our different bodies. We spoke about dating, stereotypes, safety, visibility, and how each of us has been shaped, sometimes praised, sometimes punished, for who we are. And somewhere in that space between our stories, I started to understand something deeper ab...

What happens when your dream of success turns into public pressure, online hate, and deep burnout? In this raw solo episode, I share the untold story behind my former business,  Be a Yogipreneur  , how I rose quickly, became visible in the german yoga and spiritual scene, and then hit a wall. I open up about the shitstorm I faced, the C-PTSD I was navigating, and how authentic relating and trauma...

“I don’t think the spiritual coaching world is healing most people. In fact—I think it’s hurting them.” The spiritual scene promises transformation, connection, and growth—and many of us come with open hearts, ready to heal. Behind the polished Instagram quotes and cacao ceremonies, there’s a deeper truth: spiritual bypassing, unspoken power dynamics, and a growing culture of emotional gaslighting...

Feeling awkward in social situations—even when you  want  to connect? You’re not broken. You’re likely just carrying a nervous system shaped by trauma. In this episode, I unpack why human connection can feel so  strange, scary, or overwhelming —especially if you've experienced emotional pain, rejection, or chronic loneliness. ✨ Learn how trauma impacts your ability to connect ✨ Discover why...

Have you ever felt unseen in a conversation—like the other person wasn’t really interested in  you ? 💭 Curiosity is the secret ingredient to friendships that feel deep, alive, and meaningful. But too often, we hesitate to ask real questions, assuming we already know enough or fearing we might overstep. In this episode, I explore: ✨ Why curiosity is essential for strong friendships 🔬 The science...

Why is it so damn hard to say no in friendships? Why do I feel like the bad guy when I set boundaries or walk away from a connection that doesn’t feel right? In this episode, I dive into my ongoing struggle with people-pleasing in friendships. Saying no, disagreeing, or even ending friendships – these are moments when my desire to be liked kicks in hard. I reflect on why setting boundaries is so d...

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself  why  you're friends with the people in your life? Are they there by default, or did you choose them intentionally? For most of my life, I didn’t think much about what kind of friendships I actually  needed . I connected from a place of loneliness, afraid to set boundaries, thinking that being a "good friend" meant accepting everything, even when...

Ever wondered what really happens at an Authentic Relating game night? In this episode, I take you inside my workshops, sharing not only the structure but also the deeper emotional layers behind them. From my own struggles with connection to the transformative power of play, I open up about what makes these nights so powerful. We explore why vulnerability is at the heart of real connection, how ou...

I almost didn’t record this episode. Not because I didn’t want to—but because I was afraid it wouldn’t be  good enough . For years, I believed I had to be  perfect  in friendships and relationships—to never make mistakes, never disappoint anyone, never show the messy, human parts of myself. But I’ve learned something life-changing:  Perfectionism doesn’t create connection. It kills it. In this epi...