Unlearning Patterns Podcast

Back in June, we stayed at a Getaway location in MN. It was a much needed break from our routines. As we sat by the campfire, we decided to record a quick episode with a couple questions that Charlotte has been wanting to ask Thony. We hope you enjoyed the sounds of nature in this episode! It's short & sweet. UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unl...

In this episode, we spoke with Sandy who is a beauty, fashion and lifestyle content creator. Sandy gave us the full scoop on what her journey has been like with content creating, how it impacts her mental health and her tips on how to start on social media. Sandy recently decided to not pursue medical school and shared how she came to that decision. We were inspired with Sandy's vulnerability and...

We’re saying hello as we say goodbye to our first apartment together. This change has been so bittersweet. You may have been here when we started living together (episode 9) and heard how challenging it was to adjust, we didn’t think we’d become so attached to it. As we laid on the floor of our apartment after hours of deep cleaning, we started reflecting on the last year here and decided to press...

In this episode, we reflected on our relationship with our fathers. Thony shared his understandings of his father and the similarities his parents share. Charlotte shared her amending relationship with her biological father and her realizations with her father who stepped in when she was only four years old. We reflected on our relationship as a child and how it changed as we became adults. We als...

In this episode, Ila Moua joins us in a conversation about serial dating, dating patterns, learning how to give and accept healthy love, how family impacts our identities, and living a shame free life. We also talked about Love is Blind and who we relate with the most. Reflecting on our past and creating awareness is such a powerful tool to have on our journey. When we know better, we do better! P...

In this episode, we explore boundaries and how we’re learning to set them. Boundaries are a big part of creating a healthy relationship. We were taught that boundaries are not for your loved ones, which isn’t true! It’s actually a great way to build a strong foundation of a relationship. Boundaries help us love each other the way we need. It creates connections and understanding of one another. We...

In this episode, we reflected on our relationship with our moms. Charlotte's mom had her young and was a single mother for a period of time. Thony's mom raised him in a traditional household. As we got older, our relationship naturally evolved. We've learned to humanize our moms by listening to their stories and seeing the many roles they play. We are grateful for the sacrifices they've made and f...

On this episode, Gloria Chavvez joins us to chat about all things healing, codependency, and being an introvert. Gloria is a mental health advocate and a Latinx creative that enjoys sharing perspectives that inspire and help others on their healing journey. We appreciate the time, stories, wisdom, and advice Gloria shared with us. This episode is just a glimpse of the amazing content Gloria makes...

In this episode, we shared what we’re trying to heal from and how it looks like for us. As a couple who are own their separate healing journey, we are still figuring out how we can support one another. One thing we’ve learned is to just meet each other where we are and respecting the differences we have when it comes to healing. Whether it’s giving each other the space to practice our self-care or...

On this episode, Mailee interviews us…. but no really, how did she turn the tables on us? Mailee is many things but what we love most about her is that she is unapologetically herself. Her raw honesty of the “ugly” sides of healing was a reminder to us that we never have it all figured out but it doesn’t mean we aren’t healing. Creating the awareness of the “ugly” is what helps us bloom. She made...

In this episode we reflected on the time we almost broke up. Sometimes the best way to heal a relationship is by taking the focus off the relationship and to start looking within ourselves. We spent a lot of time reflecting on how we contributed to the challenges and the work we need to do to heal our past in order to move forward. One thing we’ve learned is there’s not a wrong choice when it come...

Our first guest of 2022 is the one and only, Nakita Vang! We think you’ll immediately feel the warmth and honesty that she embodies. Nakita shared her experiences and reflections about relationships, self-love, single-hood, how we show up and much more. She also helped us understand each other more, something we didn’t expect but it just goes to show how amazing Nakita is. We hope you enjoy all th...

No more seasons, just new episodes every other Monday! In today’s episode, we discussed friendship. What kind of friend were we, did we consider ourselves a good friend, how are we redefining friendship, and what kind of friend do we hope to become? We hope you’ll give us grace as we’re still learning and unlearning what it takes to be a good friend to ourselves and others. Unlearning Patterns Pod...

In honor of our two year anniversary and season finale, we chose to answer some questions from our listeners! We hope you enjoyed this last episode of the season. Make sure you subscribe/follow so you’ll be updated when we come back for season two. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year from us! Unlearning Patterns Podcast Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Insta...

After a long break, we are back with a life update! There has been a few changes and we wanted to share how we've been processing them. Please remember that rest is not earned but something we simply deserve. Take time to rest and find gratitude for yourself. We're all trying our best and that's enough! Unlearning Patterns Podcast Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatterns...

This episode is your mental health check-in point! May is Mental Health Awareness Month and we hope you're doing well. We are discussing our opinions about Mental Health and sharing our personal experiences with anxiety and depression. Mental Health looks different for everyone and it's so important to respect other's needs and boundaries around it. Please continue to educate yourself on Mental He...

In this episode, we have on our first couple! Pheng and Barbara have been together for 14 years and have a daughter together. We are so honored that they allowed us to share their story with our listeners. Pheng also shared a passion and business he has started called Guerrilla Pastures . Don’t miss out on getting to know these two! Thanks again to Pheng and Barbara for being on our podcast. We ad...

We are back from our short break! In this episode, we are chatting about Adulthood. We have entered our “late 20s” and wanted to reflect on the pressures of marriage, kids, personal growth, the Hmong culture and more. As always, these are our own personal experiences and expectations. We respect that our listeners may not agree or understand. We just hope that by listening to our conversations, yo...

Welcome back! In Part Two of The Enneagram, we reflected on our partner's enneagram type. We also had conversations about what it's been like to work with Lynda and using the enneagram as a tool in our relationship. See below for links on how to follow/contact Lynda and for free enneagram tests if you want to learn what your enneagram type is. Episode Timestamps: 1:28 - what Lynda’s reflection of...

In part 1 of the Enneagram, you will be hearing from our first guest! Her name is Lynda YG and she is an enneagram coach. Lynda has helped guide us through our enneagram types and shown us how we can use it to better understand ourselves and our relationship. See below for links on how to follow/contact Lynda and for free enneagram tests if you want to learn what your enneagram type is. 1:14 - Who...

In this episode, we wanted to take this opportunity to be vulnerable and reflect on how the pandemic affected us. Thony shared how he lost a sense of self when he was unemployed. And Charlotte shared how she reached what felt like her rock bottom.  This pandemic has taught us how to be more empathetic and open minded while everyone is processing all the loss and the unpredictable future. As always...

Grab your cup because we are spilling the tea! In episode 2, we’re inviting you all to take a trip down memory lane with us. We shared our initial attraction, platonic friendship, why it took so long for us to date, and some conflicts we experienced as a new couple. You can find us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Also on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearni...

Welcome to our very first episode! Get to know who we are as individuals and a couple. You'll quickly learn that we have two very different stories, but it's really what has balanced our connection. We also shared our intentions with this podcast, which ultimately is creating a space for all of us to feel supported on this journey of unlearning patterns. You can find us on Facebook: https://www.fa...

We are so excited to start this podcast journey. You can expect to hear open conversations between us. We are here to be vulnerable and share our experiences that pushed us to unlearning patterns that were not helpful. Also the steps it took for us to star our growth and the growing pains as individuals and a couple. We hope by listening, you feel that you've gained validation and support on your...