Kat Lucido

Unlearn the hard way

Education EN ↓ 6 episodes

We are the byproduct of our environment. At some point, you either take ownership of your life or become a prisoner to your excuses. While it make sense that you learned to protect yourself the way you did, it’s also okay to unlearn. To question. To grow. To change. It’s on you to become the person you were never shown how to be. Maturity is unlearning everything that asked you to be less.

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Kat Lucido

Episodes

Unlearning Learned Helplessness 16.03.2026 9:50

Ever feel like no matter what you do, nothing changes? That might just be learned helplessness. Your brain is trained by past stress to expect failure before you even give it a try. This leads to weaponized incompetence. This is when someone does things poorly on purpose so others take the load. Unlearning Learned Helplessness is learning Learned Optimism. Action creates motivation. Use micro-acti...

Unlearning Conflict Avoidance 21.01.2026 9:59

Are you the "chill" one who swallows your feelings just to “keep the peace”? While avoiding conflict might feel safe in the moment like taking out a loan, in which you will pay it back later with high interest in resentment. In this episode, we unpack why trying to be the unbothered "Hero" inevitably turns you into the unpredictable "Villain," explaining how the &quot...

Unlearning your Fixed Mindset 15.01.2026 10:07

A Fixed Mindset Is Sabotaging Your Growth If you avoid new challenges because you're terrified of failing, you aren't alone and you aren't lazy. This mindset tricks you into believing that if you have to try hard, you must not be good enough. It forces you to prioritize protecting your ego over expanding your potential. In this episode, you’ll learn: How childhood compliments can sabot...

Unlearning Self-Abandonment 12.01.2026 10:14

What is self-abandonment? Why it starts and how it shows up in your everyday life. We deep dive on how growing up in unstable or emotionally unavailable homes can teach you to ignore your own needs just to feel safe and loved. You’ll learn the signs of self-abandonment. We talk about how to break this pattern. 🎧 Listen and unlearn the hard way

Unlearning the Fawn Response 11.01.2026 9:49

The fawn response is one of the 4 trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn . It shows up when we feel tension or emotional distance from others. It pushes us to people-please, over-apologize and fix things so we feel safe again. You will learn where this pattern comes from and why approval starts to feel like safety. You will leave with practices to start choosing yourself. You will learn...

Unlearning People Pleasing 10.01.2026 9:09

People pleasing teaches us to lie about our feelings, our time and our needs. We explore how it starts in childhood, carried into adulthood. We dive into why people pleasing feels so hard to stop and how it affects our peace, boundaries and sense of self. Unlearning people pleasing means checking in with yourself before responding. It means learning that discomfort is a part of growth. It means un...