Uniquely You: Enneagram + Real Life

If holiday plans feel like a pressure cooker of expectations, you’re not alone. We unpack how each of the nine Enneagram types walks into the season with very human hopes and fears, and how those hidden expectations can quietly sabotage connection when stress rises, plans shift, or emotions run high.  For every type, we share clear triggers to watch for, a simple grounding practice you can use in...

Ever wondered what it’s like to discover your Enneagram type in real time? Wendy sits down with Briana, a first-time test taker who lands as a Type Seven, and trace the exact moment optimism meets self-awareness. If you’ve ever kept your options open, reframed pain into a silver lining, or said yes to something exciting before thinking it through, Briana's story will feel familiar. Brianna br...

Fatima, a clinical psychologist from Kuwait, shares her journey from people-pleasing to authentic living and how she helps women reconnect with themselves after trauma and disconnection. • Discovered her calling to psychology at age 11 without understanding what it meant • Studied anthropology before completing a master's in clinical psychology at the University of Edinburgh • Specializes in...

Beneath the surface behaviors of each Enneagram type lies a profound emotional pattern the passion that influences how we see the world and react to life's challenges. These patterns operate largely unconsciously, steering our reactions and perceptions in ways we rarely notice. But within each of us also exists a virtue which is our authentic essence that emerges when we're grounded, pre...

Have you ever felt completely stuck in life, like you're trapped in a cycle with no way out? That overwhelming sense of stagnation where nothing seems to move forward despite your best efforts? You're not alone—and there's profound wisdom waiting in that uncomfortable space. Feeling stuck is universally human, yet we rarely talk about it honestly. We live in a culture that celebrate...

What if the thing you thought was wrong with you was actually a pattern shared by millions? For Kristi Rider, discovering the Enneagram was like finally finding a mirror that reflected back not just her perfectionism, but the hidden anger underneath it all.  From the moment she identified as a Type One, Kristi recognized the internal pressure cooker she'd been living in. As a mother of four c...

Chuck and Linda Lesem share their 37-year marriage journey and how discovering the Enneagram transformed their relationship by giving them a language to understand each other's patterns. Their story reveals how complementary personality types can create both challenges and beautiful balance when partners learn to appreciate their fundamental differences. • Chuck (Type One) and Linda (Type Two...

The Enneagram 9 pattern is often misunderstood as merely "easygoing" when in reality Nines have a complex inner world filled with untapped wisdom and power they struggle to access. • 9s often have difficulty defining their own characteristics and may assume others think and feel the same way they do • Self-preservation Nines can appear similar to 6s due to shared behavioral patterns • Ni...

The journey of an Enneagram Two reveals a fascinating paradox – an extraordinary capacity to sense others' needs paired with a profound disconnection from one's own. This conversation with Molly Knutson-Keller takes us deep into the world of "The Helper," where we discover how mirror neurons create heightened empathy while simultaneously masking personal needs. Molly shares her...

What if the key to saving your relationship isn't trying harder, but seeing deeper? Relationship psychologist Tracy Baker-Lawrence reveals how our unconscious patterns can either destroy or transform our closest connections. After witnessing countless couples on the brink of divorce after decades together, Tracy developed the DNA method – a powerful framework that examines each couple's...

Join me for a Life, Family, Business, and Podcast Branding Update! I'm transitioning this podcast from "Your Enneagram Friend" to "Uniquely You: Enneagram and Real Life" to better reflect the blend of content I want to share with you. The new direction will expand beyond pure Enneagram teaching to include diverse topics and guest experts while maintaining the Enneagram ins...

In this episode Wendy and Molly dive into the head PDP's of the Enneagram, unpacking the complexities of the subtypes of five, six, and seven. We discuss how fear drives their behaviors and the significance of understanding these nuances for personal growth and deeper connections.  - Overview of Enneagram subtypes and their importance  - Self-preservation five: the need for privacy and contro...

Explore the transformative power of the Enneagram with Milton Stewart (Type SP 7) as he shares his experiences, teachings, and insights. In this episode Milton and I talk about self-preservation Seven, techniques for managing energy, overcoming emotions, and the impact of continuous improvement on personal and organizational growth.  • Milton's journey discovering the Enneagram  • Managing hi...

Uncover the secret: How to transform from a people-pleaser into a confident boundary-setter with Elizabeth Stranzl, an insightful boundaries and relationships coach. Elizabeth, once a school psychologist, shares her personal journey and professional insights, offering listeners a fresh perspective on the power of setting boundaries. Discover how coaching differs from therapy, providing a direct ap...

Ever wonder how a career shift could transform not just your professional life but your entire worldview? Meet Therese Fitzpatrick, a mental health therapist from Chicago who made a remarkable transition from a 25-year tenure as a U.S. probation officer to a fulfilling role in therapy. Her journey, interwoven with her Irish Catholic upbringing and values, offers profound insights into parenting ad...

Discover the transformative power of the Enneagram as your personal roadmap to self-awareness. Join me, Wendy Busby, on "Your Enneagram Friend" podcast, as I unravel the complexities of this intriguing personality system and address the 10 most frequently asked questions.  Here are the questions I answer! 1. What is the Enneagram? 2. What are the nine types or numbers? 3. Can my Enneagra...

Unravel the complex world of Enneagram subtypes with us as we journey through types 2, 3, and 4 in this enlightening episode. Ever wondered how individuals of the same type can behave so differently? Wendy Busby and her insightful teaching partner Molly Knutson-Keller help crack this enigma wide open by exploring the hidden layers added by instinctual drives: self-preservation, social, and sexual....

Ever wondered if a midlife transition could be more of a rebirth than a crisis? Join me, Wendy Busby, as I chat with Nevada Lane (Type SP 3) on Your Enneagram Friend Podcast. Nevada talks about the often misunderstood midlife phase, not as a crisis but as a crucial stage for reevaluating life's priorities and personal identity. This episode is brimming with insights that could illuminate your...

Imagine discovering a tool that not only helps you understand yourself but also transforms your marriage. That’s what my husband Josh and I experienced with the Enneagram. Join us on "Your Enneagram Friend" as we unravel the intricate dance between a Type Nine and a Type Four, sharing heartfelt stories from our 23-year journey. From Josh’s revelation of his conflict-averse Type Nine tend...

Ever wondered how the Enneagram can offer even more nuanced insights into your personality? Join us on Your Enneagram Friend podcast as we delve into the fascinating world of Enneagram subtypes with Wendy Busby and Molly Knutson-Keller. You'll learn why the Enneagram's 27 subtypes provide a richer understanding of human behavior. This episode is part 1 of our 3-part series on Subtypes. I...

Ever wondered how somatic practices like breathwork can transform your life? As a breathwork facilitator, Courtney provides insights into the power of integrating body awareness with mental and emotional insights. We discuss how understanding Enneagram types can revolutionize personal and professional relationships by fostering empathy and effective communication. We challenge the cultural tendenc...

Ever wondered how the Enneagram can transform your understanding of yourself and your relationships? Join me as I sit down with Eric Scherrer, who shares his enlightening journey as a Self-Preservation Type Three!  Eric offers a candid look at the pressures and anxieties faced by a self-preservation Type 3, including the constant balancing act of striving for success and maintaining financial secu...

Ever wondered how understanding your dominant Enneagram instinct could transform your everyday life? Join Wendy and Molly as they unpack the intricacies of self-preservation, social, and sexual instincts. Discover how our self-preservation instincts influence everything from home organization to financial security, through our personal stories and anecdotes. We also delve into the fascinating conc...

Ever wondered how the Enneagram can transform your life and career? Join Wendy Busby as she sits down with Hans, a fellow Enneagram Type Four, who transitioned from the high-stakes world of law and banking in London to a rewarding career in life and career coaching. Hans shares his heartfelt journey from growing up in Germany to discovering the profound insights of the Enneagram during a coaching...

What if you've spent years believing you were one type of person, only to discover you were something entirely different? Join me as I sit down with my dear friend Mary Shaw to uncover her Enneagram journey. Mary was first introduced to the Enneagram in the early 2000s but was mistakenly typed as a Six. This misidentification led to years of confusion until she finally sought accurate typing...